Join Date: Jul 2006
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
We planned for a birth in a free standing birthing center last time, but we ended up being transfered to the hospital. I think this was mostly because my midwife was intimidated by that fact that im an GP who attends births and felt she needed to be more proactive... I was really dissapointed that she broke the water for no clear reason, and then felt that I had "failure to progress" when the exam was unchanged 2 hours later. By the time I was transfered to the hospital, I was fully (the transfer was non-urgent so we took our time, it took about an hour).
This time, I have my heart set on a homebirth. I visited the birthing center near my home and did not like it. It's new, it's beautiful, but it's cold. And they kick you out really early (2-3 hours). Don't get me wrong, I don't want to spend 2 days there like they do in the hospital, but by 3 hours after my son's birth, I still hadn't peed and was in no shape to go home...
Unfortunately, DH is not convinced about a HB. I think he's mostly afraid of the "mess", and of people's opinion about HBs. (I couldn't care less about either... Im not going to be the one cleaning up lol. And rightfully or not, I use my "doctor's card" to shut up people who insist a HB is dangerous - "I've attended hundreds of births, I know what Im doing")
This time, I want a homebirth because I don't want to have to go anywhere. We don't have a car, cabs are hard to get and Im NOT walking to the birthing center in late december in labor in the middle of the night! We also just moved to this country and don't know anyone on whom we could drop DS at the last minute while i deliver. The midwife I interviewed offered a great solution for DS: open my house to a midwife student who would care for DS, but if he's asleep when the baby comes, she would get to attend the delivery
Mom of 5 working full-time and waiting to go to nursing school! Whew! I need a nap!
Dp, me ds#1 , ds #2 and ds#3