Wow! Thank you so much
for all of the replies, mamas. I really, really appreciate them. This has been such a tough decision for me because I haven't been home for a year and a half and am really missing family. My family lives about 2 hours north of my in-laws and so I would get to see my mom and new-and-improved dad at the same time as well as a pile of my brothers and sisters.
But honestly, my intuition is telling me to stay home and enjoy the peace and quiet for 12 days. Just like Crispie said, "oh the sleep I would partake in would be scrumptious!" And I wouldn't have to worry about feeding small people...I could just lay in bed and nosh on my granny smith apples and snap peas, the only things I can keep down.
To answer a few of the questions: Yes, I have gotten meds from my ObGyn. Zofran takes the edge off but leaves me with a massive
2-3 day long headache. Phenegren (sp?) made me have muscle spasms in my quads and didn't even touch the nausea.
I am pretty sensitive to any medications/side effects of any kind but I was hopeful at least one of these meds would help. I have tried acupuncture & it helps a bit for 3-4 hours. What I have found to work the best for me is to lay in bed with the curtains drawn, curled up in the fetal position. And no noise. Even noise makes me toss my cookies!
I think my SIL would be understanding, but I never know with her. Somethings she takes so personally but others she doesn't...who knows. I think if I called her and explained the situation to her personally, she would be understanding. She just had a baby last year and so I think she would be sympathetic. Hmmm...now that I think/write about it more, I am certain she would be. Disappointed but not offended 'specially since her brother can still walk her down the aisle.
And I have wonderful neighbors - I think I have an angel of mercy living next door to me! I have lost track of how many times she has brought us dinner over the last couple of months. She has even cleaned my house for me a couple of weeks ago. Handily enough, she is also a nurse and so she is constantly checking on me to make sure that I am staying hydrated and that my blood pressure isn't too low. The church I belong too also has an amazing woman's organization and I know one phone call to the President would insure that I had people checking on me every day.
Thanks again ladies for helping me clarify things a bit more. It is reassuring to know that I am not just being over-reactionary in this situation. I think honoring my intuition to stay home, as hard as it might be in this case because I am having a major case of homesickness, is the right thing to do.
Smooches and hugs to all of you for your insight and wisdom!