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Just curious of everyone's level of crunchiness.

We're relatively newly crunchified (ever since my DD's pregnancy), but have moved fast! We eat TF, are having a homebirth, don't vaccinate, use alternative healthcare (see a Naturopath, homeopathy, Chinese medicine), cloth diaper, babywear sometimes, if the baby is a boy we won't circ, make my own homemade cleaners, and extended breastfeed.

But on the other side we aren't co-sleepers, not completely AP, my DD loves her plastic toys, and I don't think we'll do child-led weaning if my DD doesn't give it up before the new baby comes.

I find that other forums aren't crunchy enough for me and I feel like I'm constantly arguing my views. So while I'm not always as crunchy as other here, I think it's probably the best fit for me.

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Just curious of everyone's level of crunchiness.

We're relatively newly crunchified (ever since my DD's pregnancy), but have moved fast! We eat TF, are having a homebirth, don't vaccinate, use alternative healthcare (see a Naturopath, homeopathy, Chinese medicine), cloth diaper, babywear sometimes, if the baby is a boy we won't circ, make my own homemade cleaners, and extended breastfeed.

But on the other side we aren't co-sleepers, not completely AP, my DD loves her plastic toys, and I don't think we'll do child-led weaning if my DD doesn't give it up before the new baby comes.

I find that other forums aren't crunchy enough for me and I feel like I'm constantly arguing my views. So while I'm not always as crunchy as other here, I think it's probably the best fit for me.
We don't eat an organic TF diet, I cook hot dogs and mac and cheese too often but we do eat relatively healthily. Enough to make me feel ok about it.

We are having a hospital birth, with an OB, probably an epidural, but maybe not.

We have lots of plastic toys, and we watch tv and play video games (though we have learned a lesson with DS and will not allow video games so early next time- I am thinking 10 or so.

But we don't vax, don't circ, we AP, babywear (though we did use strollers too), extended nursing (3.5 years with DS and he weaned himself I didn't wean him), i made his baby food, coslept as long as he wanted to- which was 7 months, but this time we will sidecar the crib in hopes that it will be longer, cloth diapered and I think that's it lol

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We're pretty crunchy in some areas; no vax, no circ, whole foods, somewhat TF diet (with allergies, we've got limitations and try to eat what we can, but whole food form), breastfeed, babywear, cosleep, homeschool...

However! I wear synthetics, I am religious, and think global warming is propaganda used to enforce draconian measures on the populace, so take it with a grain of salt! I am very health oriented and tend to be a diyer in terms of healthcare, homecare, family care.

I'm hoping to cloth diaper for real this time around.

I'm definately crunchy in my neck o' the woods, but on MDC? Who knows?

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I think we're pretty crunchy. We are NOT TF, we love our soy foods around here. We do eat well relative to the average American family.
My youngest self-weaned at 2, but I finally cut off my oldest at 5 once he was down to nursing about once a month (and his little bro weaned).
We do baby led solids, no purees.
We coslept until they were 5 and 2 and moved them into a room together.
We babywear, I didn't even have a stroller until my oldest was 15 months and don't think they are good for babies. They are sometimes useful with toddlers, though!
We cloth diapered from birth to potty training and will again.
I had a CNM-attended natural hospital birth with my first and a UC waterbirth with my second.
We do not circ, and haven't vaxed yet (I'm considering starting them with my 7yo).
We caved last year on our no plastic toys rule. We now allow Lego, Schleich, and Playmobil. The "good plastic toys" compromise works for all of us.
We allow our kids (at their current ages, 4 and 7) 45 minutes of screen time (TV, movie, video game) a day, although it's the first thing to go when they get in trouble.
We really like the ideas of the Continuum Concept and Free Range Parenting. I'd say they describe us more than AP. We do not practice consensual living or gentle discipline-- we believe in rules and punishments.
I homeschooled my 7yo for preschool and kindergarten. He is in school for 1st grade but will probably be homeschooled for 2nd since we are moving to a worse school district. We have our fingers crossed that our 4yo will be accepted into a traditional private, academic, uniform-wearing school for K this fall.
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I'm pretty crunchy here--cloth diaper, baby wearing, no circing, cosleep, AP, extended nursing, tandem nursing, baby led feeding--no jarred foods here, recycling,

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We homebirth and homeschool, co-sleep as long as it works for everyone, extended breastfeed and CLW, use cloth nappies (diapers), delay/selectively vax, won't circ any boys.

We also eat McDonald's etc from time to time, watch TV (though more than I'd really like), have a limited (mostly through lack of space) number of plastic toys, do time outs and lots more I've probaby forgotten.

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Compared to most of my friends/coworkers I think we are fairly crunchy.

I'm vegan with a mostly whole food diet (although DH is basically SAD). We don't watch TV apart from the occasional DVD.

Planning on no circ, s/d vaccination, babywearing, cloth diapers, baby-led weaning, probably will be trying co-sleeping and EC.

However I will be doing an OB-attended hospital birth because we live too far from any hospital to safely have a home birth, unfortunately.

When someone asks if I'm planning on breastfeeding I think I must give them a look like, "Well, duh!".

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We do:

Try to eat foods as close to the source as possible, I bake a lot of our own stuff and cook almost exclusively from scratch.

Cosleep until babe is sleeping a 5+ hour stretch

We are working on going green, eliminating paper products (except tp) will cloth diaper this LO, and the like.

We selective vax

We nurse exclusively until min. 6 months.

We limit DS electronic toys and are working on limiting screen time, although this winter it's gotten out of hand. He does have plastic toys though.

I use a sling and a stroller depending on babe's needs.

This will be a hospital VBAC, we've moved since DS was born, I would never deliver at that hospital again. I had a very traumatic birth experience the first time around.

What I DON'T do is subscribe to a blanket parenting philosophy. I strongly believe each child, each mother, and each family has it's own unique needs and decisions should be made that take the entire family into consideration.

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In some ways I'm ubercrunchy and in some ways I'm really not.

Our daughter has just moved into her own bed at 20 months because her kicking me all night was preventing me from sleeping and my preggo exhaustion is just not ok with that. (Thank Dog that transition was smooth and easy.)

We are still nursing and I plan to tandem.

I do cloth diapers and I dry them on the line outside because it saves energy.

I'm somewhat fanatical about water/energy conservation to the point where I have to very consciously not lecture neighbors as I walk by and they are wasting water. (I water the plants in our yard with gray water from washing dishes. I'm kind of over the top on this one.) As a result of this fanaticism we have solar panels on our roof. We are generating more power annually than we take from the grid. Even with washing cloth diapers we use substantially less water than average households.

I am also super fanatical about recycling. I get really angry with people who don't.

I'm very free range in my parenting attitude. My daughter has been playing alone in our fenced yard since she was about 13 months old.

We did baby lead weaning and the only puree she's ever eaten is apple sauce.

I technically own a stroller but we've used it like half a dozen times. I own five different baby carriers. (And I've spent less than $200 on carriers.)

When I'm not pregnant I cook the vast majority of our food from scratch and we eat local/organic for probably 70% of our diet. I'm also big on raw dairy. I don't eat TF though. For that other 30% of our diet we eat WAY more sugar than MDC is ok with and I eat McDonald's about once a month cause I just love the taste. There is no way in hell I could be vegetarian/vegan/dairy free/gluten free/etc unless it was actually in danger of killing me or one of my immediate family. Just... no. I am pretty fanatical about avoiding HFCS for some reason.

We selectively/delay vaccinate. The only vaccines we will probably completely skip are rotavirus (because if you don't get it super early you just don't) and chicken pox. We are very into international travel and we want to go to third world countries. Given those preferences my kids will eventually need most vaccines.

I try very hard to be frugal. I consider this a crunchy habit because it spurs a lot of crunchy behavior. I look for things second hand before I buy new.

We barely use paper anything. We use family cloth for all pee.

I'm trying to start growing my own food and canning but so far this is slow going for me. Thank goodness we have a huge freezer.

I'm really into wooden toys but we do have a little plastic--mostly Duplo and plastic babies. The cloth dolls just aren't the same. Luckily my daughter seems quite patient with my wooden toys obsession.

I use baking soda/vinegar on my hair and for all of my cleaning. Works really well. I no longer use any bath products at all on me or my daughter that have chemicals of any kind. I don't think my husband will ever give up his shaving cream.

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We are sure a blend...I guess we're more "old-fashioned" than "crunchy"...

-We are completely centered around our faith.
-We are completely open to life..even if that means pregnancies sometimes close together.
-We don't vax/flu shot
-We don't go to the Dr for anything "preventative". I use natural medicine and supplements. We stay pretty healthy.
-We eat very healthfully, but not necessarily organic. I end up with a lot of organic, because where we are (northern Idaho) sometimes organic is the only available product. I bake bread, we eat most things from scratch. Going out to eat is a treat that doesn't happen much.
-We have very "traditional roles" in our home and it works best for us.
-We circ our boys, and I'm good with it. It was as well researched for me as our no-vax choice.
-My parenting philosophy is very much a blend. I feel driven to most AP styles anyway, but things like co-sleeping for us, tend to not happen for very long. Our kids are all on flexible schedules, they all have early bedtimes, and it's how my Dh and I have time together. I think parenting is in the heart, and that's where my faith is at..so they coexist well.
-I'm doing a homebirth this time around.
-I grew up really mainstream, so this is all in the past 15 years or so for me.
-My kids have a blend of toys, but really aren't "into" trendy things.
-I dress modestly, as do our girls. (though fashionably)
-We homeschool
I'm sure there's more, but that was lots already.

Oh, and this quote: However! I........and think global warming is propaganda used to enforce draconian measures on the populace, so take it with a grain of salt! Is exactly what we believe!

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We are sure a blend...I guess we're more "old-fashioned" than "crunchy"...

-We are completely centered around our faith.
-We are completely open to life..even if that means pregnancies sometimes close together.
-We don't vax/flu shot
-We don't go to the Dr for anything "preventative". I use natural medicine and supplements. We stay pretty healthy.
-We eat very healthfully, but not necessarily organic. I end up with a lot of organic, because where we are (northern Idaho) sometimes organic is the only available product. I bake bread, we eat most things from scratch. Going out to eat is a treat that doesn't happen much.
-We have very "traditional roles" in our home and it works best for us.
-We circ our boys, and I'm good with it. It was as well researched for me as our no-vax choice.
-My parenting philosophy is very much a blend. I feel driven to most AP styles anyway, but things like co-sleeping for us, tend to not happen for very long. Our kids are all on flexible schedules, they all have early bedtimes, and it's how my Dh and I have time together. I think parenting is in the heart, and that's where my faith is at..so they coexist well.
-I'm doing a homebirth this time around.
-I grew up really mainstream, so this is all in the past 15 years or so for me.
-My kids have a blend of toys, but really aren't "into" trendy things.
-I dress modestly, as do our girls. (though fashionably)
-We homeschool
I'm sure there's more, but that was lots already.

Oh, and this quote: However! I........and think global warming is propaganda used to enforce draconian measures on the populace, so take it with a grain of salt! Is exactly what we believe!
You and I sound a lot a like. I was so scared to join MDC because I thought I'd be the only one like this!

Hooray!

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I LOVE legos/duplos! What would ds play with without those???

I agree that we all have to choose our own "crunchiness". In my rural town, HBing is DANGEROUS! I know of three or four of us who have here and I have to hire an out of town MW (2 hrs) if I want support. (She's awesome). I'm the only babywearing extended breastfeeder in my church.
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I'm glad to see that I also fit in better here than I thought I might.

Let's see...

I'm into Weston A. Price as far as food goes...I love the farmer's market and we have a garden and get our meat, eggs, and raw milk from local Amish farmers...plus joined a CSA last summer. My weakness however is sugar and coffee.

We're Christ-followers. We believe in taking care of the earth (recycling, organic, etc) but don't believe all the global warming stuff either...we AP for babyhood only, though we co-sleep for longer...just pretty non-AP as far as discipline goes.

We use natural healthcare methods.....I love my kinesiologist (muscle testing), we pretty much only go to her and she's done wonders. We don't vax anymore, and won't circ if this is a boy.

I prefer wooden toys but it's so hard to keep the plastic toys out, especially as my girls get older so they have some and they probably watch too much tv and play the Wii too much....I'm sure not nearly as much as other kids do but it still bothers me.

We homeschool.

This will be our first homebirth with a CNM. My girls were both born in the hospital drug-free with a CNM..the last was a water birth.

We cloth diaper and I nursed my girls for 2+ years.

I eat waaaay too much fast food when I'm pregnant and I have a severe weakness for Amish baked goods during farmer's market season. LOL!

It's taken me about 7 years to get this crunchy. I keep adding on every year.

In a nutshell, we're crunchy Christian conservatives.

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Oh, what's TF diet stand for?

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We are sure a blend...I guess we're more "old-fashioned" than "crunchy"...
This. (I borrowed a few of your ideas, since they kind of went along with ours).

Our faith is the center of our family and helps govern our decisions.

We believe children are a blessing and we don't limit the other blessings God gives us, so why limit the blessings of children (no we're not trying to be the Duggars. )

We selectively vax, but do most of them.

We have a pretty family friendly ped, so we do go for well child checks.

We eat very healthfully, but not necessarily organic. When I'm pregnant I crave way more fast food than I need.

Going out to eat is a treat that doesn't happen much.

We have very traditional roles in our familiy. (Although I do currently work outside the home part time. We are hoping that will change in the near future.)

We circ our boys, and I'm good with it.

Our parenting philosophy is very much a blend.

We feel fairly in line with the "AP" side of things. We cloth diaper, exclusively breastfeed until 6 months at least and continue breastfeeding until either I or baby is ready to stop, really we just kind of go with the flow when it comes to breastfeeding. This is the first time I've BF while pg.

We co-sleep sort of, but didn't necessarily intend to start out that way, it works for us right now.

I often wrap or have baby in a sling.

I make our own laundry soap and natural cleaners.

We have lots of plastic toys, but don't usually buy them for our kiddos. Although we donate most of them but the boys still play with legos, k'nex and a few other plastics.

DH and I both grew up really mainstream, but we've really researched and found what's right for our parenting style and our family.

We homeschool (a first for both our families).

We are planning a HBA3C for this birth.

I really believe parenting styles really don't fit neatly in a category. I really think that it's a mishmash of what works for each family and can even change as a family changes and grows. Heaven knows our parenting style has changed since our first child was born.

Interesting post! I enjoy reading everyone's responses!

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I'm glad to see that I also fit in better here than I thought I might.

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In a nutshell, we're crunchy Christian conservatives.
We seem very similar! I'm so excited to see so many like-minded women in here.

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Oh, what's TF diet stand for?
Traditional Foods. There's a whole forum on here for it under Nutrition and Good Eating.

We aren't hard core with it, but we do local, grass-fed or pastured meat, raw dairy, homemade bone broths, natural sweeteners (raw honey or maple syrup), and soak most grains and beans. The idea is to eat the way our ancestors ate and gain the health benefits from it. If it's something that sounds interesting, I recommend reading Real Food by Nina Planck as a great introduction.

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I just reread and saw that you follow WAPF...that would make you TF! Welcome to the club.

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Ahh yes! You're doing better than I am so far...still learning. I need to learn how to use natural sugars more...especially since I LOVE to bake! Thanks for the book rec! I do have Nourishing Traditions but have yet to dive too deep into it. But we do several of the TF things so far...also need to figure out the grain soaking thing. Little by little!

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Wow, MDC is really leaning heavily towards the Christian conservative demographic these days.
I'll add that my husband and I are both pro-choice feminists, we don't believe in gender roles, we are a multiracial family (black/white), we believe in evolution, global warming, and birth control. We're atheists and raising our kids as such. We're anti-Weston A. Price, I don't eat dairy or beef outside of pregnancy (and no pork ever).
In college I majored in women's and gender studies and minored in pan-African studies and my husband had the same, but with major/minor reversed. We both participated in many of the anti-globalization protests of 2000-2003. We're crazy radical punks.
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Wow, MDC is really leaning heavily towards the Christian conservative demographic these days.
Interesting take, to me it's always seemed more of a "whatever floats your boat" kind of place. (Which is what I love about it!). I have always felt respected in my choices and can usually find a place to fit in. It's really one of the few online forums where I felt like all were pretty well accepted and respected.

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Add me to the crunchy Christian conservative list.

My sons were both born at home but I'm going with a CNM in a hospital this time because I had two NICU transfers and want to try to avoid that if possible. I've been pleasantly surprised by my CNM group so far.

I nurse on demand with no pumping or formula (ecological breastfeeding if anyone's familiar with the concept). My first son weaned with slight encouragement 5 days before his brother was born -- the day before his second birthday. My second son weaned at 2.5. I wouldn't say I do child-led weaning, but until they turn two, I nurse whenever they want.

We co-sleep for at least 18 months. My almost 4 year old has been crawling back into our bed in the middle of the night for the past year and we haven't tried too hard to stop him. He shares a double bed with his brother.

I love babywearing. I do own a stroller but only use it when I have to carry lots of stuff.

We've cloth diapered both kids and I sewed most of ds2's diapers and did elimination communication with him. I've also been sewing all their pj's and a fair number of their shirts. I also knit lots of wool covers and longies/shorts. DS2 pretty much only wore wool pants until he potty-learned.

We eat only grass-fed, happy beef and chickens. I'll occasionally buy other not-so-happy meat from the grocery store, but only if it's not available from the farmer where I also buy dairy directly. I believe it's not-certified organic. It is pasteurized.

I canned 300+ jars of tomatoes, jams, green beans, applesauce, pickles, and other things last summer and fall and we try to buy most of our produce through a CSA or farmer's market if we didn't grow it. I generally try to have whole foods and as little processing as possible, but I'm not super-strict on it, especially in the middle of winter when nothing's fresh anyway. We rarely go out to eat and have fast food even more rarely. Except for ice cream. I'm a sucker for ice cream.

We have 6 hens in our backyard who give us 4-5 eggs/day.

I didn't really do baby food, especially with ds2. If he couldn't pick it up and eat it, he had to wait until he could.

We use toilet paper and occasional paper towels for bacon grease, but generally use cloth for everything else.

We have used NFP throughout our marriage and do not plan to ever be sterilized. We aren't completely open to pregnancy at all times, but once my fertility returns, we feel that if we're going to avoid pregnancy, we need a good reason to do so.

We selectively do vaccines on a delayed schedule. My five year old was caught up enough not to need exemptions to enter kindy, but only barely, and everything was later. I made a point of getting my boys to a chicken pox party when they were 22 months and 3.5 and we spent Jan. 2008 sequestered at home waiting for pox, then dealing with them. We see a family practitioner and usually avoid alternative medicine.

I pretty much avoided plastic toys until we reached the age of Duplos. The wooden train set was the favorite toy for a long time. Now we have building toys of many sorts and I don't fight it. We don't have any action figures or plastic tv-based toys, though.

My kids watch TV but on a limited basis and nothing with commercials.

We don't circ.

My kids attend private Catholic school.

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I came to this website because I found myself defending my views on other pregnancy websites. Compared to most women I know, I've got some pretty "crunchy" viewpoints, but compared to some of you guys, I'm a total light-weight!

I will start by saying that I have no children, so I cannot speak from experience when it comes to child-raising; I can only speak from hopes and plans.

If the child is a boy, we will not circ.

We plan to use cloth diapers.

Obviously I'll breast-feed! I don't think I'd go much past a year and a half, though.

I am an academic (I'm working on my Doctorate in Literature and teach at a University) and I will definitely send my kids to public school.

I'm not sure where I stand on vax-ing; I'll probably allow some vax's but not others.

I'm a liberal atheist (please don't hate me, Conservative Christians!) , and I won't raise my children under any religion; I will surround them with my ethnically and sexual-orientationally diverse friends and family.

I fully intend to have an unmedicated birth--hopefully a water birth--under the guidance of a CNM at a "crunchy," natural-birth friendly hospital. There are no birth centers in my area, and techincally home birth is illegal in GA (where I live).

I hope to steer clear of jarred baby food and make my own.

These are my hopes, and I also hope that I don't lose too many of them in what is sure to be the overwhelming experience of new motherhood!

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Wow, MDC is really leaning heavily towards the Christian conservative demographic these days.
I'll add that my husband and I are both pro-choice feminists, we don't believe in gender roles, we are a multiracial family (black/white), we believe in evolution, global warming, and birth control. We're atheists and raising our kids as such. We're anti-Weston A. Price, I don't eat dairy or beef outside of pregnancy (and no pork ever).
In college I majored in women's and gender studies and minored in pan-African studies and my husband had the same, but with major/minor reversed. We both participated in many of the anti-globalization protests of 2000-2003. We're crazy radical punks.
It's not all of MDC, our DDC just seems to unexpectedly have a large percentage. (Which is ok. I'm all dandy-candy with whatever works for people.)

That said, I didn't even think to talk about being a flaming liberal. I guess I took it for granted. I've been super active in the alternative sexuality world for more than ten years. My husband is extremely feminist and atheist whereas my relationship with God is kind of fuzzy. I think we (God and I) get along just fine but no organized religion I've ever heard of would approve. We definitely intend to introduce our unschooled little heathens to evolution and global warming. And he's getting snipped before this kiddo can crawl.

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Hmmm, food wise we have been slowly moving towards healthier options. Once we move to our house I plan on having a garden.
We do avoid beef and chicken unless it's from a local farmer/meat market.

We co-sleep.

I will be nursing this baby and we have no problem with extended breastfeeding. Nursing did not work out with my DS due to a serious lack of resources, support and people to encourage and help.

We totally love the idea of babywearing but DS HATED being worn so maybe this babe will give us a chance to practice it.

Our DS is circed but next time around we'll definitely be putting more thought into it before deciding.

We cloth diaper.

We do baby lead solids and I mash whatever needs to be mashed.

Our kids will more than likely go to public school. I love entertaining the idea of homeschooling but I'm not sure if I have it in me or not quite yet. We'll see once the time comes.

We do vax.

I stay at home because our home just runs better when I'm here to keep everything in order. We also both strongly believe in the benefits of having a stay at home parent. Also, it's what I feel is my "calling".

Our parenting style is based very strongly on our faith/beliefs.

Our DS does watch television but only PBS at home. When at his grandparents I know he watches other cartoons but we're okay with that.


I'm really passionate about homebirth and natural childbirth and a natural, non-medical/non-intervention approach to normal pregnancies but this came about shortly after my DS' birth. I'm pretty fanatical about it and I'm sure I drive my family and friends crazy.

We're video game geeks but do a good job of keeping it balanced with other activities and not allowing it to consume too much time.

When I first came to MDC during my pregnancy with my son I thought everyone here was crazy and that all the ideas where weird. Then for some reason, I kept coming back. The next thing I know, I'm one of the weirdos with a newborn baby and all these "crazy" parenting/family ideas and practices.

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I used to be more crunchy... I was a combo of vegetarian and vegan for almost 12 years (I was veg with las pregnancy and suprisingling, I had better iron and b12 levels than this time around!). I used to produce very little waste and eat mostly whole foods, in season. I ate so little processed food that my naturopath told me I had a sodium deficiency in the past.
However, since becoming a parent, I have let down my guard due to time and money contstraints. I actually broke down and gave my son ibuprofin (infant) while he was teething (and I said I'd never do that), but homeopathy just wasn't helping!!! I also swore I wouldn't let him watch TV, but now I let him so I can keep him out of my hair while I'm cleaning or cooking). We eat more processed and packaged food and drive our car a lot more than I would like. I feel guilty about theses things all the time. I am aslo a stronger discipinarian than I thought I would be, but I feel comfortable with it most of the time)
But... we do co-sleep (even at 3 yrs), I pretty much exclusively nursed until 1 yr (son wasn't interested in food, so I followed his cues), breastfed until 2 years. No Vax, no circ, cloth diapered and baby-wore. I had a natural hospital birth with an amazing midwife - and I'm doing it again (and looking forward to it!!!). This time I will request that I get baby as soon as s/he is born and no cord clamping or vit K shot.
Diet wise, we eat mostly local and organic when possible. We have a huge garden and tonnes of fruit trees, so when properly organized, we could probably be self-sufficient.
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Oh fun thread

I think I'm relatively crunchy. We co-slept with DD until just recently (she's almost 4) and will do the same for this babe. I breastfed DD until almost 3 and I was upset when I had to wean her before she weaned herself. We AP, GD, babywear, possibly cloth diapering this time around. We don't circ and we do delayed vaxing. I will homebirth with this one and consume the placenta one way or another. I try to parent by instinct and not with power. I think my children are just as valuable as I am, and their opinions and feelings are just as important.

We have fallen off of the organic wagon because of finances, but we do try to eat healthy. I also try my best to be green, but I still give into practicalities. I find myself much more crunchy than anyone I know IRL, but I know around here I'm probably only relatively crunchy.

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Hi everyone, really loved reading this thread.
I, too, used to be more crunchy before, when I lived in Oregon. But it was in different ways than I am now, here in Paris.
Food (and everything else) is very expensive here, so sadly, we've cut down to only occasional organic foods. On the other hand, we eat mostly culturally french & non processed, buy from the local market (this is not a direct farmers market =( but does have fresh regional foods) and local bakery.
We mostly cloth diaper while at home, and I love to sew the covers. We don't own a dryer.
We do extended breastfeeding and I homemade/froze most of her babyfood & purees.
We co-sleep then move on to a crib around 16-18mo. Never let my newborn or young infant cry it out.
We delay vax, and gave all of the legally required ones.
We won't circ any boys.
Up until 6 mo preg with DD, we had planned for a natural water birth in a beautiful Italian clinic. Circumstances changed, we suddenly found ourselves in France with our options highly limited to a medicalized hospital birth. Looks like we'll probably go the same route with this pregnancy, simply out of my loss of a desire to fight the whole system here in a country where I still don't really speak the language well enough.
Love baby wearing, and its essential for metro transportation anywhere in paris, but use the stroller tons too for groceries as we dont own a car.
Love love love wooden toys, but I'm not against plastics either, we will take them as gifts but prefer to spend our money on mostly wooden or educational/craft supplies when we do purchase the occasional toy.
Not against limited educational videos for DD but we haven't owned a TV for years. (getting one soon though.)
Used to be a big organic gardener, but to have a garden here,is a rediculously expensive luxury so I'm just managing to try not to kill my few potted plants in the apartment. Here, I still make homemade jam, but we usually have to buy the fruit from the market, which seems wierd to me.
In all, I feel like I pick and choose what works best for us, but can't subscribe 100% to any strict philosophy. Not sure if I would be considered truely AP or not, but I think at least some of the ideas work for me some of the time.

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It's not all of MDC, our DDC just seems to unexpectedly have a large percentage. (Which is ok. I'm all dandy-candy with whatever works for people.)

That said, I didn't even think to talk about being a flaming liberal. I guess I took it for granted. I've been super active in the alternative sexuality world for more than ten years. My husband is extremely feminist and atheist whereas my relationship with God is kind of fuzzy. I think we (God and I) get along just fine but no organized religion I've ever heard of would approve. We definitely intend to introduce our unschooled little heathens to evolution and global warming. And he's getting snipped before this kiddo can crawl.
I never thought liberal vs conservative as far as crunchy, but I would say I am definitely a liberal, I am raising my son to be a liberal, as far as God, I really don't know where I stand with him, I am not sure I believe I guess Agnostic best describes me at this point in my life, there was a time I was a devoted practicing Catholic as was DH. DH is now a non-believer. We are raising our children to question everything, and come up with your own set of beliefs.

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I'm a growing crunchier with education kind of person I guess. When I had my first 2 I didn't really read anything or know anything. Didn't know what AP was. Had no one around who understood the bit of crunchiness (sp?) I naturally had.

I wanted to homebirth with my first 2, but didn't know I actually could and didn't have the support I needed. But I did hb with my 3rd and plan to with this one as well.

My first 2 are vax'd. Although they stopped getting the flu vax when #2 was a baby and the nurse "mistakenly" asked me if we were getting it that day, instead of telling me which is what had always happened before. A light bulb went on in my head saying "Wait, I have a choice?!" and I said no they weren't. DS is vax free. I haven't decided if that will be something I leave for him to choose when he is older or if we will eventually start vaxing. I don't plan to vax at first with this baby either.

I didn't have cloth or know where to get them with dd#1. Tried them with dd #2 but she outgrew hers so quickly and I couldn't afford to buy more. Used them for the 1st year with ds. I want to cloth diaper this one as well, but I don't have any so we'll see if I can slowly start stocking up.

We have co-slept from the beginning. We tried to use a bassinet with dd#1 but she was NOT having it. When she was about 4 or 5 months old we tried to move her to a crib. She would only sleep in it in our room (which was very small) and usually she wouldn't stay in it very long. Dd#2 would sleep in the crib some, but then dd#1 broke it and we just never bought a new one. Right now DS is the only one co-sleeping with us and we're slowly trying to shift him to his own bed.

All my kids have nursed past a year. Ds has actually made it past 2 thanks to the information and support I've had. He also pretty much exlusively breastfed until after a year.

We pretty much only go to the dr for the yearly check up or if there is a real need to go like when DS had severe croup and stridor. And when dd#2 broke her wrist. I do go to a cnm for prenatal visits though.

We really don't take over the counter medicines either. We prefer more natural ways of dealing with health.

We're working on being greener. We compost. We try to reuse stuff for the kids' art projects at least. I'm planning to use soap free bath water for watering the garden this summer. We have our own food garden. We love shopping locally and at the farmer's markets. At our next home we plan to put up solar pannels. We'd like to live at least somewhat off the grid. We planted a tree with ds's placenta.

We homeschool.

DS is intact and any other boys we have will be as well.

I love wooden toys, but we do also have plastic toys.

With ds I finally had appropriate babywearing stuff. (i.e. not the little snugglie that baby only fit in for maybe 3 months.)

We do watch tv here. I'd like it to be less. And we're working on that.

We love going out and hiking and stuff though, too.

I believe that all children are a blessing and have never had the opportunity to plan a pregnancy. I have the attitude that if God wants to bless us with more so be it. If God feels that we have our fill then so be it. I'm cool either way. DH doesn't exactly feel that way so we do use contraception.

I am a Christian but I don't know that I'm exactly conservative.
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I find it fascinating that you find those all the way to the right and all the way to the left and in the middle, in one place, with as much harmony as there seems to be here at MDC.

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