Thank goodness to get so many updates here and see that we are not alone! Dd2 is still nursing and since colostrum has appeared a few weeks ago, nursing is FAR less uncomfortable. Karyn, I so hear you on the agitation thing... I find that I don't mind if a little baby is caressing and massaging my breast or my body, but to have my older toddler do it squeaks me out for some reason. So I don't let her - I take her travelling hand, kiss it and then hold it, or just hold my hand firmly over hers in a spot that I want her to stay, and she usually does. Sometimes she needs reminders.
I too am very curious to see how it's all going to work out with the NB needing to nurse frequently and dd2 will be testing all the boundaries she can to nurse as often as she can. Sometimes we would go a day without nursing, and then be back to 3-5x/day. Lately, she still likes a short nurse before sleep and sometimes will not fall asleep for her nap unless she's nursing (--when she knows I'm home, that is--).
I occassionally remind her that when baby comes, she will be sharing cici. She looks alarmed and emphatically claims ownership: "MY CICI!" I tell her, "No, MY cici.
We have to share with baby."
I see her with her 8 wk old cousin and she adores him. But I have a feeling she is going to be jealous of the NB and have some difficulty adjusting to not being THE BABY anymore. She's still my little snuggle bunny and I don't know what we're going to do at night because she still likes to crawl into bed with me in the wee hours. I tried to tell dh that I can sleep in a bed with the NB on one side and dd2 on the other, but he's all paranoid about that. We'll see. I have a bassinet for the beginning but prefer to co-sleep so I can feel when baby stirs and needs to be fed.
I'm rambling on now. Thanks for sharing the info from Kellymom and yeah, if anyone has other tips, it would be helpful. I don't have time to read now either.