Our boy name - Rhys.
Our girl name - Maybe. Yep, Maybe.
Screw anyone that doesn't like either of them, we LOVE them.
Also, my ds's first name is Cullen. We stumbled on it flipping through a baby name book when I was pregnant with him. He's Cully or Cullen to us. The problem is that we named him long before I had even heard of the Twilight books (if you are familiar, you know what i'm talking about). I had never even heard of the books until summer '08. Now, everyone assumes that I named him after the freaking Cullens. Um, no.
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It fascinates that so many people believe what other people choose to name their children is any of their business. Accept when specifically asked, I think it's rude to criticize, or suggest alternative names. Go have your own kids, name them.
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If we were having a son, that would for sure be on our short list.
As for androgyny, its not your problem if its become trendy in the past 5 years or so to name girls with boyish names.
River is a strong male name- yes its from nature- but rivers can be rough and wild and run deep. What a great way to think of your little man.
I in addition to thinking of River Phoenix and the Weezer frontman, think of the actress Keri Russell's young son as well as several young boys we know.
I can only think of one female identification with this name...the character River Tam in the series Firefly but so what?
Our son's name is in the same vein...not overly popular, not too weird but a name in nature that occasionally gets co-opted for girls. We love our son's name though and yet I remember when my MIL voiced her opinions on his name. She tried to offer us other options and said it was an odd choice. Later on she liked it. But honestly, she is older and a conservative woman so of course her naming style would be conservative/boring in our eyes hence it didn't bother us.
She doesn't like our baby girl's name either so we know we have a winner!
I would not lose sleep over this lady's unsolicited comment but I would have to write her back and address the rudeness.
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I know a boy River who is 1 year old, home waterbirth.
Ignore your friend's rude comment.
i love both of your names. in fact River Sky is one of my most fav names ever! i truly think name are one thing before a baby is born and another after. my SIL named her baby Sawyer and i was not totally in love (NEVER said anything other then positive to her) with the name, but now he is born and Sawyer is SOOOO his name. now i love the name and its perfect for him!
s and the good new is their your babies so you get to name them whatever perfect names come to you!
i dont know why anyone would feel the need to say such harsh words ... as michelle would say on Full House "how rude"
my SIL named her baby Sawyer and i was not totally in love (NEVER said anything other then positive to her) with the name, but now he is born and Sawyer is SOOOO his name. now i love the name and its perfect for him!
We even had family members sending gifts to Will I played dumb and send them back saying I though they must have mixed up their parcels
Also, I think people can be so rude cuz they would NEVER say that (to your face) after your baby is born but they think it's okay to say while your still preggers. They see babies in utero as abstract and don't even realize that once you have a name picked out, that THAT is the baby inside and will be the baby outside. It's why I don't bother announcing our name until the baby is born.
If this person who said that is family or close to you I would just say "I'll make sure to let River know what his aunt/uncle/grandpa/etc think of his name after he's born."
I also just read some research talking about how people prior to 1950's would all want their kids to be names that were common and easy to spell so they "fit in" (so like the top 10 boys names made up a huge percentage of the names...like 5% of the kids were named John....so you'd have 1-3 John's in your class of 30 kids) and nowadays people want their kids to stand out, be individuals, not blend in sheeple etc (so the top 10 names only make up a small percentage now...Jacob only being like 1% of the names even though it's #1...so you'd have 1 Jacob in 3-4 classes of 30 kids). So if this person who commented is older, they may have that belief that kids should blend in and you can hold in your heart that you don't have that belief and so you don't need to take their comment seriously.
So sorry, please disregard her rudeness and proceed with your heart. I think your names are lovely.
* If they only knew we didn't vaccinate our kids the name thing would be such a mute issue, LOL.
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We really like gender neutral or boyish names for girls though... DD is Riley Ann. I'm having strong boy vibes this time around so most likely it will be River James. I say 100% go for it - how cool will River/Riv be in high school with a name like that? I love it. It's strong and unique but not too unique and I guarantee no problems with spelling (well, there is always one person out there who can't spell *rolls eyes* but in general).
Anyhoo - it is YOUR child - you get to name him. And seriously, if he grows up and absolutely hates the name River, William is a nice name with lots of nicknames/variations too.