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#1 of 29 Old 01-11-2010, 04:30 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Had some bleeding and went to check. No heartbeat. Nothing.

I am devastated. This was a natural, spontaneous pregnancy after 6 years of trying/fertility treatments. We had given up and fostered three kids for longterm foster/adoption. This LO was such a lovely surprise.
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I'm so sorry.

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I am very very sorry.

Please come to the pregnancy loss board here at MDC when you feel up to it. It has been a lifesaver for me this past year, when the bottom of my world dropped out.

Mom of 5: dd (10), ds (8) & dd2 (4), my sweet baby son born still 3/2/09, and celebrating the arrival of our dd 5/7/10.
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Did you go to the ER or did you check yourself? Any chance the LO is hiding?? I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It just doesn't seem fair.
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I'm so very sorry...

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I am so sorry. Take care of yourself.
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I am so sorry. We have lost so many in this DDC. I am so sad for you. Please take good care of yourself.

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I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.

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Much love and thoughts with you.

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🐢🐢A new little turtle is about to join our crazy part of the ocean!!!🐢🐢
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I'm so sorry green.


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I am so sorry.
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Green23 I am so sorry for your loss, and after all you have been through, so very sorry!
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Oh man, I am so sorry

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Hi again,

Thanks for all the messages. The ultrasound was pretty conclusive. Even I could see that what was a baby with moving arms and legs and a visible heartbeat at my 12w U/S was now just a blob with no heartbeat.

Telling our kids was very hard. The two oldest girls (8 and 6) were sooo upset. The littlies (3 and 4) didn't really understand. So we have been drawing and writing stories to deal with all the strong emotions. Hardest thing is dealing with everyone else who knows.......

Moving over to the pregnancy loss board...

may you all go on to have wonderful pregnancies, easy births and happy and healthy babies.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.

Tiffany, loving wife to Matt, Mommy to Samantha (10/99), Tevin (8/04), Cadence (6/08) and babymooning with our sweet little Lauren 6/24/10
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I am so sorry for you and your family How devastating especially after all those years.

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I'm so sorry for your loss.

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I am so sorry.

mama to 4 kiddos, wife to one awesome man!  DH of 13yrs, DS 5/01,dd 5/05, DS 3/08, DS 6/10
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im so sorry

Shelly, Mom to Sophia 5 Nicholas 3 & 2 Angels
Its a GIRL! Alyssa Ann 6/29/10 7lbs 5 oz
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I am so very sorry. How devastating. Be gentle with and take good care of yourself.

Katherine mother to DS 8/03 and DD1 9/06 and DD2 6/10
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you and your family have valuable and quality healing...

Joanna, 6 years married to DH, Mom to 3-1/2 yo DS Owen and DD Taylor, born 6/14/10 by unmedicated
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I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to be on the wrong side of the statistics and the pain it brings. Sending vibes of healing to your family...

Mama to my beautiful Ana Carolina (2/07), Isabel Cristina (6/10), and #3 on the way in August 2013!

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i'm so sorry

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I am so sorry for your Loss sending you hugs. The pregnancy loss board is a great support take care

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I am so so so sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Best wishes.

Shelly (34), mumma to H (01), C (03), and M (05), and A (10).  Crunchy, co-sleeping, cloth, babywearing hippy!!
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