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"With the current formula, about 2/3 of babies are born within ten days of their due dates, with approximately 80% of babies born sometime between week 38 and 42 after LMP."

Ok, my due date is a little more then 10 days away (38w2d), I am going to pretend today that the chances of having a baby today are almost zero. I woke several times last night with contractions, but they were gone when I woke this morning. Now I am crampy with a back ache.

The baby will come when he is ready. I am not going to do anything to speed it up.

Ok, now I feel ready to go out and be present for my boys. I don't want to be distracted all day, for their sake and mine.

How do you keep from obsessing??

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Good question! We turned 40 today, and this is our 'last' baby, so it really is the last time I will hold a baby in my uterus, so I try and savor these last days/weeks. I also have set weekly milestone treats for me. Today I'm getting a pedicure, at 41 a prenatal massage, at 42 acupuncture for relaxation, and we will see if I get to 43. It makes it something to really look forward to and I still have to be pregnant to get it, but of course, if I miss a massage because my baby came, I'd be fine with that.
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I just keep telling myself this baby isn't coming until closer to my due date. My intuition says at the EARLIEST, three days before my due date.

What I can't keep from obsessing about is how crappy I feel and how much better I'll feel once the baby is here. But I'm not ready for labor, birth or parenting two children yet!

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Eh. I have not kept from obessing at all. But today I was done. DS was fussy today, and I realized he only has a few more days/weeks of being the center of my universe, and I will treasure that.
And this is likely my last baby as well, so I am trying to enjoy the squirms, and ignore the aches.

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[QUOTE=Lit Chick;15793067]DS was fussy today, and I realized he only has a few more days/weeks of being the center of my universe, and I will treasure that.QUOTE]

What a great way to think about it! I really need to stop obsessing and just treasure these last few weeks that DS is still my little baby and focus on him. Thanks for that, it just makes my discomfort seem so trivial now.
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I am so proud of myself!
In the weekly thread, I posted about how I took a baby-free me day and it broke the obession. I did not take my supplements, I did not drink RRL tea, I halted all nesting activity and put dirty dishes in the sink instead of the dishwasher, took a bath, read trashy mags and watched trashy TV. And it was like a weight was lifted off of me.

Today I had an MW appointment and just felt really positive. My MW offered to do an exam and a strip if I wanted. I was not going to strip, but for a moment I was tempted to get a check, to see where things were. And then I said no - I can feel my body changing, but trying to guess what today's changes will mean will but me back in my head too much. So I'll just wait and see.
My MWs beamed. They made me feel like such a powerful mama for letting go and letting my body just do it's thing.

Ahhhh. It's impossible to force yourself to let it all go, but when you do it feels so good. I hope you all get there! And I hope my happy acceptance lasts!

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Yay Lit Chick! Good for you. I finally gave up on my supplements. They're making me too nauseous. And I haven't had my RRL in a few days either. I'm really trying to just relax and rest and enjoy my DD being my "only" for a few more days/weeks.

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Yeah, you guys are my tribe! Trying to do the same, feeling much more at ease and getting rest. These babies will come when they are ready and we will be in a good space to receive them!

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I love that idea Litchick. I've been telling the baby this, over and over today:

"You'll come on your own when you're ready. Just let my body know and it'll help you out."
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Eh. I have not kept from obessing at all. But today I was done. DS was fussy today, and I realized he only has a few more days/weeks of being the center of my universe, and I will treasure that.
And this is likely my last baby as well, so I am trying to enjoy the squirms, and ignore the aches.
I really needed to read this. DD is having such a hard time emotionally, she's all hormonal herself and that seriously adds to the drama. I'm going to spend the next few days cuddling her more.

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I pretend that he isn't due until the 29. They will induce me if he isn't here yet, so that is his eviction date. I have had several conversations with him, reassuring him that anytime after the 1st would be ok! But also warning him that trying to hang out until the 29 would be less positive for both of us.

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I really needed to read this. DD is having such a hard time emotionally, she's all hormonal herself and that seriously adds to the drama. I'm going to spend the next few days cuddling her more.
My DD has been very emotional lately too. I wasn't sure if it was the move, the new classroom at school or the pregnancy. She definitely seems to want/need more cuddles lately and I'm glad I'm able to do that for her. She's used to me picking her up all the time and now I can barely lift her so things have changed a lot in her little world.

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My MWs beamed. They made me feel like such a powerful mama for letting go and letting my body just do it's thing.
That's really cool. It's so important to have supportive providers.

Although...I am going to get checked tomorrow But I know all too well from DD's birth that I could walk around 4+ cm for weeks, so I trust myself to take it with a grain of salt and not let it add to the pressure one way or the other. OTOH, all the contrax I've been having tonight, even though they're really much more BH'y than "real", those are a bit harder to tell myself to chill out about, which I need to do. I'm only 37 wks, it's more than likely a bit of prodomal starting up or even just too much caffeine today. Gotta go with the flow and not try to make something out of everything.

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...I realized he only has a few more days/weeks of being the center of my universe, and I will treasure that.
This is the thought that keeps running through my head and heart as well. It has definitely brought me to tears more than once. I have the typical anxiety about, "How will I love this new baby as much as my first??" I know I will, but it is hard to wrap my head around!

Also... I'm going to start giving myself a weekly "treat" as well. 37 weeks today, so I'll think of something weekly from here on out! I really want to savor and enjoy being pregnant as long as baby needs to keep growing in me. Easier said than done, but an encouraging thread like this sure helps. Thanks!
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