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I have notoriously loooong labors (shortest being 12 hours with number 3) With the other kids, I lived within 20 min walking distance from the hospital..now I live an hour away with no traffic. We are car-free so my mom is taking us..she lives about 40 min away..so thats about 2 hours travel time from here to there. My mom has made it adamantly clear that I cannot have the baby in her car lol, SO how long would you wait to get on the ball to the hospital? Ive heard to wait to go in until the ctx are 3-5 min apart, But with my last one my ctx never got closer than 10 min apart and when I got there I was 7cm dilated and delivered in 3 hours so that isnt much help to me.

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All I can say is go when you think its time. Trust your instincts.

With DD, when I got to the hospital my contractions werent very strong and were still far enough apart that I was questioning if I was really in labor but somehow I knew I had to be there, she was born 3 hours later.

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ddc from july.....if i were in your shoes and it were important to me to definitely make it to the hospital, i would err on the side of getting there early. once you are there, you can always labor at a nearby park or in the car or in the parking lot even if you feel you have arrived too soon. otherwise, if you don't mind the possibility of a car birth, wait as long as you want!

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I agree with getting there early...Better too early than too late right?! Once you feel like it's really time, then just go. Your instincts and body will def. let you know when your having real contractions. Since you said the contractions are really far apart with your previous pregnancies, once you start having the feeling that they're real ones, get things rolling and call your mom or take care of things around the house before you leave. Each pregnancy and birth is different so who knows, maybe you might get lucky and have a labor that's alot shorter than your previous ones. Since your mom has to drive to get you AND THEN you have a whole 1hr still to go (and that's depending on traffic) that's a bit of time killed right there. And like the PP said, if it's still early you can always do some walking near the hospital.

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OMG! I'm glad I'm not you, I would be spending my life in the hospital parking lot! If you let your OB know your situation I bet that you will be given a different time line than the 511 method. Last time I lived 45 minutes away so when I showed up four cm dilated at my 36 week appt he didn't ever send me back home!

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What was it that made you go in last time? I mean, not to be snarky, but surely you weren't just driving past the hospital and thought, hey, let me go in and get checked and see if I'm dilated?

There must have been SOMETHING about those contractions, even every 10 minutes, that gave you a heads up to say, hey, this might be the real deal. You know?

I think if you tap into that, then you'll be fine.
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What was it that made you go in last time? I mean, not to be snarky, but surely you weren't just driving past the hospital and thought, hey, let me go in and get checked and see if I'm dilated?

There must have been SOMETHING about those contractions, even every 10 minutes, that gave you a heads up to say, hey, this might be the real deal. You know?

I think if you tap into that, then you'll be fine.
LOL..actualy, I had a scheduled induction that morning and had to be there at 6am..I went into labor the night before..by the time I got there, there was no need for pit..I also walked to the hospital..I lived 20 min away WALKING so I was not in any rush to get there

I just wondered what a good timeline would be, maybe from someone who had btdt for my current situation.

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Perhaps you can call your mother to come over when you seem to have regular contractions. She can then hang out with you until things get more serious and you feel like you need to go. I know that car births happen sometimes but, in the vast majority of cases, things slow down in the car until you are in a more comfortable place. Of course, if it is rush hour, then leave sooner. Also, since this is not your first, you can probably manage to avoid unnecessary interventions even if you show up a bit early at the hospital.

Now, if the reason you are worried about this is because your mother is stressing you out with her fear of a car birth, perhaps you can see if you have an available backup plan or at least have a talk with her so she does not drive you crazy when you are in labour.

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LOL..actualy, I had a scheduled induction that morning and had to be there at 6am..I went into labor the night before..by the time I got there, there was no need for pit..I also walked to the hospital..I lived 20 min away WALKING so I was not in any rush to get there

I just wondered what a good timeline would be, maybe from someone who had btdt for my current situation.

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Ah, I see. That just sounds heavenly to me.

It is totally my dream to go so fast that I end up with a car birth. Not happening for me. Though, a girl can still dream.
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My situation is that I am 5 minutes away from the hospital, my doula is 20 minutes away from me or the hospital, and my mom and sister are 2 1/2 hours away from the hospital. Last time I called my mom the instant my water broke. She and my sister headed here right away, but it was nearly 24 hours later that I really started to have heavy labor. I went to the hospital once the cx began to get very strong and painful - but they were never really close together (time wise) until transition. If I had waited till they were 5-3 minutes apart, I would have probably had DS in the parking lot of the hospital. Because once they got that close together, everything progressed super fast. I say trust your instincts! Good luck!
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Do you know the emotional signpost method (it's a Bradley thing, I think)? When you start getting serious, start having a method/ritual/needed way of getting through a contraction, it's time to go. I would go as soon as someone sees you getting into a "zone" to have a contraction. Once you're wanting to be more serious about them, once it's no longer a fun "woo-hoo! labor day!" affair, yk?

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ddc from july.....if i were in your shoes and it were important to me to definitely make it to the hospital, i would err on the side of getting there early. once you are there, you can always labor at a nearby park or in the car or in the parking lot even if you feel you have arrived too soon. otherwise, if you don't mind the possibility of a car birth, wait as long as you want!
I second this. I'd scope out what's nearby, open during the day and night, if you don't feel like hanging out at the hospital. You could be the crazy woman in labor walking around Wal-Mart at 3am!

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