Just had to vent on my latest frustration. We are having our second child and just like with our first we found out the gender at our 20-week ultrasound. For us, it is part of the bonding process and I believe there are enough surprises in the delivery room. We have told most of the family...so it is pretty public knowledge now, but my in-laws don't want to know. I respect their wishes; however, I have this fear that they are going to find out from someone else and I feel like the parents should have the honor of sharing that news. I suppose it would be different if my husband didn't have 6 siblings (who all know) and if we didn't live in the same town and attend the same church. My husband already dropped a "him" when talking about the baby...so I don't see how everyone who knows us both is going to be able to prevent the he, him, boy, son, etc. from slipping out of their mouths. I tried to talk to them and tell them how I feel but it ended in an argument. They said they are willing to take the chance so they can be the only people who didn't know the gender. I just don't know what else to do but I know they are going to find out in the next 20 weeks (they won't even be able to visit us unless they want to see all the blue/green stuff or attend our baby shower if we have one).