I havent even had this baby yet and it seems that every conversation I have someone ends up mentioning it. In fact they seemed shocked when we say we are not done, at least now we dont think so. I love the subtle undertones in my familys comments about random people or friends of friends being "fixed" (uhhhhh I HATE that word I would rather they just say sterilize its what it is) or how there are big families out there (hint hint) I mean we live in modern times now theres no need for that many.
(no we're not done yet either )
E & K (13yrs) and our flock of 6!
"Hey little one, why don't you go get cleaned up, you look like a country bumkin."
"Mum, I am a country bumkin"
Equally annoying... we're going to have two boys when this little one is born. Yes, I am happy about this. No, we are not going to try for a girl. No, I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. Now, to quote Oscar the Grouch, "Go away and stop bothering me!"
I really hate how people can't comprehend that anyone would WANT to have more than one or two kids, like it makes you some kind of freak. And of course, since our first three were girls, people assume we only had more to try for a boy. And since this one is a boy, they further assume we're "done." Well, we'll be using NFP to post pone pregnancy for a few years (need a bigger house and vehicle and dh needs to finish school!) but we aren't "done."
More often, though, we get "are you going to have more?" which I just don't see why it's anyone's business. We're actually leaning towards this being our last, but nothing's set in stone at this point... and shouldn't you wait until after you're out of the pangs of late pregnancy/early infancy to make that decision, anyways?
Married to a Navy man of 12 yrs.
03/02: 11/05: 01/08: 10-18-09: 10-31-10 and 7/22/13 with twins and just found out we're again!!
m/c '97 and in '03
over here sterilization, sure it's not unusual but it's by no means expected, in fact it's seen as a little bit odd or extreme...because well "what if" etc...at least in my experience.
i'd have to pay to get it done because i've only got 2 kids so docs would be reluctant....I wonder if i get it half price because i've only got one tube left...lol :P
but yeah, sheesh it's nobodies business to just ask/assume like that, it's incredibly rude!
To be honest, we haven't decided whether or not to have more, but really it's nobodies business but mine and DHs.
I did a post about this a few months ago and my favorite response was somebody said a member of their church with a big family shuts people up by responding with "How was your last pap smear? O I thought inappropriate were OK with you since you started with one"
SAHM to Codi 1/12/08, James 11/3/10 and Connor 4/10/13 with our own personal Superhero DH/daddy
I'm due Oct. 14 with #6. I've been asked by 3 different OB's if I'd like a tubal. The first one I busted out laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes.
Um, no, we find we can space our family size just fine by avoiding the exit on the throughway that leads to the FERTILITY CLINIC.
They read my file. I've had fertility babies, except for one spontaneous conception.
I'm 44 years old a couple of weeks after this baby is due. So why would I want an additional surgery?
If I popped into their practice and said "I'd like to schedule a c-section today, because it's convenient and I'm annoyed at the discomfort of pregnancy in the 37th week", they would say no,
because surgery has risks. And premature babies are at risk.
But I shoud have a tubal ligation.... and it's low risk? baa haa haaa.
I'll take my chances on the twins my OB's aunt had at 48. Because you just know there's an epidemic of pregnant 48 year olds. Oh yeah, uh huh.
Kelli, Upstate NY mama, dh FarmBoy, raising 6:, his, mine, and ours.
We got this non-stop as soon as we started telling people we were having a boy this time. Because girl + boy = perfect family
Yes, I can stop...eventually. How many babies from now, well, that's the bigger question.
It's irksome though. I would have been just as thrilled with another boy!
Loving wife and mama to my sweet little son (Fall 2008) and a beautiful baby girl (Fall 2010)
When a stupid man is doing something he is ashamed of, he always declares that it is his duty. --George Bernard Shaw
To Corban's Mum, yes it is very common here for people to get these procedures done. There's this post-war "American Dream" mentality that dictates perfection in the form of 1 house, 2.5 kids and a dog. The ideal seems to be 2 kids, c/section, and we'll just tie your tubes while we're in there on the last one. We have this really stubborn inability to let go of notions that were proved ineffective 40 years ago.