Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: CA - moving to Maui soon
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I need some perspective. I think I may be hormonally-challenged right now, and I'm not sure if I'm seeing this situation clearly. Please give me your two cents!
Some background: We live in a tiny one-bedroom apartment right now. All four of us (2 yo DD, 1 month old DD, DH and me) share 700 sq. feet. We all sleep in one small room, with baby in a bassinet on the left side, mommy and daddy in a queen bed, and 2yo in a toddler bed on the right side. 2yo usually climbs into our bed at some point in the night. Baby wakes 3 times a night on average, and I often take her to the living room to nurse on the couch when the bed is crowded.
The situation: DH's dad is in town and wants to sleep on our sofa. I think we are too pinched and I'm still too overwhelmed with the 2 babes. I am tandem breastfeeding and the thought of having no privacy unless I go in the bedroom makes me feel claustrophobic. I only gave birth a month ago and I'm still adjusting, as is our 2 yo. There are other relatives in the area, I'm not sure why he couldn't stay with them. We already have plans to get together while he is in town, I just had no idea he was going to want to stay with us.
I was pretty bitchy about it when this idea was sprung on me by DH this morning (his dad would be coming tonight!) and I don't know if I am being unreasonable. When his dad asked to stay here, DH told him that our apt was only 700 sq feet. His dad said "I don't mind." I thought to myself, maybe YOU don't mind, but I do! Am I being a jerk?
Happily married mother of DD1 (10/87), DD2 (7/08), and DD3 (8/10)