I won't say I was 100% supportive of it, but dh is DONE DONE DONE with kids so I felt the need to respect that.
But now I'm super worried that something will happen to the baby and we won't be able to have another! I asked him to wait until after Fin got here, but he was adamant about having it done now so he'd be fully recovered and "cleared" by the time I was, uh, ready to go again post-baby. And I see his point.
Anyone else's dh having a vasectomy before baby gets here?
My DH said he is having one. I still want one more, so I hope he will put it off for a bit. At the very least, like you mentioned - I hope he waits until our healthy baby is born and with us for a bit before going through with it.
However, I will respect his wishes too. If he's really done, I don't want to have another baby with someone he is against it.
On the plus side, if he ends up wanting another (lets not even start to think about anything happening to the precious one in you right now!) a V-reversal is a lot less complicated with higher success rates and less risks than a tubal reversal!
Dh would probably have gotten it done before our daughter is born, but I asked him to wait until she's six months old. He said that's fine...as long as he can be fully recovered before GOLF SEASON!
At least your guy wanted to be fully recovered for something couples-centered!
My very good friend's husband got his V the month before their last baby was due. Everything turned out fine.
Like your dh, I suspect, my friend's husband just didn't want to risk a surprise pregnancy.
We are waiting untill after the baby comes. But haven't really done any reasearch or anything. What should we know when looking at getting a vasectomy?
Originally Posted by RedOakMomma
Dh would probably have gotten it done before our daughter is born, but I asked him to wait until she's six months old. He said that's fine...as long as he can be fully recovered before GOLF SEASON!
Originally Posted by RedOakMomma
Dh would probably have gotten it done before our daughter is born, but I asked him to wait until she's six months old. He said that's fine...as long as he can be fully recovered before GOLF SEASON!
That's what my DH said too!! A perk of his job is lots of golf and he loves it...it's the first thing he thought of. LOL! I agreed cause there aren't many other perks. Haha.
I think my DH is aiming for just after Christmas but before the New Year.
Yep, my dh is ready and waiting! I convinced him to wait and see that this birth/baby is healthy and without complications. I am also not 100% supportive, but as I get more miserable with the third trimester blues (big, tired, achy), I am thinking I really don't want to be pregnant again anyway, so...
Always good to know a reversal would be possible too!
I started out not sure if I wanted him to have it or not-- I've always said I wanted 2-3 kids, he's always said he wanted 2. Since I'm so young, being on the pill for 20 years is not an option, I don't want major abdominal surgery if I can avoid it, and everything else is a bit too unreliable for my taste. So I told him that if he doesn't want any more children, he may have to be responsible for birth control, and he agreed.
As this pregnancy has progressed I have come to terms with it. I think I'll be happy with just my two kids. There is a lot coming in to the decision to not have any more children, from emotional considerations to financial considerations and everything in between.
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