Since I clearly don't trust an IUD anymore, and we're both CERTAIN we would not want a third, there will be a snipping. I want him to wait until after the birth only because I don't want him, ahem, "out of service" prior to that. Preggo sex rocks.
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
I remember after #3 was born, I felt that there was another baby that was needed to complete our family. I honestly thought I'd end up convincing DH to adopt--as I'm adopted as well. But we got preggers, and now #4 is on the way.
I don't know if I'll still feel that there's another child that we're meant to adopt after #4 comes.
I was looking forward to next year because DD (#3) had gotten into our Montessori's 3 year old program, and all three would be in school. I'd have time to myself until 1:00 p.m. each day. Now, we're moving someplace else, and I'll have at least the baby and DD home...possibly her elder brother as well as I'm not sure I want to send him to Kindy. (Different cut-off dates where we're moving. He was supposed to do another year of PreK at his Montessori school.)
Mom to DS(8), DS(6), DD(4), and DS(1). "Kids do as well as they can."
Financially it would be tight to have two, but we're both moving ahead in our careers and expect that our income will grow as our family does too. I just don't know yet, but I'm trying to face both options (never feeling a child move inside me again vs. never feeling this uncomfortable again).
He's a very loving, hands-on daddy and a good husband, and I have trouble saying no to him. I love him so much that I am not absolutely refusing... yet. I told him if I have any serious pregnancy complications with this current one, the idea of more is out the door. Plus I want to see how well we deal with 2 lo's first, and how our financial situation shakes out over the next couple years. But if it was not for his desire for a son, I'd stop at this baby.
The thing is... I really would love to see dh raise a mini-him!
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10