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Old 05-14-2010, 04:23 AM - Thread Starter
 
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So, I wasn't feeling the baby move starting two weeks ago, and at my midwife appointment on Friday she could not find the heartbeat. To make a long story short, I went to the emergency room today because I didn't want to wait another week (literally) to get in for the ultrasound that she could refer me to. So, the maternity people couldn't find a heartbeat with the doppler, and did an ultrasound, and there was no heartbeat. They said the baby stopped developing 2 weeks ago.

So, now I'm sitting in the hospital, getting an induction. This is the crappiest thing ever. There is no prize at the end. I'm incredibly bored, and I really just want to go home. There is no excitement. Just waiting...for a corpse.

Suck.
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Sorry to hear that. I experienced something similar when I was 17 and it is very unpleasant. Lots of Love & Hugs to you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss It's not fair is it

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So sorry

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Wow, I am not in your DDC, but I know some of your story. I am so very very sorry!
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I'm sorry
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I'm so sorry. Hugs

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Oh I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope that you are home soon.

Happy mumma to my boys Henny Tom (Nov 30, 2008), Arlo Odie (Oct 5, 2010), and baby SISTER! due mid-Dec 2014.
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oh no! I'm so sorry to hear this news.

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I'm very sorry.

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I am so sorry

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I'm so very sorry.

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I'm sorry, mama.

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s mama! I'm crying for you. I just went through this one week ago today. Please pm if you need to talk. I'm soo soo sorry.
Take care of yourself...give yourself time to grieve. I have a regret. I wish I would have held him more and taken more time alone with him. I don't know what the hospital allows you to do, but if you can, do what you feel you need to do. I'm not sure how far along you are....I delivered at 18w5d but his gestation was only around 15ish weeks. He was a perfect tiny little person. I wish I would have spent more time with him.
Take care mama. You are in my thoughts and prayers...please pm me if you need to talk. s

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I am soo very sorry.

Thank you for sharing AmBam. That is important information.

Children deserve the respect of puzzling it out.
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I'm so sorry! I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

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Ddcc

My heart goes out to you, I am so sorry about your loss.

Happy mama to my four girls S 8.15.02 , L 04.25.06 (gone at 36 weeks ) and L 3.10.07.And another rainbow! Baby C has arrived 10.26.10!
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I'm so sorry to hear your news - my thoughts are with you.
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that sucks big time - so sorry you have to go through this.

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So very sorry to hear that! ((HUGS))

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I am so sorry.Please take time for you to heal mamma!!!

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DDCC - I'm so sorry for your loss. to you
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It's Sunday morning, just after 8am. I've been here since Thursday at 7pm (well, I was here in the hospital earlier than that, but that is when the drugs started).

They are about to check me again, because the induction has not managed to produce a body. I have lost the mucus plug, and there is some bleeding. If I haven't progressed further than the last time they checked me, they are saying I'll be sent home for a day or two to give my uterus a break.

Thank you all for all the support. It has been so helpful.
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Old 05-16-2010, 12:42 PM
 
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Oh mama What a horrible, sad ordeal.

Children deserve the respect of puzzling it out.
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Maybe your body will feel more relaxed at home. I'm sorry. I wish there was more that I could do.
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