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#1 of 7 Old 01-01-2011, 06:53 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Just wondering how many of us are not finished having babies yet.

Before Elias was conceived we were kind of settling on the idea of being finished at two and I was feeling okay with that.  Now we have three and you would think I should feel complete now, but I don't.  I really think I want #4.  Maybe that will change but I've pretty much felt that way since he was born.  Dh won't give me a definite answer on whether he is up for 4 or not.  He keeps saying things like "financially we can't do another" and "can you imagine how much crazier this house would be if we had 4", but then if I mention him going for the big V or getting rid of the baby stuff E is outgrowing he is all on the fence. If we did I would want Elias to be 2.5 or so when another one comes, so not immediate or anything.

So how many of you are going for another?  What is the desired timeline if you have given it thought?


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You and I sound like we are much in the same place, though we never were set on two!  

 

I definitely do not feel like I am done.  I really, really hope I eventually get to that "done" feeling because I am not even close.  I am pretty certain we will go for one more, sooner rather than later.  My DH keeps joking that we're already cutting into his retirement since he only has about 15 years left until he can retire.  If I had to guess, we will TTC when DS turns one.


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I'd have 10 babies if they were all as great as Lila!  Now talking dh into it is another story lol.  If it happens I think ttc around 2ish :)


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I finally have that done feeling, and I'm thankful for it....I wasn't sure if I'd actually feel it, but I do.  We have four now, and convincing dh to go four this fourth baby was a struggle.  REALLY a struggle...it was a challenge for our marriage, for sure.  But here she is, and now we're all happy.  Dh is absolutely in love with her, I have that "done" feeling that I knew I wouldn't have unless she was here, and we can move on to growing our completed family, rather than adding more.

 

It is strange, sometimes, to be done.  I'm getting used to it, though, and just appreciating every stage as it comes.


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i'm confused. i want a third, but also want to 'get on with life' beyond babies. so lol, i don't know


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Definitely not done!  We'd like one more, but probably not until E. is 3 or 4, given what a spirited baby she has been/is.  I'll be 36 or 37 then, so any sibling for E will likely be our last.


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We used to think we wanted four...now that we have one, we're thinking two. :)

But it's because we love him so much--we want to be able to give him as much attention as we now understand he needs. 


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