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#1 of 12 Old 04-09-2010, 09:47 PM - Thread Starter
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Can I just really moan for a bit?

This pregnancy plan ole sucks. And I'm in the Bahamas right now The baby is up against my ribs causing tear-bringing pain at least half the day, and I've got pelvic displacement so getting in/out of bed to pee 100 x a night is like someone stabbing me in my vagina.

My first pregnancy was so easy breezy [there was discomfort obviously, but not THIS] and I'm just SUFFERING. I can't walk very fall, I can't get on my knees and plan my garden, I can't do anything without just regretting it. And the chest/rib pain OHHH THE PAIN.

And the worst part is there's a few months left. How the HELL am I going to make it that far? Chasing a toddler? Prepping my house? Trying to get ready for my first home birth?

I'm sorry for all the ranting, it just..it hurts. And no one gets it - even my mom friends are rolling their eyes at my pain but it's so real and so uncomfortable.

Does anyone else just feel like this is it, you need to give birth NOW

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#2 of 12 Old 04-09-2010, 10:04 PM
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I don't have it as bad, but yeah, I get it! I'm so tired of being pregnant today. Hemorrhoids, exhaustion, pelvic rest, partial bed rest due to placenta previa. And an ACTIVE little baby who seems like he's trying to rocket out the front of me! Ouch, kid, keep your feet to yourself!

Then I feel guilty for feeling irritable, because my child is healthy and it's a temporary (though major) discomfort.

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I so feel you. I have every discomfort in the book, it feels like (I know I don't, it just feels like it). It seems like, every day, I wonder how I'm going to manage to keep going another day.

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to you ladies. I can totally sympathize with the lack of mobility, pain, and the baby that almost never stops moving. I hope your hubbies are taking good care of you and that time goes more quickly.
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I am in nowhere near that level of pain, but I can sympathize a bit. There are days where just walking across a room makes my pelvis feel like it's going to rip in half and/or starts BH contractions which are really just irritating. dd1 was in my ribs all the time. I actually had a visible bruise on the outside of my ribcage for weeks after I'd given birth.

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I am not at that level of pain and hope you get some relief. I was wondering today though how she manages to sit so high in my uterus. Why doesn't gravity pull her down a bit? I can hardly breathe and have to sleep practically sitting up. I have this vision of her holding onto the umbilical cord hanging from the ceiling of my uterus and pushing with her feet to hold her up high.
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#7 of 12 Old 04-10-2010, 11:58 AM
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I'm not in that kind if pain/discomfort this time but have been in the past-situations where I didn't know how I was going to make it to the next morning, let alone months. Only piece of advice is to not even think about weeks or months ahead. Truly, take it one day at a time, one hour if need be. Thinking of all the time and tasks that lay ahead of you can overwhelm and depress you. Just work on one small thing at a time, one little task. Eventually all those small steps will get you to June and a baby. I promise.

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I can't believe how much discomfort I am in for only being 29 weeks! I don't know if the pain is as bad as yours but by late afternoon I am dying. I've got back pain & pelvic pain way more than anything I've experienced before. My first and second pregnancies... single then twins, were SO much easier than this one. This one has been difficult from the start. Yes, I am so ready to be done!! I've got my fingers crossed for delivering at 37 weeks, I know, that sounds awful but my son came at 37 weeks and I delivered the twins at 36 weeks. I've never carried to 40 before, but seeing as how NOTHING has gone according to plan this time I bet I will carry to 41 weeks and then have to be induced or something.

Sad you can't enjoy your amazing Vacation And you were so excited for it! It is extremely annoying when others minimize your pain!!

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Me too Me too! My baby has grown in the last day or so, or moved up, or something, so that everything I do leaves me out of breath. It's so annoying and wierd because I am always on the go. Even at a meal I am up 10 times getting something for one kid or another and I huff and puff! I feel like the most out of shape person ever.
And the pain! I get back pain on the right side of my upper back every pregnancy, usually kicks in later in the day and it kills like a knife in my back. And I hate getting up from sitting or lying down...I could go on and on. I am beyond thrilled to be pregnant and having a baby, don't get me wrong. But you do forget the effort and toll it takes on you. I can't really believe I have 10 more weeks to go - and I tend to go beyond my due date!

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I can totally sympathize. My dh is doing everything and i feel sooo guilty. But what get's me through is just making it through one more day. I don't want a preemie and i'm having this pain for a reason, maybe it's a bigger baby and needs me to spread more? At least that's what the rational side of me keeps repeating OVER and OVER to myself. The not so rational side isn't so sweet and is very miserable.

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I had unbelievable pain with #2 in my pelvic area. It started when I was around 4-5 months pregnant. I attempted to get out of bed one morning, my pubic bone 'popped' and I though I was going to dye!!!!! For the rest of my pregnancy IT WAS HELL! The pain became so severe that I could *not* roll over in the bed from side to back, back to side!

I can tell you that sleeping with the biggest pillow between my knees helped quite a bit! Also, I cannot stress enough, CHIROPRACTIC adjustments are a must! They will help with the pelvic pain quite a bit!
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I had a crying breakdown on our way back from church about how I can't do this for 8 more weeks. My 3 year old had been acting out all morning and I have not been getting nearly enough sleep. I'm exhausted, but I toss and turn for hours before I can fall asleep then I'm up peeing 3 or 4 times a night. I think I'm just getting to the point where I'm uncomfortable laying down. Thankfully I've been able to keep my heartburn under control with a steady diet of Tums.

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