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#1 of 14 Old 05-01-2010, 06:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
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To whom is may concern,

I know you heard from a neighbor of mine or a friend of a friend that I am a surrogate. I really do appreciate your curiosity and welcome questions to a certain degree.

But friend after awhile it almost seems like I am getting the 3rd degree.

I would like to set the record straight and just do this once, I know I will have to do this 1000 more times during this pregnancy, and more so after and possibly for the rest of my life.

I know it is my job to educate you, I know this isn't something you can understand without asking questions, I respect that, there is a line though, about what you can and cannot ask. When the questions become less about learning and more about some backward view you have, then I feel the need to pull out the inner beast.

No I did NOT have sex to get pregnant.

Yes you can carry and deliver babies that have NO biological link to you.

Why can't they have their own children? They are lacking a uterus, its ok though, they are comfortable with having male genitalia.

No I am NOT worried about the children growing up gay. I don't view being gay as a handicap or a bad thing. From what I have learned through common sense, straight people raise gay children too, otherwise we wouldn't have gay people at all. I am way less worried about the fathers ability to parent their twins then I am about you feeling it is ok to ask this in front of your own children.

No I won't be sad, I am not giving up anything, I am adding to something.

Yes I get compensation, no I don't feel it is baby selling, see above, these children would have never been born if not for the actions of their parents. I am a vessel to help them achieve a goal they dreamed up.




I am off now to go bang my head against a wall.. take care

A Surrogate Carrier.

Loving Dh, Mama x 4, Surrogate mother to 5. A born 2003, M and R girl/girl twins 2006, S and C boy/girl twins born 2010. Processing/healing.
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not in your ddc, but your post made me laugh. I'm sorry you have to be subjected to that....

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way to go mama!

Nursing student, (LAST SEMESTER!!!)Cloth diapering, cosleeping, breastfeeding mama to 4!!!
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Most of the time I find the silly questions to be amusing, but when people keep asking its like UGH how can I explain this that will make sense to you? In the end I can't.. if they don't get it they don't get it.

Loving Dh, Mama x 4, Surrogate mother to 5. A born 2003, M and R girl/girl twins 2006, S and C boy/girl twins born 2010. Processing/healing.
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You rock mama!!!

DH and I are expecting twins July 15. Holy crap wish us luck.
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You're awesome!

For every ***** out there like the one you mention above, know that there are loads of us who applaud, appreciate and commend what you are doing! You're a brave and generous woman...I'm so glad there are people like you!

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Not in your DDC but
People's stupidity never ceases to amaze me
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I think what you're doing is amazing! I wish more people would stop to tell you that.

It always amazes me that people can be SO ignorant, especially around pregnant women. Combine that with my own hormones and the further along I get, the more I just want people to shut up. Unless they're going to tell me that I look "fabulous," like the nice old lady at Whole Foods last week.

Anyway, they suck and you rock. Please don't forget it.

Mommy to a gorgeous little miracle
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Good for you!

I think you should print these and carry them as handouts for when rude people ask you these types of things.

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I'm not in your DDC either, but a fellow surrogate. I love it! I've had those days too. Great response!

Kelly - Labor & Delivery RN, IBCLC, Wife of 22 years, Mom to 4
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You're awesome!

For every idiot out there like the one you mention above, know that there are loads of us who applaud, appreciate and commend what you are doing! You're a brave and generous woman...I'm so glad there are people like you!
I completely agree!! Thank you for being such a wonderful human!!!

mama to dd 2x Our sweet boy is here! 7/27
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Thank you all very much! You rock.

Loving Dh, Mama x 4, Surrogate mother to 5. A born 2003, M and R girl/girl twins 2006, S and C boy/girl twins born 2010. Processing/healing.
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Hi mamas- just a reminder to refrain from namecalling and to be respectful when posting. Expressing your opinion is great, but please do it without calling others names. See the User Agreement on the gray bar at the top of the screen.

Thank you for your understanding and cooperation.

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