If struggling to care for two means being a wimp, count me in! We are also tandem nursing, and it is hard. We do only three times a day, but my toddler pouts and complains every time I feed the baby. Sigh. I hear what you mean about other women doing this better and with more grace. My mom recently offered to help me stay at home longer, but I decided to go back to work as planned and hire one of those graceful women to nanny my kids. I love them to death, but I'm not good at juggling the two, and I know my older DD just gets bored because I don't plan enough activities and playmates for her. At least she is in half day preschool, so I do get 3 hours each morning to try to regain my sanity.
CD'ing, homebirthing, milk making school teacher. Supporting my family on my income and trying to get out of debt in 2013!