This birth center is not at all comparable to a hospital birth, it's kind of a "convenient" home birth, where the midwives do most of the prep and clean up. You just kind of show up and have the baby, then go home after about 5 hours. So I can understand why it would be chosen over a hospital birth...I'm just having a hard time figuring out why someone would choose it over a birth in their OWN home
My mw said that a lot of people who want an out of hospital experience aren't ready to make the "jump" to homebirth, and the center is their answer. I think I chose it at first so as not to freak out members of my family who might be opposed to the idea of a home birth. It gives the impressions of being "safer" even though, really, it's not at all. Once everyone got used to the idea of being out of hospital (and spent some time at the birth center) it slowly dawned on everyone (myself included) that I might as well save time and stay home!!
I'm trying NOT to get super angry. I want him to feel comfortable about this whole thing because I would honestly not have a positive experience if I thought he was feeling uncomfortable about anything. The problem is, he wasn't telling me what his issues were exactly. He says he doesn't care about what other people think, he's not worried about safety and he trusts my midwife. So, I can't figure out why he's opposed to it. "Weird" is not a good enough reason!!
We talked about it a bit today and I told him that if he had *strong convictions against it that he could share with me that I would settle myself with the birth center. However, if he can't come up with any reason besides, "It seems weird," I'm not a happy camper. He asked me if I would have pressure or added stress trying to keep the house immaculate before birth and I told him I thought of it more as "motivation". Then he wanted to know if I would be okay giving birth in a home that isn't ours that we will leave someday. I told him I wasn't sure how I would feel when we moved out, but I can assure him that the birth experience here wasn't going to make me want to STAY forever! I'd be leaving the hospital or birthing center anyway
When I asked him if he could see any advantages to a home birth he said no. I told him my list of "pros" and I hope it's enough to help him see that it's worth the initial feeling of uneasiness he may feel about the whole thing. He said he'll think about it some more. I'm praying he'll look at it objectively. I have a feeling that either way he knows I'm going to get what I want...I just really want him to be onboard with the whole thing....kwim?