For the first 21 weeks of my pregnancy I saw a midwife at a local clinic. Liked her a lot. But she doesn't deliver babies, she only does prenatal care under some OBGYN I never met. She recommended a doctor (he's a D.O.) that is affiliated with the hospital I wanted to deliver at.
At first he seemed okay, but each time I see him I like him less. He seems rushed, smug, inattentive, and like he doesn't remember who I am. He seems surprised that I know anything about pregnancy. (For example, AFTER I tell him that when I have minor contractions I lay on my left side and drink water until they get better, he proceeds to tell me tyhose are called Braxton Hicks contractions and that I shouldn't worry about them... yes, I know! I've had 2 children already!)
He quietly looked at my birth plan, which is very minimal, with his head cocked and a smug grin. Then he said, "Well the nurses will want to take the baby and do routine procedures instead of giving the baby to you right away -- but they do it in the same room." I responded that I wanted skin-to-skin contact ASAP, and breastfeeding to help get the placenta out. "I guess you can try to discuss that with the nurses then," he said. He just seems like he doesn't respect me, like he wonders why I'm trying to control anything. "Don't worry your pretty little head," kwim?
I have seen him a total of 4 times now (at 23 weeks, 26 weeks, 28 weeks, and then at 32 weeks). He was out of town and didn't have anyone filling in for him during the time I was supposed to have my 30 week visit. During those 4 visits, I have seen him a total of about 25 minutes, and we have been interrupted by phone calls or knocks on the door 3 times. I notice when I have an 8:30 am appt with him, so do 3 other pregnant women sitting in the waiting room.
I've recommended to other mamas to keep looking if you aren't happy with your care provider, because it's so important. But at this point I'm tired... and I don't think I trust ANY care provider anymore. I have a nice big tub, but I'm scared to have a home waterbirth because of how much I bled the last 2 times (not to mention the prohibitive expense of home midwife care).
At this point I figure I'm just going to stick with the doc I don't care for, because it could be worse. At least he doesn't seem prone to inductions and C-sections. Sigh... I wonder what it's like to deliver your baby with someone you really trust and you know cares about your wishes? Never experienced it.