We took her to the vet yesterday afternoon for the procedure and took almost 3 yr old DS. He got super squirrelly, making it really hard to focus on what was going on. I think it was his way of reacting to the stress. Then we went out to dinner because we didn't want to come home yet to our kitty-less house and on the way into the restaurant he was so squirrelly while I was holding his hand walking that he pulled me down. I guess the pregnancy contributed to loosing my balance, and we both landed face down on the sidewalk. I ended up the worst with a badly bruised right knee and a scraped up/torn pants left knee and burning hands. I just lay there on the ground sobbing. I felt so pathetic. And man did the waterworks kick in. DS was uncharacteristically a nightmare at dinner, right when we needed him to be "good", you know?
And, today I'm solo parenting and it's not going well. DS is driving me crazy and I keep crying.
Just needed some support.
Megan-39, Postpartum Doula, DW to Sacha-40 (18 years together) and Mama to Finn Alexander born 4/2/07 and Zivia Littlewood born 8/23/10
Cheryl, wife to an amazing man, homeschooling SAHM to Gavin 12/03, Rhys 09/06, and Ian Aug 11, 2010.
When I lost my dog of 12 years (who had gotten me through the roughest parts of adolescence) I was devastated. My housemate at the time was a chaplain at a large Boston hospital, and suggested that I put up some of my favorite pictures of my dog where I would see them frequently through the day. I thought he was nuts, given that I would start crying every time I even thought of my dog. But I was so, so, depressed that I finally gave it a try, and it actually really did help since I felt a little closer to her every time I looked at a happy picture of her. It helped remind me that as long as I hold on to happy memories of her, she is still with me.
s mama. It will get better, really it will.
I lost my two cats when I was pregnant with DS and it broke my heart - never a worse time for these things than when you are pregnant and vulnerable already. sending you hugs and healing vibes!
Franziska , DW to )oi , SAHM to Noah 06/2008, Sophia 08/2010, and Junis 11/2012
Pets are such amazing creatures, the non-verbal communication, the love and comfort. Honestly one of the several reasons I wanted to get pregnant at this time in my life is that my dog can be here with me. I read something yesterday, a woman described her cat as "an angel disguised as a cat". I couldn't agree more. Take time with you loss. I love the pictures idea posted above. And embrace your loss. Some people might think "it's only a pet", but those of us that know the truth, it is a devastating loss. These creatures are so embedded in the minutia of our everyday. And this is more involved than some friends or loved ones.
I think this is Dr. Suess, "Don't cry that it's over, but smile that it happened".
Hope you feel better!
We are truly the only one's who can make the decision when it is time to let them and help them go. They depend on us to make that decision and follow through, no matter how painful it is. we are their humans and they trust us and love us unconditionally. Even though it doesn't feel like it in the moment I always try to remind myself in the following days that helping them move on was a final gift of my love and devotion. It doesn't help much when the loss is still fresh but in hindsighht I can see it more clearly and know I did what was needed and when it was time.
She's thankful Megan, and still around you.
Much love, peace and to you and ds and dw.
It may help to talk to your son about what happened and what you're both feeling. We just lost our midwife, and we just had to explain to our DD that Mama and Dada were very sad about our friend and we could use some hugs and snuggles. They understand a lot and giving them concrete ways to cope and support can help both of you.
We lost our kitty when DD was 6 months old. It was heartbreaking. I still miss her and think about her everyday!
I also fell in my last pregnancy. I was 36 weeks, and fell down the 2 garage steps onto the hard concrete. I was all alone, too. My purse went flying and my cell phone out of it..I shielded my huge belly, but laid there and just bawled. I guess shocked, hands/knees in pain and emotional over feeling worried and like a kid that just laid there...
Anyway, all was well, and I'm so sorry. I know how scary it is. I hope this week is much better for you.
Blessed Christian Wife and Homeschooling Mother joyfully raising 10 children including newborn boy/girl twins!
‘To someone whose god is science, vaccination makes sense. But to someone whose god is God, it is appalling’ - Dr. Golden.