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#1 of 15 Old 06-16-2010, 11:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Ok, I know people are trying to be nice but - seriously -I'm standing here talking to you with a gigantic watermellon sticking out of my belly. You really need to ask? No, I have not had the baby yet.

If I barely know you, stop emailing me and asking me if I've had the baby. If you're a close friend, don't post on my FB wall asking me if I've had the baby. I'll tell you.

The other day my MIL called the house - we were watching a movie and let it go to voice mail. A second later DH's cell rang - MIL frantically asks "WHERE were you??? I figured you were headed to the hospital."

IF YOU THOUGHT I WAS HEADED TO THE HOSPITAL, THEN WHY ARE YOU CALLING AND BOTHERING ME?????? I told her "We'll be calling everyone after the baby arrives." Last thing I need is her calling DH's cell every 5 minutes while I'm in labor.



I am so zen about waiting for this critter - so completely at peace with the fact that he will come when he's ready ... and yet it seems like so many people are trying to get me freaked out about it. I'm six days from my "due" date, Leave me alone!!!

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Try this....

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/



I completely agree with you!
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In the past couple days I have had to older men walk by and stop right in front of me eyes bulging. The first guy said "I can see someone is very pregnant in this picture" the other man said " looks like you are going to pop soon". Yah think!

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YES I hear it constantly...and anything anyone posts on facebook is interpreted as a possible labor sign...!!

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I went 3 weeks over with DS. Obviously the questioning got BAD and even a little contentious with otherwise cool family members.
At one point, I said to one of them, "You know what, we just found out I'm not pregnant, that its actually one of those tumors that has developed hands and feet, so no, I haven't had 'that baby' yet and I'd really appreciate not talking about it."

Shut them up for sure.

My MIL actually asked me the other day, "So, any ideas as to when she might arrive?" and I had to take a breath before saying, "No. You know I keep asking her and she's not talking. Want me to put the phone up to my belly? Maybe she'll tell you."

My mom asked for an "update" yesterday. Update: baby is still in there. She said she didn't want her not calling every day to lead me to believe she didn't care. I said that NOT calling everyday would send the opposite message to me, that she cared and actually was one of the few that understood.

Sorry, mama . Its SO frustrating.

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My MIL actually asked me the other day, "So, any ideas as to when she might arrive?" and I had to take a breath before saying, "No. You know I keep asking her and she's not talking. Want me to put the phone up to my belly? Maybe she'll tell you."

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Oh I'm using that one ...

.... I'm trying to use this as a chance to practice my patience and calm for the predicted freakout that will almost certainly come when I remind them that no, I won't start eating meat, that the baby (like his sister) will nurse and that _ GASP _ we're not circ-ing him.

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If I barely know you, stop emailing me and asking me if I've had the baby. If you're a close friend, don't post on my FB wall asking me if I've had the baby. I'll tell you.
I am so there. 41 weeks today with our first babe. Between this being our first, and a home birth, and past our due date with absolutely no plans for induction in the future, people are getting nudgy. Staying strong with thoughts of our strong, healthy, hungry baby boy. He will get here when he's good and ready, thankyouverymuch.
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this....

I'm in the opposite boat. No one ever calls. DH has 3 brothers...and not a single phone call from BIL's or their wives. Not even a "Hi! how are you feeling?". None of them have kids so maybe that's why??? Either that or they think I'm crazy for wanting a homebirth and would rather not chat with me about it. Heck, even after we sent out the birth announcement after DS2 was born we didn't get a single phone call(and we all get along no problem etc)- hell we didn't even get a response to the emailed birth announc. His family are strange....

The only people that seem to care and ask about the pregnancy are my close friends, my mom and sister and that's about it. My dad's side could really care less. Sigh.

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Try this....

http://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/



I completely agree with you!
I just shared this link on Facebook.

I've never gone past my due date before so I didn't have to deal with this. MIL called like 3-4x today.

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Haha, I could have written your post! And I'm not due until the 23rd! My MIL calls all the time and says "we are still waiting on a phone call", well, yeah, I'm still waiting on a baby to come out of my vagina or she says "when does the doctor think she will come" ummm, the midwife has as much of an idea as I do not to mention I am still working 12 hour shifts as an xray tech on the weekends and when people around the hospital see me, "no baby yet?" holy crap it is annoying.
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Or this;

"Oh My GOD! You're right! I had the baby and I totally forgot all about it! I left him at the grocery store. Hmmm.... I hope he's OK ...."

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I could have written this post, too! We had a scare at 33 weeks and it looked like she might come way too early. So ever since then (I'm officially "due" today at 40 weeks) the queries and phone calls and Facebook messages and emails have been constant, and not just from close friends and family. My FIL even called my husband yesterday worried that we might FORGET to tell him when I had the baby. (Really? My husband would FORGET to tell his father that I was in labor?)

By the way, when we had that 33-week scare, my husband's aunt and some other relatives posted all over Facebook (including my wall) that I was in labor--totally WITHOUT our permission of course. So when my husband does call relatives and friends to tell them when the baby is actually born (we've set up a phone tree), they are going to be strictly instructed NOT to share anything about the birth or me being in labor on Facebook.

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I put this as my facebook status just this morning. It might stay as this until baby arrives:

***** is officially overdue! Which means if you ask me if I've had the baby yet, you might be risking your life! Please, be kind to the emotional pregnant lady! I promise to update when I have this baby! Kadence was 2 weeks late and this guy may be as well. The answer to any question about how I'm feeling is: tired, cranky, and emotional. Thank you in advance!
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Haha! Oh, I could have written this post as well! My FB post reads as follows:

YES I'm still pregnant and YES that question is always annoying!!! Consider this your warning because I may be pregnant but I'm not disabled. I don't know karate, but I know pregnant lady ca-razy!!!!

Posted that yesterday, a mere 1 week past due. I like the one about the grocery store and the tumor! I'm going to use those on Father's Day because I KNOW my family will ask stupid questions like that.
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