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#31 of 180 Old 10-31-2010, 09:50 AM
 
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Julie-- we have had some similar struggles here with too much TV and computer.. I feel like this pregnancy I have been such a "lazy" parent, and I feel really guilty about it. And sadly I don't see it changing a whole lot soon, because with a new baby and lack of sleep, letting DS watch TV (though he doesn't really just sit and watch it, he usually is playing with something and "watching") is going to be the easiest way to keep everyone happy for a little while.... He is too young for me to send him outside to play, and he is getting bad again about running away from me when we go outside.. into the road, to the neighbor's house, etc. and at this point I can't really chase him down.. plus the weather is going to be getting cold and we will be staying inside a lot more. I just try to have a balance.. we can watch TV in the morning but we stay outside in the afternoon, or something like that.. and I have definitely been on the computer waaaay too much.

As for the crunchiness and DH's--- neither one of us is super "crunchy" and actually until I got pregnant with Liam, I didn't have a lick of crunchiness in me. I never quite "fit in" in school or into the mainstream popular society, but I never really knew much about being crunchy either. Once I got pregnant with Liam, a friend suggested MDC to me, and that is where I started learning about natural childbirth, circumsicion, vax's, cosleeping, breastfeeding (which I actually planned on doing anyway), etc. In my parenting I am definitely in the minority amongst the other Mamas I know IRL, and I'm slowly coming around to other crunchy areas. Luckily I have a pretty supportive family in most of those areas, but most of them disagreed with us not circ'ing, and cosleeping, and don't really know that DS is still nursing a little.... Aaron is an amazing husband and father, and is also very "fact" oriented, so it was pretty easy to convince him of not circ'ing, delayed/selective vax'ing, homebirthing, buying organic food, etc with some scientific articles.. We are sort of coming into this journey of "crunchiness" together, and we discuss every decision together and he has also been very supportive.

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Ellen! Digging a whole in the wall while your pregnant?! It'll be a funny story to tell when he's twenty-something. I think your response was perfect - bet he won't do *that* again!

Julie ~ we're definitely soul-twins or something. How old is your Dd? (I *could* open a new window and look...but I'm too lazy.) I *really* notice the difference between the HSed tweens and the public schooled. I'm not knocking the public schoolers, really, I'm not. I think parenting plays a HUGE part in how kids act. But the stuff my Dds pick up from schooled kids is enough to drive me over the edge. Don't get me wrong, they've picked up undesirable stuff from fellow HSers too - and mine aren't angels by any stretch - I know other parents have surely blamed my kids for spreading their evil ways too. I'm sort of dreading today when Dd1's hormonal-drama-queen friend comes over because it's like a chemical explosion or something.

Oh! And the screen time was/is a huge issue here too - but I recently did something about it (again.) Every once in a while, I'll just get fed up and will unplug the tv and the kids will be happily tv-free for months on end. Then someone gets the stomach bug, or chicken pox, or whooping cough, etc - and they just want to lie there and watch tv. And so the vicious cycle begins anew. **I really need to think of a plan of sick days instead of tv!!**
SO, I think we recent;y got over the worst of the worst. Someone introduced my girls to the Disney Channel. The attitude they both picked up from watching Hannah Montana, Wizards of Waverly Place, etc was UNREAL. I finally got fed up and blocked the Disney Channel from our cable box. But then they just started watching cartoon Network, Boomerang, etc - and really, none of those shows were much better - very rude language, etc.
DP had (has) his own tv addiction in the form of soccer - mostly Mexican soccer, but all sorts of World Cup stuff. Not only games but he *must* watch the sports highlights every single morning and evening. It's SO loud and obnoxious that I would get so irritated because I really value my quiet, peaceful early mornings.
SO, the day after DP left for Mexico, I unplugged the tv & announced "No More!" And they didn't even ask!!! Their moods instantly improved, they would go directly outside to play or do some fantastic pretend play with each other or just get crafty & creative individually. I *know* this is what happens when I take the tv away, but somehow we always slip back into that routine. So it's been over 2 weeks w/o tv here.
I talked to DP and he hasn't had *any* amount of tv while he's been away (yet somehow he's survived. ) So I made a really crazy decision and called Verizon and cut out $60 worth of tv packages, including his special sports channels. I'm partly afraid of what his reaction will be but am counting on him missing me enough to not get too angry.
BUT, the catch here is that my computer time is going to be brought up. And it has been in the past. And like you, Julie, it's the same.exact.scenario. I feel like if he's watching the boob tube, why can't I be online? He claims I can sit next to him and watch tv and it counts as together time but if I'm online, it's very individual. But I don't *want* to watch tv.

SO, I need to prepare to cut back my online time. If DP and the kids are getting *zero* tv time, I'm not sure what will be "fair" since they don't use the 'puter. I'll probably have to get up in the middle of the night to check in.

Anyway ~ that's my take on all of that!

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Does anyone else hate washing brand new things? I really love the crispness (even in soft things, if that makes sense!) and newness and "perfectness" of brand new stuff. I'm having a hard time forcing myself to wash the baby clothes. I suppose that's why I often end up doing such things at the last minute! I'd rather sit and stare at the perfect little outfits than actually clean them. And I guess that's why I don't typically prewash clothes for my big kids... I really only do that with itty baby things. Is that awful?
I'm the opposite! I can't *stand* having new, unwashed clothes in the house - the smells & fears of chemicals on them bugs me out. So everything that comes into the house goes directly to the washing machine. And nobody's allowed to wear anything new until it's been washed.

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Oh! I'm 39 weeks... (it's almost 1am here) WOW.. I swear it was just yesterday I was posting that I was 8 weeks, 12 weeks, 20 weeks, lmao. This pregnancy has really gone by so fast compared to my last two.
Woo-hoo!! I can't wait until I'm that close!

AFM, I slept like crap *again* last night. I had regular contractions all night long, but I can tell they're not "the real deal" so I didn't bother timing them.
And this baby *never* sleeps! Ever! It makes me nervous about what's going to happen once he's here.... and I was afraid for a bit that I was feeling his head way up high. Hopefully I'm wrong - I still feel heavy "head" on my cervix. I was having lots of pinching/punches last night while I cooked dinner. Ouch.

Today I have to feed the chickens, take the cat to the vax clinic, make dinner and ToT. The silver lining is that this means I can give the cat the boot tomorrow! But then I have to think about how to fix the cat pee stink all over the place (well, in *several* isolated spots. )

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I also can not stand unwashed new clothes. The smell and fact that strangers have touched them really squicks me out.

Catie- My dh is a chemistry teacher, so also science minded. Once I show him the research or he sees that I've done it then that's good enough for him. His family is so very anti-AP or NFL in every way that this was a big change for him. Homebirth/UC was the biggest one for me to sell but after our last terrible OB, he got on my side and is now very pro-hb and talks about breastfeeding, hb, and vaxing in class, even. I certainly did not start off super-crunchy but my family were poor hillbillies, so co-sleeping, natural birth, and breastfeeding were a given. From there thanks to MDC I've become a lot "crunchier" than I would have ever imagined and apparently a lot of things I already believed seemed to fit right in.

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We are not a TV free house but we are a "low TV house". We don't have cable but watch Netflix a lot. The kids also have to agree on shows to watch anything, otherwise there are usually hour long screaming matches, so that helps cut down on some of the shows I don't like. We are also a no-Hannah Montana/whatever household. Luckily the kids think it's stupid and dh and I do, too, so it's a non-issue. Even when I was a girl scout leader last year and dd was surrounded by Hannah Montana everything by girls in the meetings, she still held out not liking it. Thank the gods for that. They did get their first Silly Bandz things a couple of weeks ago, though. *sigh*

We only watch movies at night rarely together and then occasionally at lunch time if they get their lunches altogether peacefully and they had been driving me nuts. Dh does put on a movie like Dumbo for the toddler some mornings to let me sleep a little bit. She's started waking up at the crack of dawn and I really can't abide by that atm. I try to only get on the computer when the kids are preoccupied watching something, playing, whatever. I'm starting to get better at this but have found myself carrying around my ipod and checking in on here and facebook whenever I get a moment of quiet where the kids aren't paying attention, like when I'm cooking or going to sleep at night. Dh has made comments about me being online too much and I do agree I need to cut back, but as soon as I'm off, he's on. I've been off for days at a time and he'll be online the entire time he's not asleep/at work, so I bring it up to him and he gets all defensive. We do watch TV together (dh and I) at night so I can put my feet up. We used to play more games together and stuff, but he's so overly competitive that it's not really fun, so I'm boycotting it. Right now we're watching LOST again for the 100th time.

I also like that we don't get commercials (or at least as many) by not having cable and doing Netflix and videos instead. That really changes my kids attitudes. They become very materialistic and get this attitude that they deserve every.single.toy they see on tv when we watch cable. I hate that.

But we do let them use the computer sometimes and they have the wii and DS to play.

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Re: TV.

We're unschoolers... though I don't post much about it here because I've seen other boards/people that just don't have a clue that think all unschooling is some form of educational neglect or something. I have no real desire to defend my lifestyle.. but anyway, lol, we use the TV a lot. We watch many documentaries and movies that lead us elsewhere. My TV is on a lot and I'm not particularly bothered by that... but then again I do not have cable TV, we have netflix and I find that to be superior when it comes to viewing. I'm not big on watching anything other than documentaries (because I'm geeky like that) and by default the kids watch a lot of them, too. My little one is really into dinosaurs right now so we've been watching a lot of stuff on that to interest her. She's only 3 so a lot of it is little kid stuff but my boys pick up on stuff, too. Anyway... I get why some people want to be TV free or low TV but I don't think it works for every family and I don't see the TV as inherently evil, either. I connect with my kids in many ways all day long.

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Julie- I struggle with the same thing...I've always been a TV on in the background person (I multi-task and like the noise when I'm alone, I even studied that way when I was in school) but I'm afraid my habit has rubbed off on DD and since I've been pregnant there's been way to much of her sitting in front of the TV and I feel really guilty about it. But I've also felt like such complete crap most of the time that it's the path of least resistance. I think about all the things I 'could' be doing,outings, activities etc, but I just haven't had what it takes. On the plus side we spend several hours a day reading with her, so I guess it all balances out, I hope, but I've felt really bad about how little I've had her outside recently. DH is a tech nerd so he doesn't have a problem with this, or computer time...heck, he even just gave me a net book so I can check the Internets more conveniently. He likes to spend his evening playing computer games. It's what he likes to do, I like to knit while I watch Food Network. TV and computer etc is going to be a part of our life, I'm okay with that so long as I feel like we are balancing it properly. I'm kind of hoping for a new beginning though too, that after this baby comes we can start 'living' a little more than merely 'existing', if that makes sense.

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We're not completely "TV-free" - the kids occasionally watch DVDs and Dh and I watch a show together after the kids are in bed sometimes (not often, b/c he's working on the house so much). Right now, I'm watching a British series called "Foyle's War" - it's what I knit to after everything's done for the night.

I used to be a "non-washer" of new clothes, but then I read that formaldehyde (I just know I've spelled that wrong) is used (probably among other things) to keep down wrinkles, so I've washed before wearing ever since. Not that I buy much in the way of brand-new clothes...I'm mostly a 2nd hand shopper, plus we get tons of hand me downs.

I bought a clasp for my birth bead necklace yesterday, so I'm going to go put it on now and I'll post pictures later!

Happy Halloween!

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Nic, we're Unschoolers too - with a little Waldorf thrown in because I love it.

I had an opportunity to vent some anger today.

We took the cat to the vax clinic at Petco and as I pulled into the parking lot I noticed a bunch of fire engines & police cars out front of Staples, right next to Petco. There was a volunteer fire guy standing at one parking lot entrance but the cones were only blocking the exit lane, not the entry lane, kwim? So I proceeded to very slowly turn right into the parking lot of Petco. The guy FREAKED out on me, yelling at me, asking me what the hell I thought I was doing, couldn't I see the cones, etc. Our windows were down & I had 3 kids and a cat in the back seats. Boy did he mess with the wrong person. I gave it right back to him and then some. If the kids weren't with me, there would have been a whole lot of very colorful language from my mouth, but I was amazingly controlled in that respect. he yelled "Petco's closed! Come back in a half an hour!!"
So I slowly pulled up to the next entrance about 20 feet further up which also had a volunteer fireman standing there. I asked him how long Petco would be closed & he said "It's not closed, you can go right on through." So I turned right, rolled down my passenger window & waved & yelled thanks to the other a-hole who 20 seconds before was such a d*ckhead.
Then I parked and walked over to the (real) firemen and complained about the mean guy's behavior. They were very apologetic and said they'd talk to him.
The two employees who were standing outside of Petco said they were never closed.

ANYWAY, the cat is now vaxed & will become a barn cat hopefully either tomorrow or Tuesday!!

Then I will pick all of your brains about how to remove cat pee stank from various flooring.

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So many individual things I'd like to respond to -- this is when it would be nice to have al of you ladies sitting in my living room with me! But I have to take a shower and get ready to go to a friend's for dinner, and then dd is going out trick-or-treating with her kids and ds and I are going to stay back and help with passing out candy. Dh is at work.

Anyway, I have nothing against TV in and of itself. I just don't like it as background noise, probably because I grew up with it only being on rarely. The problem I have with it is when I think we *could* be doing something else, but are glued to the screen instead, like dh and I talking with each other in the evenings after the kids are in bed, or ds being read a book or taken outside on the swing set. He tunes out and plays his own stuff after about one show, but if the TV is on all morning, he's thinking that it *should* be on. One morning I brought him down to the couch after he woke up, to snuggle with him and give him his bottle, and he kept crying until I turned on Nick Jr. It only happened once, but it felt like a little warning to me! And then the other day I put him in his carseat and he pointed to the DVD player and asked to have it turned on (in his 21 month old way ). So that's what I don't like.

And for dd (11 y.o.), she has her own set of problems, which *include* TV, computer games, Nintendo DS, i-pod, wii, etc. Beginning this school year, she has withdrawn more, and is talking to me less. So I don't want her sitting in the van watching a DVD when we go grocery shopping, I want her sitting in the front seat chatting with me, KWIM? I was a single mom for most of her life, and we were really close, despite the fact that I was always working, in school, etc. She slept in my bed until I got married (she was 9), and even then, she still slept with me every third night when dh was at work. She's grown out of that now, which is fine, but I feel like she grew right into not needing me at all, not talking with me, not wanting to spend time with me, etc. During the week, she has homework and soccer practices, etc, so there's not time for a lot of technology, but on the weekends, she's "bored" unless she's tuned into one of the aforementioned electronic things. And that's what bothers me. This is the girl who used to read voraciously and write poetry in her spare time. So as i said before, I want her to get "unplugged" and start spending more one-on-one time with her, because we haven't been getting along at all lately, and in the past, it's always helped our relationship when I've started spending more quality time with her.

And one last thing. When dh and I were dating, he, dd and I used to have so much fun together, getting out of the house, playing board games, etc. After we got married, we turned into the busy family that has no time for having fun anymore. So I know what's possible for us to do, and I just want us to start adding that fun and togetherness back into our lives again.

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Erin, I knew I sensed a kindred spirit. Waldorf interests me... but I haven't really looked into it much, sadly. It's on my to do list.


Hahaha... one of my family members just got the smack down on my status from a friend. She said, "Hey! Tomorrow is November! We're waiting...." and my dear, sweet friend said, "Goodness! Don't pressure the poor woman! The baby will come when baby is ready." (or something to that effect) Anyway... feels good to have someone watching out for me.

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Julie- That's why we cut out cable. It really has made a huge improvement in everyone's attitudes. I wish, though, that you could subscribe by channel. I don't want 200 channels, just discovery and the weather channel more than anything.

We are waldorfy relaxed eclectic wtm-inspired homeschoolers. Which really makes zero sense. Basically we keep trying and failing at waldorf but do utilize some of the philosophy & practices but do some classical things my kids like. Especially my oldest dd who likes "real" work.

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Erin, I knew I sensed a kindred spirit. Waldorf interests me... but I haven't really looked into it much, sadly. It's on my to do list.


Hahaha... one of my family members just got the smack down on my status from a friend. She said, "Hey! Tomorrow is November! We're waiting...." and my dear, sweet friend said, "Goodness! Don't pressure the poor woman! The baby will come when baby is ready." (or something to that effect) Anyway... feels good to have someone watching out for me.
We don't follow any of the Waldorf stuff like circle time or any of it, really. I just feel good about trying to live our lives with that lifestyle in mind (nature based toys [though we *do* have plastic] living seasonally as much as possible, etc.)
I do strive for more rhythm in our daily lives which is where I really look to Waldorf. But I have a looooong way to go.

Oh - some guy asked if I had "just one in there" when I posted my 36 wk shot yesterday.

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We're very "take it or leave it" about all things school.

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also a Waldorf homeschooler (and exploring unschooling)
we just started our journey in september and i have been pretty worn out so we do lots of art, lots of stories (ds reads to me..i read to the girls) nature time and science go hand in hand, and then we do math (i feel like math is a skill that my son really needs because he is So artistic) my daughter is super in to letters and numbers and writing at a Kindy level. im so glad we are HS this year. i do feel like we are slacking in the sit down do hours of work kind of HSing, but im just not there right now.

 

 

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Fern- don't feel bad about that! We are former unschoolers but it just doesn't work for us. I do try to be child-directed as much as possible, though. But I'm a big believer that as long as they're being read to and have real life experience as a family that they're pretty much set. Right now we are more "bed schoolers" as I've migrated most of our books there after circle time is over to lay down and do stuff together separately. They like the one on one time, too.

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Ugh.

DH has been in a foul mood off and on all day. He can't cope with the kids (but they're not even being awful) and *I* can't cope with *him* in that mood. We've been cleaning house yesterday and today, in part because it just needs to get done and in part because we have company coming in the morning. Not easy to get the kids to do everything they need to do, especially since getting up and moving around is really unpleasant right now.

In the midst of that, we hear toilets bubbling. None of our three toilets is flushing properly (though, thankfully, they do flush *somewhat* and aren't overflowing). And, did I mention we're supposed to have company tomorrow? And then my MW? And I'm 8.5 months pregnant and the baby seems to REALLY be sitting on my bladder these days?

And in Googling to get an idea of what might be wrong, it sounds like it could be our drain pipe... Haven't had trouble in years since we curtailed all use of "flushable" wipes (hey, they were nice for potty training, but NOT worth the hassle of clogged drains!). A friend tells me the drain pipe could've collapsed due to tree roots - which we know are an issue from previous televising of the pipe. UGH.

And I just checked the commodes again and one of the has what looks like SAND in it now. It wasn't there earlier. It's like course sand, which makes me think it probably IS a problem with the drains and something getting into them. Which means $$$$$$$ that we don't have right now.

It doesn't help that the bathroom remodel (which should be wrapped up by mid-week! ) is running up a nice little tab above our estimate, which should be fine but still has me totally stressed out. And DH should be doing expense reports from travel and hasn't done them and gets defensive when I mention them even though we, clearly, NEED the money from them.

So, anyway...

I can't think of anything better to describe how I feel right now.

Sigh. So sorry to vent... I suppose it's at least good that I'm not even having any "suspicious" uterine activity right now. I don't need labor for another 10 days.

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So no one got any sleep here last night... Liam was up every 2-3 hours coughing and crying for DH, who ended up sleeping with him in his bed most of the night.... We are all getting over colds, and I am worried Liam's may have turned into something else. The LAST thing I want to do is go into a doctor's office right now...... Then this morning Liam had several meltdowns because DH was trying to get ready for work and he DID. NOT. want Mommy, he wanted Daddy.. and another when he actually left for work. He seems fine now after some breakfast, but I am worried about what today will hold.... Luckily I don't have much to do, but I was really hoping for a low-key day today...........

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Heather- what terrible timing!!!

Catie- to him. I actually thought of you when I got up to pee at like 3 am because I realized I hadn't seen you on here for several hours. Totally weird middle of the night thought.

I am tired. Dh was a little disappointed did not make his Halloween Baby prediction. We even dtd twice, ate half a pineapple (that's all I could do, omg my mouth hurts) and went for two long walks just so he might get his chance. It feels like my cervix has actually backed up some, though, and I can barely reach it while about 2-3 days ago it was so low I didn't even have to try. Confusing.

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Thanks KW.. he seems to be acting normal the last couple hours.. a little extra clingy (and he keeps asking me to hold him like a baby) but nothing terrible.. I keep asking him if something hurts and he says "no" (he is really good about telling you what hurts if something does..)..... He's riding his bike around the house now, so he must not be feeling too terrible..

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Catie - here's hoping you get your downtime today after all.

Heather - oh man, it sounds like a can of worms about to be opened at your place. We're at the tail end of a reno, so I know *all* about that, and you have my utmost sympathies. Hold on for a few more days, baby!

ToTing was really fun with the kids last night - we only did a few houses, so we were back at our place by 8, which was good timing, because the heavens opened up and it started to pour by 8:30! It's still raining really hard now.

I had a horrible sleep - I had RLP so bad turning over that I cried out. It didn't help that dd2 was in our bed, so I had very little room to maneuver in. We're saving up for a king sized bed, and it's a good thing!

So no Halloween babies from any of our folk?

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Catie- I was just double checking my EPO dosages and found something saying that it can help soften scar tissue in the cervix. Don't know if you're taking any EPO, but figured I'd let you know! At the very least it won't hurt anything.

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Morning, mamas!

Wow, I can hardly believe it's November! Just four more days until I have an actual BABY! Squee!

We got a lot done this weekend, so I'm feeling very prepared, at least physically, to have her come home. Emotionally, I"m still in disbelief that she is coming so soon. But it is starting to seem exciting rather than scary (although I'm still worried/scared about the surgery and recovery).

In-laws arrive Wednesday and it looks like the weather is going to be PERFECT for them

I hope everyone had a great Halloween! We're going to be swimming in babies soon, aren't we??

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Four more days, Karen?!?! We're going to need pictures and news updated frequently, of course.

I have also decided baby is not allowed to come out at least until this weekend. I want to do another belly painting and cast and get ds through his surgery without me being incapacitated.

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Catie- I was just double checking my EPO dosages and found something saying that it can help soften scar tissue in the cervix. Don't know if you're taking any EPO, but figured I'd let you know! At the very least it won't hurt anything.
Thanks! My MW has me taking 1000 mg 2X a day (wants me to insert it too.. but its too difficult and i cant reach my cervix anyway )

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s Heather and Catie!

I've been up since 4:45 this morning. It seems like I can't sleep after I get up to pee anymore. And my round ligament pain under my left rib is getting worse and worse, to where it doesn't go away after a night of sleep anymore. So I'm not getting as much done around here as I'd like, because I'm spending *so* much time on the couch on my back.

On a bright note, I've been making dinner every day and eating well, and I'm feeling really good about that. And today my goal is to have my hospital bag packed. I've already started gathering things, specifically the precious little outfit that dh bought for our Biscuit to come home in!

In my head I just keep finding myself saying, "Thank you God for letting it be November!"

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Catie ~ I hope he feels better.

Heather ~ Ugh. When I first saw your head-banging smilies, I thought, "boy heather's super grouchy, that might mean labor's coming..." (because I remember HOW grouchy I was the day I went into labor with Ds.) But man, that *stinks*! It's so frustrating when stuff goes wrong at any time, but at this point in pregnancy, it's just wrong.

Karen ~ 4 days!! That's so soon!! I can't wait to hear all about it and to see pictures of your little one.

ToTing was not so bad last night but I am SOOOOO glad it's over! And it's November! I'm in a beautiful mood today. DP comes home tonight, our attorney friend just left after helping me finish up the estate paperwork aaaaaand, it's November!! I can glance at my wall calendar & SEE my due date!! Oh thank goddess, I thought November would never come.

I only had to stop walking through a couple of contractions last night - and I walked reeeeaally slow. One got me in the middle of the street & I just had to stop and *really* breathe through it. After that I announced it was time to go home. I think we stayed out for about 1.5 hours.
The kids ate zero candy while out and when we got home, I swapped all of their crap for organic crap. At least I don't have to feel guilty about HFCS, artificial colors & flavors, hydrogenated oils, etc.
I was SO pooped by bedtime. I fell asleep instantly & woke briefly at almost 4am & remembered that teh candy fairy had to make an appearance! So I hauled my sleepy arse to the basement (with GIANT bag of candy) and replaced it with 3 new sets of PJs. All is well in the world.

We have HS sports this afternoon and the bathrooms at the park are closed. It really irks me. But I don't know how many more weeks I'll be able to go or how long the weather will hold out (and boy do my kids need to burn off that sugar! ) So I'm going to suck it up.

I have chicken stock simmering & venison stew started on the stove. I'm in the mood to clean. Wish I could send the kids with someone else...

NOVEMBER!!!

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ooh Karen so exciting that you will have your sweet baby in your arms in 4 days!!!

Catie and Heather

We had fun trick or treating last night, although I was expecting contractions while we walked up and down some of the hills around here and pretty much wound up with nothing, my parents get here tomorrow night and so I wouldn't mind waiting till then to go into labor but part of me is starting to think that due date of mine on Sunday, is going to come and go without a baby appearance.

I am about to go make a smoothie for breakfast and get some tortilla soup in the crock pot for dinner right now. I woke up feeling congested and my throat hurts, really don't want to deal with a cold right now

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i woke up in the night at 3am with the worst periody cramps and other stuff.. i was SURE i was going to go into labour or that it was the start but i finally fell back asleep after a few visits to the bathroom and a big glass of water and woke up feeling tired but okay.im sneezing like crazy though which is usually a sign that im getting sick ..how is that possible? im eating some breakfast then im going to go back to bed. i guess i over did it yesterday..but it was a wonderful Halloween day/night..so i really cant complain too much.
my mom has my girls out this am, thank goodness.. i need to sort out their nasty sugar and let them have a bit so i can throw the rest out.


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Fern - I really hope you don't get sick again!

My mom is coming today to visit for a few days, which is great - this means I'll get to go to appts by myself (gasp!) and she'll fold all my laundry for me (she has a bit of a laundry fetish, and I hate doing it, so it's win/win!).

Yay for it being November! I'm off to knit baby's hat and hopefully get it finished...

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Don't get sick again, Fern!

Julie, that's great that you're cooking has been going great. Can't wait to see your LO in the coming home outfit!

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Thanks! My MW has me taking 1000 mg 2X a day (wants me to insert it too.. but its too difficult and i cant reach my cervix anyway )
I've been taking 3000mg and inserting it at night if we don't dtd. I shove it as far as I can and assume laying down will make it leak to the cervix. Getting it all the way up there sounds like more of a challenge than it's worth!

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