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#1 of 8 Old 09-09-2010, 11:08 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I just sat down and wrote out my experiences with my last 2 pregnancies, my fears and bawled my eyes out... more than once. I never talk about my prior experiences (traumatic births) for fear of interfereing with someones birth mojo with negativity...

But I did... I put it over in the trauma board if anyone wants to read it. I didn't want to post it here but I could absolutely use words, wisdom and support from other mama's... I should have done this a long time ago...

I sure hope the waterworks and feeling the need to release all of the bad things is a sign of labor... well, I suppose it is anyway since my EDD is 10 days away, lol.

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ddcc, but, I really believe so. I'm very sunshine and rainbows at work, and I nearly told my boss to f- off the day before I went into labor.

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I'm going to sound much loonier than my normal comfort zone of beliefs, but yeah...I think letting it all out there helps.

With my first pregnancy, I was facing an induction deadline because I went past 40wks with twins. Three days before the induction, I cried and stormed and begged and 'fessed and pleaded with the babies all day. Total emotional exhaustion.

The next day, the next morning actually, my water broke.

I think talking to the baby, letting it all out, getting out your fears...ALL of it...is HUGE in letting labor progress. Your mind is so incredibly powerful--both in its ability to hold you back, or to let you move forward.

Wishing you a peaceful birth, mama.

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I'd like to stop crying though... LOL.

I knew I was carrying around trauma... scars, both physically and emotionally from my births. But something shifted in me today that I needed to write it down... I needed to talk about it. Something I rarely do because I don't want to scare other women with traumatic birth.

I wish traumatic birth was viewed by society as PTSD... No... we get told 'your baby is healthy, get over it.'

Sigh... and more tears... *sniff*

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I wish I was with you physically cause I would give you a massive hug and let you cry as LONG as you needed! I think it's great that you are soul searching and working through all of this. It could be a sign of labor, if so, I'm destined to have this baby any second, but I think the more cleaning up you do pre-birth, the better your birth will go.

Writing things down is great, at least for me. I feel like I'm 'documenting' it, so it becomes more real, like it REALLY did happen, and it's not just memories or feelings in my head.

It could be an emotional 'flushing', kinda like the body does physically sometimes before labor, ykwim? Like the flu like symptoms? Maybe your subconscious is cleaning it's self so you can be more open to labor and revert back to your past trauma when labor happens.

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wow i went over and read your story.. man . no wonder you're crying!!

i hope its a sign of labor! i have been thinking a lot about my past births (not horrible, but not what i wanted) i wish i had something more helpful to say other than i am right there with you getting over my fears and moving past my previous births..

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Not an immediate sign but it is a sign that the pregnancy is coming to a close...

Mine started about a week ago (a few days after my prodromal got so horrible)

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I'd like to stop crying though... LOL.

I knew I was carrying around trauma... scars, both physically and emotionally from my births. But something shifted in me today that I needed to write it down... I needed to talk about it. Something I rarely do because I don't want to scare other women with traumatic birth.

I wish traumatic birth was viewed by society as PTSD... No... we get told 'your baby is healthy, get over it.'

Sigh... and more tears... *sniff*
ddcc *again*, but I just want to tell you that you are not alone with traumatic birth. I wish that women weren't made to feel that they shouldn't talk about traumatic birth (and birth loss). It makes a awful situation even more isolating.

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