Anyone else with all 1 gender getting these kind of comments?
I am constantly astounded by the ignorance and stupidity of people!
last night i was knitting with a group of my friends, one of whom has triplet girls.. she said the number of times people, random strangers at that, have ask her why she was using fertility drugs to get pregnant is in the 100o's.. she was not using any kind of fertility treatment..but whose business is it anyways? and half the time they don't even believe her
I especially like the "was it planned?" comment people love to ask... this time i will get to say `YUP! we tried VERY hard` and have them be shocked..because why would anyone want 4 children?!
oh, and when complete strangers decide that they know the sex of your baby by the way you are carrying.. *sigh*
I think my least-favorite version of that was "You need to have a boy so your husband can have someone named after him!" Yeah...no. My oldest girl is named after her daddy. That is enough, random stranger.
Sabra: Mama to Bobbie (3/02), Linda (1/04), Esther (10/05), Marie (11/10), Douglas (11/12), & Psalm (09/14; in Heaven)
Nic, loving mama to 5 with a SURPRISE 6th on the way.
I finally told my friends last week to stop with the boy comments, that this baby is loved and wanted no matter what is between its legs.
She said "I bet you have your fingers crossed for a girl, huh?" What I told her is what I truly feel: I may have hoped for a girl before I got pregnant, but the baby is what it is now and I'm going to love him or her no matter what!
Vegan family since 2011 - Wonderful DS1 born 1/08. Treasured DS2 born 11/10.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." - Maya Angelou
Dh and I are quiverfull, so we'll take however many God gives us. Given that we waited so long for this one, I highly doubt we'll end up with many more. I could care less if it's a boy or a girl. I'm just thrilled to be adding to our family. People just don't get it though.
My family will be perfect if the child is a boy too, thank you very much!
People aren't saying much about "was it planned". I wish they would so I could give them the correct answer, but they're assuming this pregnancy was an "oops" because DS is only 3 months old. We weren't preventing and were open to having another little one at any time God thought best, including immediately if that happened. After trying 3 years for DS, I'm thrilled to have another on the way without any waiting.
I agree that people need to stop talking to pregnant women.
BTW, it made me happy to see this post. I told DH how annoying all the comments are and he thought I was being silly. He isn't bothered by that stuff so it's nice to "talk" to other people who understand.
Lore, mom to my sweet little boy, born at home 11/09, and my spunky little girl, born in the hospital 10/10
When this baby is born and people (inevitably) ask whether it's a girl or boy, we're thinking of saying "Penis," or "Vulva," since that is what they are really asking. That doesn't really cover it if our child is born with ambiguous genitalia though... Maybe we'll have to rethink this plan.
I'm a queer, poly, pagan, (dis)abled, crazy, crunchy, intersectionally-minded feminist. fsonj & I are mamas to our unschooled/freeschooled 12yo & 3yo! (Ask me about co-breastfeeding, supplementing at the breast, inducing lactation, eating placentas, undisturbed birth, and parenting a genderqueer child with Aspergers!)