I hear ds awake and ready to nurse, so I'll make this quick. Hope everyone had a nice weekend. Dd2 is having a really hard time adjusting and is whining and crying all the time. Poor little kid. It's also driving us nuts. Trying to give her lots of TLC but it's not smooth sailing yet.
I am enjoying reading everyone's updates.
We're trying to mot be agitated mean tired parents but I'm getting a little miffed these last 2 months!!! whoa...2 months? of crazy 3 year old high tension?!
I'm trying here...we hug, we read, we buy and dole out way too many popsicles, daddy takes him to the park just the two of them, we talk, we plead, we pray, we cajole, we bribe, we yell , we cry and do a bit of whining ourself. If we could just change 1 thing in the whole world right now, we would reign in this newfound aggresion towards us and our ds1. We think he knows he can't take out his feelings on a tiny cute baby so he's terrorizing us. I hate even typing that...he is such a sweet boy...always has been high energy. Right now he's good because I made him sweet potato fries!
Our transition with my oldest went much better...I know it did! I'm not just imagining that either.
We give lots of tlc, we went out together just the two of us on Saturday, but still there's the whining the crying oh yes and the potty accidents which push me over the ledge. Trying to channel patience, but it is not working.
The baby is good, eats well, sleeps well, is so warm and cuddly, she may be my favorite
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I wish there was a dial to put her back to the original station...the one with less static and whining. jk I do feel bad for her, she's clearly having to deal with huge emotional changes and new feelings and her whole world is upside down.
She's started whining, throwing things and nail biting. And she wants mama milk all the time. It makes me feel like I am not doing my job right as a mother if I can't take care of her emotional needs. But the fact is, I am, actually both of her parents are home with her 24/7 tending to her...she's just facing an emotional challenge and we're all doing our best to handle it and help her grow through it. But man it takes its toll on me to hear her like that all the time.
Hugs to all with whinny needy kids.
AFM, my belly stll hurts a little from the c/s. My back is still a mess, but I can walk now. And I'm on day 6 of some stomach virus. No vomitting, but my poor bumm is really sore. And on top of all this the usual exhaustion of having to do it all while DP sleeps soundly and even has the luxury of rubbing one out while I'm trying to nurse ds in bed.
Me 41, single mom to dd 4/2001 and ds 7/17/2010
And I'm on day 6 of some stomach virus. No vomitting, but my poor bumm is really sore. And on top of all this the usual exhaustion of having to do it all while DP sleeps soundly and even has the luxury of rubbing one out while I'm trying to nurse ds in bed.
When I read the phrase "rubbing one out" I
ETA - does he know you don't like it?
Me 41, single mom to dd 4/2001 and ds 7/17/2010
Another 3 year old here who is having such a hard time. Potty trained for a year and has had a dozen accidence since baby came home, doesn't listen to us anymore, and is just acting out! She starts a 2 morning/wk preschool in 2 weeks and I'm so worried. Maybe it'll be the break she needs, a place that will just be about her and not her siblings or maybe it'll be just too much stress and put her over the top.
DS (almost 6) is terrific though and seems to be handling both little sisters easily. Yeah for smooth transitions!
Hope everyone has a better weekend...crossing my fingers...dd2 just started crying again and DH is making the silliest noises to make her stop...it's actually working! I should record this!
Oh, and how is it that I still am desperate for a 4th!?!? I guess that will never go away for me. Just love pregnancy birth and babies so so so so much...but perhaps that is what the difficult days are for...
I'm having nursing issues again- or more like a continuation or change to my original nursing issues. I think I have over supply/too forceful of a let down on my right boob because I pumped it too much when DS used to refuse to nurse on that side. Now he'll nurse on that side, but gets upset often because it's too fast/too much... I was going back to the pumping when he won't nurse on the right, but that seemed to be the source of the problem...so I've got to try something else. Sigh.
Also- I'm starting to wonder if DS is nursing too long. Or if I'm not or he is not doing things efficiently. Our nursing sessions are sooo long. I'm not sure if they need to be though. He will doze off or come off the breast after 5-10 minutes and seem satisfied, but I think that's too short so I'll wake him and switch or get him going again. Not sure if I need to do that or if I should just leave him be. I'm having a hard time telling how much milk he's actually eaten from the softness/firmness of my breasts. It does seem that if I he only spends a few minutes on the boob, he is back there a lot sooner. Then I worry about him not getting enough hind milk... Sometimes I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing!
Annother big issue is night nursing. From 10/11 to 7/8 we typically have 4 nursing sessions. The first night one around 10 or 11pm and the first morning one at 7 or 8am are ok, it's the middle ones we struggle the most with. At first I thought it was me mainly having so much trouble waking up and being sooo tired. And Konrad would just scream for an hour and fuss at me and fall back asleep after just a couple sucks, etc.
So a couple of weeks ago I started giving him expressed milk in bottles for those two feedings a night and ta-da problem solved! He eats, we sleep, no crying and screaming at all! The thing is the system I have going for those two feeds won't work once DH goes back to work. We usually get up together, DH gives the bottle while I pump. Sometimes I'll only pump once and so DH won't get up and I'll give Konrad the bottle. But DH won't be able to help at night so much when he's back at work- so giving the bottle then pumping by myself will take a really long time. I'm not sure if I have to pump those two times- if my supply will dip too low if I don't etc. I know I'll be uncomfortable if I don't pump for at least one of those feedings. I tried going back to nursing for those two feeds- it was awful again. So I want to stick with what works for me and Konrad- the bottles at night- but I don't know how to manage it if I have to pump too. Blah...
I really don't want DH to go back to work!
In other news- Konrad is losing his hair! I hope it grows back sooner rather than later. Between the baldness on top and the newborn acne, he is looking pretty funny this week.
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As for the night feeds and dh helping -- when is he going back to work? Perhaps in a week or two if you tried night feedings at the breast again, things will be better.
Sounds like you are doing a great job at being receptive to him. Ugh, gtg, more later if I can. Hang in there, Mama!
As for the amount of time you are nursing, 5-10 minutes is actually plenty if he is an efficient nurser. Do you hear him gulping? Is his jaw moving? I am a CLC (certified lactation counselor), so I can at least tell you what I have learned and know from experience. The BEST way to know if he is getting enough is from his output - if he is having enough wet/soiled diapers each day, and if he is gaining well, then THAT is what you should follow. How has all of that been going? If that is fine, then you do not have to stress about counting minutes and the softness of your breasts, etc.
As far as Hind milk, I know that this has always been told to women, but the latest studies, and what lactation counselors will tell you now, is that there is NO difference between hind milk and foremilk...the only difference is that the hind milk comes last! Again, output and weight gain is what you want to watch...then you can spend less time keeping all of those details straight and more time just nursing and cuddling!
The night feeding issue...if you are co-sleeping, were you getting out of bed to feed him when he was fussing during those difficult feedings? When DH goes back to work, you could do as Surfacing said and go back to trying at the breast (could have been a fussy stretch, or just something else that was bothering him, so always worth trying again), and I would make sure that you change him first, get him nice and awake (unfortunately), swaddle him up, and then nurse him...maybe these are things that you have already tried, but definitely worth going through this routine and giving it another shot so that you do not have to worry about DH going back to work.
Not sure if any of that helped, but I hope at least some of it eases your mind! Good luck and keep it up - you are doing a great job!
As far as Hind milk, I know that this has always been told to women, but the latest studies, and what lactation counselors will tell you now, is that there is NO difference between hind milk and foremilk...the only difference is that the hind milk comes last!
About the night nursing - I just wanted to add that I wonder if your breasts are really full and if baby finds it harder to latch on then. You may need to shape your nipple/breast for him to get an easier latch (like sandwich your nipple/breast a bit). Just some thoughts.
I would have to look through my reading materials to see if I can find the source for that research...if I can find some free time I will! For now, this is where I took my class, and the women who teach it are wonderful! I am sure they could direct you a bit faster than I could!
AFM- it's been an exciting week. Had our last midwifery appointment. Got into a 3 car pile up on a 4 lane freeway at rush hour with both of my kids. It was relatively low impact, about 60km/hour (35mph) and thankfully no one was really hurt. I hit my head and got a fat lip that bled, dd1 got mild burns from her seatbelt and that was it. Both my baby and toddler just freaked out crying on impact and sent me into a worried frenzy. I was ready to kill the other drivers. Mama bear inciting. yowza. Basically one car hit the car behind us and both of them rear-ended us. Thankfully we were not following the next car too closely and avoided hitting a 4th car. We were in the center lane so I was really scared that we'd get hit again. I felt so vulnerable for those few seconds until I could get off the highway. Thankfully there was a green patch behind a big concrete pillar where we could wait for ems/police. DP was driving so he dealt with the paperwork. And then there I was the frazzled screaming mother tandem nursing too screaming kids. What a sight I am sure.
Now dd1 has been in bed sick all day, unrelated I'm guessing. We've canceled dinner plans with friends for tonight. Between the accident and dd1 being sick, life with 2 kids is setting in. I'm trying to figure out how to tend to two kids' urgent needs while still dealing with life and while keeping my head on my shoulders. Just takes a bit of reshuffling the self i think.
Otherwise was a great week. We found a beautiful biodynamic family farm and hand picked 2 bushels of apples and pears. yum!
I'll just be quick while I have a minute. Ainsley is 4 weeks old today and it seems like our sleep is getting worse and worse. DH is going back to work on Tuesday and I'm not sure how I'll function or how much longer I can go without sleep. At this point I would happy with 2 hour stretches as long as she would nurse and then go back to sleep. It's taking me a minimum of a hour to get her back to sleep everytime she wakes up......she'll sleep for 1.5 or 2 hours and then it takes me at least an hour but sometimes up to 3 hours to get her back down to sleep. Then we repeat in another 1.5 to 2 hours........so tired! The other night I pumped a bottle and dh fed her and she slept for 4 hours but we gave her a bottle the next night and it was only a 2 hour sleep. After she had the bottles she seemed to be really fussy and unhappy at the breast so I don't really want to overdo it there. She starts the night in her basinet and then comes in with me but nothing I do seems to get her sleeps any longer or get her going back to sleep quicker.
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definitely not what you want to be feeling PP!
I'm extremely over diligent about proper carseats and proper buckling.