Fast Forward two weeks to my repeat anatomy scan and I was brought immediately up to my OB's office where she then had to tell me there was no hb. I was supposed to be 22 weeks 5 days along and they estimated the baby died shortly after I saw the pediatric cardiologist at around 21 weeks.
I went in on Wednesday to labour and delivery and had to go through the entirety of labour. It was more painful this time and I suspect that is, in part, b/c my body was not ready for it. I delivered a baby boy on Thursday morning and we named him Brendan. He weighed just under a pound and was 23 inches long. The reason for his death was apparent upon delivery - he had the cord wrapped around his neck four times! The doctor (and all of the nurses) insist that it is rare at this stage and that four times is almost unheard of and not likely to occur again should I conceive again.
Needless to say the past few days have been hell. Tonight we picked up our DD (3 y.o.) and had to tell her about her baby brother. She "sort of" understood it but really doesn't understand that she doesn't get the opportunity to be the great big sister that she's been planning for months now. I think that is the part that really upset her b/c she has been telling everyone what a great big sister she is going to be
Thanks to everyone in this DDC for all of your support over the past months. Good luck to all of you! I wish you and your families nothing but the best in the future.
I lost a pregnancy at 22 weeks just about 2 years ago and telling our DD was the hardest thing. I know the pain is so fresh and overwhelming now. Please know it gets better though it becomes a part of you.
The Pregnancy and Loss forums here at mothering are an amazing support. Please visit there.
HeatherB ~ mama to 3 wonderful boys: 03/02; 09/04; 09/07 - and Eliana, 11/13/10!
Founder of Houston Birth Alternatives: Be Informed, Encouraged, Supported birth support group and aspiring midwife.
WOHM married to SAHD, living the dream w/our: 3 girls (14,12,10) and 3 boys (7,5,3) and tie-breaker due Jan 2014
Part hippie-chick, part type-A career woman, all mama. Enjoying life as a wife to my partner of 11 years, and a mama to our smarty-pants toddler, Cadence.
Take care of yourself.
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