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#1 of 39 Old 02-18-2010, 04:41 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I had an ultrasound today, and the baby has defects that make it "not
compatible with life." The baby's heart and liver are growing outside its
body, and there is no skull closing over the brain. Apparently, this is a
fluke caused by a thin membrane that attaches itself to the baby for no
reason and doesn't allow the placenta to close all the way, which causes
all kinds of strange development (including no traceable spinal cord, also
the case with our baby). We are terminating tomorrow.

This was our last shot. Thank you for being here.

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#2 of 39 Old 02-18-2010, 04:47 PM
 
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oh mama, i am so, so sorry.
words can't do this justice.

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Oh my, so sorry. Many hugs being sent your way. I am so, so sorry.
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No words can offer enough comfort. My heart is aching for your loss. I will be praying for you, and hope you find comfort and peace somehow in this time.

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I am so sorry. (((Hugs)))

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Suzannah, Words can not express how very sorry I am for you. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. I can't even imagine how you must feel and how difficult this has to be for you. I am so sorry. I will be praying for you and DH and that you will find healing in time.
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I am so sorry! I will be thinking of you in the coming weeks and I hope you can heal quickly from this. Loss is never easy so please take care of yourself and give yourself the time you need.

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I am so sorry..

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#9 of 39 Old 02-18-2010, 05:43 PM
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Suzannah, I am so so sorry for your loss. Everyone here is right- words do not justice to how unfair this is.

for your little one.

You'll be in my thoughts.

The babymoon isn't over! Our long awaited A born 7/18/10, making us laugh and smile every day.
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Thinking and praying for you and your husband.

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I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you *hugs*

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Oh gosh. I'm so terribly sorry. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better and I'm really really sorry for that.

My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.

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I'm so sorry and will be thinking of you during this time.

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I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself and each other. My thoughts are with you...
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My goodness mama, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. May you find some peace during this difficult time.
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Oh no... I'm so sorry mama.

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I'm so sorry. If this was your last shot at pregnancy, I hope you find other ways to mother through adoption, volunteer work, or other outlets.

CD'ing, homebirthing, milk making school teacher. Supporting my family on my income and trying to get out of debt in 2013!
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I'm so sorry Suzannah.


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Oh, mama, I am so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.

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I'm so so sorry. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling.

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I am so sorry!

Cheryl, wife to an amazing man, homeschooling SAHM to Gavin 12/03, Rhys 09/06, and Ian Aug 11, 2010.

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I'm so sorry. I hope you are able to heal from this.
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I'm. So sorry for you.

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I'm so sorry, mama. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Words cannot express how sorry I am for you and your partner. You and your beautiful baby will be in my prayers.

Mama to nine gorgeous babies, with finale #10 due April'14.
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So sad and sorry

Likes a little crunch with occasional sogginess~Misty,Mama to L1, L2, L3, L4,L5 and Loving J!
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My heart goes out to you, I'll be praying for healing for you and your partner.

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I'm so, so sorry.

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I am so so so sorry for this terrible loss, my thoughts are with you as you go through this horrible time.

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I am so sorry.
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