Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Philadelphia, PA
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I think it's totally normal to go through everything you're thinking and feeling---the transition from 1 to 2 can be hard. We did it when DS1 was 20.5 months. There were definitely moments that I missed having just one child, but overwhelmingly it was so amazing to see what a gift DS2 was to #1. We presented the situation to him that here was a new best friend and playmate, someone who he gets to spend his whole life with---and as a family, we live together and love together and play together. He really has seen his brother as a total gift, so much so that while #3 is in the oven, he's asking about when we'll have a #4.
The transition will happen, you'll still get alone time with each child, but now you'll be able to really focus in on it when it is happening....and consider it as a best friend you're giving #1.
I also think a HB makes things a lot easier---our son left for a playdate the morning #2 arrived, he napped over there and then came home to his house and his new brother was in bed with me. It was spectacular---no crazy hospital, I was home instead of away for 2 days....it will really help your transition.
Good luck---you'll do great!
Happy SAHM Mom and CBE to three boys: DS1 (11/06), DS2 (7/08), DS3 (11/10) and D?4 (12/12)!