Bubba (9) Lukey (5) Fat Baby (2) Me
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It sucks.
Wife to a wonderful husband, mom to 5 amazing boys, 2 m/c and Knox Cornelius our 5th son born at 15weeks 12/3/2011, Lillian Faith our 1st daughter, born at 14 weeks May 19, 2012 (Turner Syndrome).
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Happily unmarried to DP Parenting: DD (March '06) , DS (August '10) , and our furry kids Guiney Pig, Po the POlice, and Mrs. Puff. Loving WAHM life in the Mortgage Bizz with DP.
Anyway, dh has not told her about this baby. When we were pregnant last spring he told her, she was agreeable about it for about 2 minutes before immediately turning it into another one of her terrible crosses to bear. She's a peach. He's meeting up with her next week and I dread it for him. She's one of those people who's just straight up poisonous.
I really wasn't expecting that reaction, honestly. I thought she'd be happy, seeing as DH is her only child and only chance at grandchildren, and back when I was pregnant with DS2 she was still holding out hope for a granddaughter.
Bubba (9) Lukey (5) Fat Baby (2) Me
When DH told his mom about our first pregnancy, her words to him were "oh no, oh no, oh no, I knew something was wrong." Then she also told us she didn't want us to have a boy and said to me that she wants me to have a girl so she can "have a daughter all her own." That did not sit well with me. Like excuse me woman, she won't be your daughter, she's MINE!!!! It really hurt DH's feelings when she reacted like that because we had tried for over a year and a half to get pregnant with her and had two bleeding episodes (one of which we were told I was miscarrying). This baby meant the world to him and she couldn't even be happy for him for one second. She also was positive we had had an ultrasound and knew it was a boy and that we had told my family but not told them. For starters I was UP'ing (which she had a MAJOR issue with, of course) and couldn't possibly have had an ultrasound since I wasn't seeing a doctor. She got put in her place when this "boy" we were having came out with a vagina!!!!
This pregnancy, when DH told her about it, she told him she knew something was up and that she knew I was pregnant!! Ugh, whatever, lady. Then a week later she told him I wasn't pregnant and that those pregnancy tests lie and that I couldn't possibly know I was pregnant since I hadn't seen a doctor yet. Give me a break you hag!!!!! Now she is mad because I had surgery when I was pregnant with this baby and we KNEW we were pregnant. Truth is, is they did a blood test the day before I had surgery and it came back negative. Exactly a week later, I took a htp and it came back positive, so, no, we did NOT know we were pregnant, but do you think she'll believe us?
I am just so sorry that some of us have to deal with all this carp!!!!!!!
Just wanted to mention that us too, are old enough to have children. 27 and 27 and we own our own house....and vehicle and we both have jobs.
It is so not fair to those of us that have to deal with toxic MIL's.
What kind of behavior have you guys seen from FILs, if they are in the picture? Mine has totally enabled MIL's behavior to a sick, sad degree. He's pretty much told DH to "forget" about them, because he (DH) has his own family now. DH is reluctant to do so since through childhood until the past few years, his family was fairly normal and happy, and he really misses it.
Sorry to thread-highjack and turn this into a MIL gripefest, but don't we all need it sometimes?
Because eventually I was going to post it on Facebook, and we're both friends with MIL's cousin, who she's really close to, and it would have been holy hell for her to hear about the baby from her cousin first.
This is the ONLY reason I told my father on the phone, and he had a similar reaction. I knew he would, but it didn't make it any easier.
It stinks when those around us can't just accept children as the blessings they are.