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#1 of 22 Old 09-21-2010, 10:45 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Its getting harder and harder... to come here and see all these babies born and my stubborn little girl? Still nothing. Cervix is the same as its been, maybe a little softer. That is it.

Its getting harder and harder... to walk without crying.

Its getting harder and harder... to sleep through these contractions that aren't doing anything.

Its getting harder and harder... to put in my EPO, hoping for SOME change to my cervix and nothing... at all...

Its getting harder and harder... to believe I am not going to be induced.

Its getting harder and harder... to believe if I am induced, I will not need a C-section because my cervix is not doing anything.

Its getting harder and harder... to believe my body remembers how to have a baby.

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Good Morning Mae,

I come here and check on you daily, more than once actually, just to see updates. I'm so sorry your having such a hard time, but please know she will come soon.

If you'd like, I'd be more than happy to, drive down (I'm east of Raleigh) and bring you an Ambien (approved by my OB as safe during pregnancy to help with sleeping) and you can lay down and take a nice long nap. This might help you relax enough and relieve just enough stress to help you out.

You could also take 2 benedryl and lay down for a while.

JMO mama, take it with a grain of salt, or PM me and I'll drive down

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Thank you for the offer. I have benedryl so Ill probably just take those though, it would be an awfully long drive just to put me to sleep lol.

Sleeping today sounds good, since DH doesnt have his phone with him at work I cant sit and text him to keep my mind off things, might as well sleep!

Plus, he ended up sick today... so could probably use the rest to help me not catch it too. (Especially since he does not understand that sick daddy should not give pregnant mommy a kiss before leaving for work, because sick can be transferred that way LOL)

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Yes, I know. I am crying in my decaf this morning because I woke up at least 3 times last night, having dreamed that contractions had started.... and yet nothing was going on. I have the induction scheduled for Sunday and as much as I want to hope that it doesn't come down to that, I do not actually believe I will get to avoid it.

And I want to have just 1 meal without having to think about whether it will mess up my blood sugars.

And I woke up with a sore throat and stuff nose, but am too nervous to take any sudafed for it this late in the game for fear that it would mess up nursing.

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Ah, it's not that far, but I understand. And completely agree, taking 2 of them and laying down would be GREAT for your body right now and sleeping deep will keep you from feeling the achiness of your hips and what not.

Good luck mama!!!

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, MP. Thinking of you and knowing truly how hard it is not to totally lose it. Hope it's Mae Day very soon!

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DDC crashing...

You have been very supportive to all of us in the other DDCs and I saw you were having a rough time. I just wanted to mainly pass on some hugs. It really sucks to be in your position... so close... but so far.

If you are induced, try to visualize this as a successful induction - don't go into it assuming the worst. We all know that yes, of course, it increases chances for a c-section etc. but it is not a done deal!

With my first I was induced at 1 day before 40 weeks (water had broken, never started to labor) and my cervix was not even close to doing anything promising. I had really no dilation or effacement to speak of, I was clearly not quite ready to go into labor yet (I am sure it would have been a week or more still). After about 2 hours of pit. there was no change, I was supposed to take a sleeping pill and rest and we would ramp up again in the morning (while on minimal pit. all night).... but... I threw up, entered active labor and had a baby 4 hours later! From a very unfavorable cervix to baby in 4 intense but quick hours!

With all that your body has been doing I think that you would be even better off and you definitely have a chance for a non c-section delivery even if induced. It sounds like you should prepare now by getting some good REST (I acknowledge this is almost impossible for you at this point - but the best you can manage at least)!


I wish you luck and peace with whatever form the birth of your daughter takes!

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Maeryn! Your body can do this, your body does know how. I've been this over due, and it's awful and hard. So hard, physically, emotionally, it's awful. I wish you the best of luck to find your peace, rest and be ready when your baby is ready to come!!

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s, MP. I went a week longer than I ever had with this pregnancy, and it totally messed with my mind. I was also the least dilated I'd ever been, up until the day before it happened. I also had doubts about my body's ability, and lots of looming induction/c-section fears.

Know what? My body totally remembered. It just chose its own time. Yours will, too. Any day now. It WILL remember. You CAN do this.

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DDCC to offer gigantic s and sending you some energy for your labor... which WILL come. Your body WILL remember. xoxo!

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sending and ELVs your way.

I've been there, it's hard but now that stubborn girl I was waiting on is THREE in a couple of weeks, and you know what? She's still stubborn!

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so sorry mp i hope she arrives for you shortly! if it makes you feel any better at all my cervix wasnt doing anything at all until i went in to labor.

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DDC crashing...
I have been there. I was due 9/15/2004. I waited for *eleven* long, arduous, horrible days until he was born!! I felt like a prisoner of my own body. I hated the wait.

Now he's going to be six on Sunday...

And yours will come! But I know the feelings. xoxo
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And now...

Im hoping I DONT have her tonight

because our water was shut off this afternoon and will not be turned back on until morning.

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I hear ya about walking and wanting to cry. I keep hearing that walking will help bring the baby, but IT HURTS too much

On the other hand, I love reading about all of the babies popping out in our DDC. It gives me hope, it makes me remember that there are women around the globe giving birth every minute of every day... right now. And my time WILL come (even if it might be October )

We can do it!

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If Murphy has any say in the matter, that'll be enough to get you into labor.
Hope it's not tonight!

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DDCC - Just wanted to send you some ELV . Your baby will come out!!!

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No baby yet so at least Ive made it through the water-free night. Just a few more hours and the water should be back on.

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Yay water!!! Just heard it fill our toilet tank... wooo hoooo i can pee!

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MP: I really feel for you. A night without water sounds awful! I don't think I could have stayed there, not being able to go pee!

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I'm glad you have water back.
I can reassure you it will happen and your body does know how. Going my longest ever was definitely trying, but I look back now and miss that "when is it going to happen" anticipation.
Also remember dilation doesn't mean much. My friend was telling me yesterday that with #3 she was maybe a fingertip dilated at her appt just over 40 wks. She went intolabour that night and had her fastest labour. I however was well dilated for weeks this time (and last) and had my longest labour ever this time too.
Trust your body and your little girl!

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