This is my first baby and I plan on going the all natural route however, I know that it's going to get tough because labor is, well... labor! I wanted to put together a decorated page of encouraging sayings to read aloud to myself when I need encouragement the most!
So does anyone have any inspirational sayings to keep in mind during labor? Or just general advice for us new mamas?
I have two sayings so far so I'll start. Chime in with anything and everything!
1. Women have been having babies naturally for thousands of years. Trust your body!
2. Each contraction/wave is bringing your baby that much closer to being in your arms. Don't think of them as painful, think of them as productive.
(I think I got this first image from Ina May, but maybe not...)
Your uterus has long muscles that start at the top and then go down and connect with your cervix. So contractions start at the top, and then you feel the tightening travel down to your cervix. Your cervix is a simple sphincter, that is being pulled by the long uterine muscles and it dilates because you are relaxing and it is being pulled up and over the baby's head. Just like a turtleneck sweater. Your cervix is pulled over the babies head, dilating with relaxation, over your baby's head, like a turtleneck sweater.
The other thing I like to think about is the baby's natural reflex---when you push on the bottom of their feet, they stretch their legs out. So when your uterus is contracting, the baby is pushing against your uterus. In the early stages, this helps add pressure to your cervix, so the baby is helping you dilate. And then the really cool part is that when you contract during second stage (pushing) the baby is pushing their way out!
Finally, just remember that all of us, at some point, have to simply *give in* to our labors and let our bodies take over. I think this is the part most of us have a hard time with. Relinquish control to your instinctual body and the baby---they know more than your brain does!
Happy Birthing! I can't believe we're knocking on that door so soon!!!
Happy SAHM Mom and CBE to three boys: DS1 (11/06), DS2 (7/08), DS3 (11/10) and D?4 (12/12)!
my favorite birth affirmation is "your contractions cannot be stronger than you because they are you"
Strangely enough, it helped with my last birth to think about when my momma cat had kittens. She was so calm and graceful about it like it was the most natural thing. It helped me focus on my body and how natural this was so I would work with it instead of against it.
AP Mom to 5
My favorite advice is from Ina May: Concentrate on relaxing your face... because when your face is relaxed, so is everything else.
---Jessica---Livin' my life from A (1/05 ) to Z (4/08 ).....and z (3/11)
Okay, this may sound really, really stupid but here goes: Did you see Zoolander where Derek is being forced to watch that propoganda video and Mugatu is dressed like a little boy? The part where he's saying "Happy.....happy...happy....happy" I was saying "Open...open, etc". It really was funny but helpful.
During transition I was reciting Psalms! "You are my portion and my cup" over and over and over and over....it helped me.
"There is power that comes to women when they give birth. They don't ask for it, it simply invades them. Accumulates like clouds on the horizon and passes through, carrying the child with it." Sheryl Feldman
my other fave is: MY BODY ROCKS!!! simple, yet effective
Married SAHM to DS (6) DD (4) DS (2) and DS born Nov 17, 2010
Ni-gen-na-da a-ba in-da-di nam-te i-u-tu.
It translates to "Whoever walks with truth generates life."
Pain is a physical truth, and in walking with it peacefully, I will generate life. Seems pretty straightforward to me.
Mama to a wonderful, happy, and delightfully odd little boy who will shortly have a baby sister.
Rain, after all is only rain; it is not bad weather. So also, pain is only pain; unless we resist it, then it becomes torment.
~ the I Ching
I like the idea of embracing the pain and what is trying to do in your body instead of resisting it and the process that is going on.
Vegan family since 2011 - Wonderful DS1 born 1/08. Treasured DS2 born 11/10.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." - Maya Angelou
"You're large and in charge!"
He was kidding, or I would have killed him.
And it really helped to have people tell me I was almost there and doing great when I was in transition. I definitely got to the "I can't do this" part, but it went by fast and pushing was much easier to deal with.
Three boys and a sweet toddling girl
Anybody can do anything for just one minute.
This Mommy and Military Daddy are loving their son.
DS born Dec 2010 Pregnant with #2, having another !
I'm very visual, so I do a lot of visual breathing - usually I visualize a ribbon of love connecting my heart with the baby's heart... I don't know what I am going to visualize during birth... My cervix opening, perhaps?
Come to think of it, I should come up with one for this birth while I still have time!
"relax your jaw, drop your shoulders" (my doula mother was the jaw/shoulder police for all my labors and it really helps!)
"loose mouth = loose bottom" (ina may)
"let your monkey do it" (also ina may, referring to following your primal instincts during labor/birth with regards to positions, breathing patterns, and pushing)
"i am calm, i am strong, i am relaxed, i am limp" (to be chanted or said to me during difficult contractions to help maintain focus)
"surrender to mother nature; she knows what she is doing" (to be said to me during transition when i tend to tense up and lose control)
i also love the "open, open, open" mantra, the idea of "riding the wave" of a contraction, and the suggestion that contractions don't cause pain, but "an interesting sensation that requires all of your attention" (- ina may)
Mama of: DS (9), twins DD & DS (6), DS (3), and DD born 11/2010