Are you using a pacifier and breastfeeding or not? I'm really trying to decide if using one is the right decision right now.
I have three kids. With my first baby, I breastfed him and he also used a pacifier. No problems, weight gain was fine, no problems with nursing, and he nursed for 2 1/2 years and gave up the pacifier a few months later. He was a super easy, happy baby and slept through the night with the binky at 4 months. I'd gladly to this all over again because we so totally enjoyed him.
With baby #2, he was a boob-a-holic and would never take a pacifier. By this point, I had started to realize some of the problems they cause with nursing, etc...because I was going through training to become a breastfeeding counselor. So I was thrilled that he didn't take one and was happy without- although he didn't sleep through the night until he was 4 and was an extremely high need baby. It was VERY hard on me to be his only comfort because I could not leave him, ever, for almost 2 years. His babyhood was a blur, and really rather traumatizing for me. Not that a binky would've change that, but who knows.
Now we have baby #3, who is 2 months old. For the first 5 weeks she had no artificial nipples at all, but also around 5 weeks old she became extremely fussy, especially in the car, so we bought a "car binky" which was a lifesaver. Then my husband started using it to comfort her when I was showering, cooking, etc...because all she would do is scream when he had her. In fact, she had started screaming most of the day and we were getting really frazzled. She's almost 9 weeks now and for the last few weeks I've noticed we've been using the binky more and more, and we've had a much happier babe. I've also eliminated dairy, given gripe water, and given her probiotics to try and help her fussiness- but nothing is really working. However, I HATE the binky and I want to throw it out the window, LOL!
What would you do? Happy baby, longer naps, happier parents, happier brothers...or angry pissed off baby who cries all day even when she's being held or in the sling or nursed with upset frazzled mama? Ugh! I hate this choice...but the last week she's been fussy at the breast so I'm concerned that its interfering with our nursing- however, I am a sleep deprived mess and have no desire to take it away and start over right now. I just hope some others might have an opinion to help me decide what to do!!!
Jessica- married to David- parenting our 3 monkeys- DS #1 (age 7) DS #2 (age 4) and a brand new DD (born 5/10/10)