We had my baby shower yesterday. It was really wonderful and more generous than I expected. However, 2 things irked me. Not strongly, but still. 2 of my closest friends and I were talking about the diabetes test. When I mentioned that I had refused it K exclaimed "oh my gosh! WHY?!?!" and when I explained she just had one of those "I don't understand you, you're crazy" looks, or something. I can't really explain the look. For the record, I did do blood sugar monitoring for 2 weeks, which was really interesting. The other friend A already knew all of this, but wasn't really supportive of my decision (she did have GD). A third friend J jumped in with a story about how they kept making her take the test (because she's a little heavy) but she just didn't have it (this friend supports all my decisions). Whenever I say that I knew I didn't have GD, A says she didn't have any symptoms 'either' but then later will say how she wasn't surprised that she had it and will mention symptoms!!
Then there's the 'I don't want an epidural' conversation. I have yet to have any friends be very supportive of this one (the supportive friend had an emergency c-section so she's supportive, but hasn't been there). I get the range of I could NEVER do that or Why would you even want to do that or I wanted to but... or Everyone I know who said that has changed their mind during labor. Etc. Why can't anyone be supportive of this? Why can't anyone be encouraging? I have a good physical/medical reason why an epidural wouldn't be a great choice for me. But, more so, I WANT to do this naturally. I'm educating myself, I'm not expecting it to be easy. Why can't I just get good wishes about this???
Oh, and when we were talking about the hospital/MW group I was going with and why I had switched from a different (HIGHLY regarded group) one of the examples I mentioned was how my old group wouldn't allow snacks if you really needed something to eat. A and her husband were all like, well, that's because if you end up needing a c-section you need an empty stomach (or something along those lines). OK, sure, I get that it's possible something will happen and I'll need a CS. But it's just as possible (maybe more likely?) that I'll need something to eat and WON'T need a CS!
I have to say, A had to have a scheduled c-section because of breech (I know, but her decision, not mine) and she was really sad about that. What she says to me is that she just wants me to be flexible in case things change. I get that. I'm keeping it in mind. But I just want to try things my way! Thank gods for my DP, my MW group, and my doula!
Then there's the 'I don't want an epidural' conversation. I have yet to have any friends be very supportive of this one (the supportive friend had an emergency c-section so she's supportive, but hasn't been there). I get the range of I could NEVER do that or Why would you even want to do that or I wanted to but... or Everyone I know who said that has changed their mind during labor. Etc. Why can't anyone be supportive of this? Why can't anyone be encouraging? I have a good physical/medical reason why an epidural wouldn't be a great choice for me. But, more so, I WANT to do this naturally. I'm educating myself, I'm not expecting it to be easy. Why can't I just get good wishes about this???
Oh, and when we were talking about the hospital/MW group I was going with and why I had switched from a different (HIGHLY regarded group) one of the examples I mentioned was how my old group wouldn't allow snacks if you really needed something to eat. A and her husband were all like, well, that's because if you end up needing a c-section you need an empty stomach (or something along those lines). OK, sure, I get that it's possible something will happen and I'll need a CS. But it's just as possible (maybe more likely?) that I'll need something to eat and WON'T need a CS!
I have to say, A had to have a scheduled c-section because of breech (I know, but her decision, not mine) and she was really sad about that. What she says to me is that she just wants me to be flexible in case things change. I get that. I'm keeping it in mind. But I just want to try things my way! Thank gods for my DP, my MW group, and my doula!