+= Peanut (2004), Pumpkin (2007) and Butter Bean!! (2011)
It was my FIL that didn't read that vibe a week and a half ago. When he, my MIL, and SILs came down to visit (after not making the 2 hour drive since January) the first thing he busted out with after saying "hi, how are you?" was to call me "chubby." He clearly thought this was hilarious. My response was to say "gee, thanks" and walk away. So....his family couldn't believe how rude I was. The nerve of me saying that and walking away!
In good news, after a botched email apology attempt on his part and further rude things said by him, I got to send him a long email airing my feelings and told him not to talk to me again before the baby is born because I don't need the stress.
Vegan family since 2011 - Wonderful DS1 born 1/08. Treasured DS2 born 11/10.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." - Maya Angelou
The point it, I think the ONLY thing anyone should ever say to a pregnant woman is "you look fantastic!" And you know what? Every pregnant woman does look fantastic and should inspire awe because they are GROWING ANOTHER PERSON!
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I have gotten numerous multiples comments this whole pregnancy and I want to kick people that say that or try to scare me with them. Well, you know one twin can hide behind the other and you'd never know it.
Nic, loving mama to 5 with a SURPRISE 6th on the way.
at work yesterday as i'm 2 days late, walking with co-workers, one says, "when are you due?" and i say, "two days ago". and expecting the usual responses, "whoa! when are you getting induced?" "when is your c-section?" "you must be just D-Y-I-N-G." instead he says, "wow, really? you aren't really that big! I can't believe it! you look great."
I wanted to through my arms around him and kiss him. this guy is normally so socially awkward and not necessarily the person i expected to say something like that. So as loudly as I could, for all other co-workers to hear, I said "Thanks Dan, I feel great and that is the best thing anyone has said to me! usually the comments are something like "oh you're so HUGE!" and even LOUDER "no one should ever tell a pregnant woman she looks big, just tell her she looks great, no matter what your opinion of her size!"
I know they all heard me and I hope they all got the message!
happy wife to dh and loving mom to dd (1yr) with another little one on the way in July!!
"I want to tell you this in love, I used to weight like 200 pounds and I've lost over 50 pounds so far...If I can do it I know you can too. Cause you just have to love yourself enough and realize that you matter as a person."
To which I replied
"Well thank you but I'm actually 7 months pregnant, so I'm not exactly allowed to go on a diet you know."
Now the most annoying thing people have said is "How are you feeling?" over and over again....I'm pregnant....I feel pregnant... end of discussion
And we are joyfully awaiting a new addition in April 2011! <><
I take the subway to and from work, and when I'm leaving work there are always a few homeless people pan-handling at the bottom of the escalator to go into the station. Without fail, every single time, at least one of them will say something like, "Congratulations, Mama!" Sometimes three or four will chime in, so as I'm walking up to the turnstiles I'll hear, "Congratulations!" "Looking good, ma!" "Good luck to you!" "Babies are such a blessing!"
At first I thought they were messing with me, but it's all in complete sincerity, and never fails to make me smile.
And then there was today. Went to vote. First woman said, "It can't be much longer now." Okay, not really bad, completely unsolicited, but whatever. I vote, walk toward the exit. Second woman, from somewhat farther away, in a loud voice, "WOW, you've got quite a load there."
I mean, really? Do you think before you speak? That's a lesson that I'm constantly trying to teach my ds (7yo) and apparently many grown people have never learned this.