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Old 07-01-2010, 07:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
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you might have read from my earlier post about being hit by a car.

i delivered her in my bathroom after starting cramps in the shower. had 3 real contractions and she was in my hands. i keep seeing it over and over and over in my head.

she was beautiful...she lived for 2 hours. she even cried twice...little tiny cries. she was perfect. there was nothing wrong with her...she had blonde peach fuzz and james' round little nose and she was just so pretty. :'(

named her "Kelly Beautiful Rain". i know, it might sound kinda corny, but we planned on naming her kelly, then once everything happened i had to put Beautiful in there because she was so so so beautiful, and Rain...well she was so peaceful, and this is so sad, and it seemed to fit.

funeral and cremation on Saturday. thank god the funeral home is family owned and way way back they had a baby die, so they're waiving all their fees. so total $500. compared to almost $4k....

so, i'm out. best wishes and good luck to all of you.

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DDCC.

I'm so sorry for you loss. You and yours are in my prayers.

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Oh my, I can't say how sorry I am to hear this.

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Oh no, I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Oh my god! I am so sorry. It's hearbreaking.

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I am so sorry.

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I'm so, so sorry. You are in my thoughts. I love the name you choose. I don't even know what to say, but know that I'm wishing for whatever it is that you need to come your way right now.

You got to hold her and hear her, and love on her.

It's hard to know what to say

I'm so sorry, Mama. So, so sorry.


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My heart is aching for you, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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There are no words to describe how much I feel for you. You and Kelly are in my thoughts. I am so very sorry for your loss.

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I am sorry for the loss of your sweet little Kelly. Her name is beautiful. It reflects your love for her so well. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. DDC crashing...

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I'm so sorry for your loss Be gentle with yourself

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Gosh, I have no words. I'm so very sorry for your loss and you will be in my thoughts and prayers. ((((hugs))))

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I'm so sorry

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I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I love her name; it's beautiful and it sounds like it suits her perfectly.
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DDCC

I am so very, very sorry. Nobody should ever have to go through that.

Her name is truly lovely.
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Oh Kelly, I am so terribly sorry. Sending you much love and healing energy.
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CMM- not in your DDC but I've been an admirer of your for years. I'm so sorry for the loss of your little girl- Kelly Beautiful Rain is a lovely name to attach to a lovely little girl.
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DDCC. I'm so sorry.
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DDCC. I'm so sorry for your loss, you and your family will be in my thoughts.

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I'm so very sorry for your loss mama. How awful for you. I'm glad you got to hold her in your arms for awhile.

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Oh, Kelly. I'm crying for you and your sweet baby girl. Please take care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what you're going through. Please know you're in my thoughts and I'll be praying for you and your family.

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I am so so sorry. I am glad you were able to spend that short while with her. I am heartbroken for you.

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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I am so so sorry. I wish I could find the right words.... I am just so heart broken for you.
I think her name is beautiful and perfect.


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oh no! oh my dear Lord.. i am so so sorry mama. i am so sad you have lost your precious daughter... i have held my own lifeless daughter, so i know how completly deistated you are are. many prayers for you mama.

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Oh Kelly - I can't express how sorry I am. Heartbreaking doesn't even begin to describe it. Sending up prayers for your beautiful angel.

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