I too have had a loss (several actually) and one at term. We had the entire room set up for her. Our parents flew out to CO to be with us and I had my mom and my friend remove EVERYTHING from the room. When we got home from the hospital, there's was nothing left. I wanted it that way. I didn't want to have to do all that myself and be sad all over again.
So when I was pregnant with B we waiting unil 20+ weeks to buy anything for him, after we knew he was a boy etc. This time I started buying stuff around 18 weeks or so, but not before. I just feel like I can't live life being scared like that, and I already love this little girl so much that if I see something I want I get to make ME happy.
I'm scared, don't get me wrong, but I need to be happy too.
Tenk ~ happily married with lots of kids