Bad ultrasound - Mothering Forums
Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 09:09 AM - Thread Starter
 
sarahmck's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Amsterdam
Posts: 1,466
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I had my 10-week dating ultrasound as part of the nuchal translucency test today and there was no heartbeat. I'm 10w4d.

First she tried with the regular ultrasound thing and said that it was very far back, so she got out the vaginal one. I had been so geared up to see twins because I've been insanely hungry that I was so focused on trying to see two sacs before she could tell me that I hadn't been really looking for a heartbeat. But once she told me she needed the dildo-cam I knew that things weren't looking good.

With the vaginal thing she still had trouble getting a clear view, but she said that it looks like it all happened around 8 weeks.

Now I just have to wait to miscarry. I'll be seeing my fertility acupuncturist / doula tomorrow and she's going to do some needle stuff as well as give me some herbs to help get things moving. I definitely don't want to go the D&C route.

Anyone who has knowledge about how long you have to wait to try again and why you have to wait, please educate me.

I'll keep you all posted about how I do with the bringing about of a miscarriage, and I'll be watching you all and keeping an eye on how things go with all the babies of this DDC. It's been fun, and I hope to join another DDC soon!

Sarah, mother to Eloïse (5/2005), Lucas (3/2008) and Ilias (7/2011), and due with #4 (March 1, 2014)

sarahmck is offline  
#2 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 09:27 AM
 
Jazzmin's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Indiana
Posts: 1,726
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am so sorry for your loss.

I think it is up to you when you want to try again. I got pregnant just weeks after my m/c.

Mom to DS1, DS2, DD1 and DD2! h20homebirth.gif
Jazzmin is offline  
#3 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 09:42 AM
 
splath's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: SE Michigan
Posts: 1,348
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm so sorry

Mama to Eleanore Rae, born April 6, 2008 & Adelaide Jane, born December 16, 2010, Cautiously expecting #3 September 10, 2013

I blog! Check my profile for the link

splath is offline  
#4 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 10:09 AM
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 947
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Proud new mom to J, 12/14/2010! Miss you Basia. candle.gif 
NoraFlood is offline  
#5 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 11:15 AM
 
wholewheatchick's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: West Coast of the East Coast, FL
Posts: 1,163
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
and hopefully you can join another DDC soon! Good luck.

Emily--Married to the love of my life 2008--Joyful mommy to Rachel Elizabeth 12/10
PM me about low supply; insufficient glandular tissue; posterior tongue tie; lip tie bfinfant.gif
wholewheatchick is offline  
#6 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 11:20 AM
 
annettemarie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: In the Restricted Section
Posts: 41,827
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Sarah, I'm so, so sorry.

Flowers, fairies, gardens, and rainbows-- Seasons of Joy: 10 weeks of crafts, handwork, painting, coloring, circle time, fairy tales, and more!
Check out the blog for family fun, homeschooling, books, simple living, and 6 fabulous children, including twin toddlers

annettemarie is offline  
#7 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 11:42 AM
 
sarahn4639's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 2,698
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Sarah I am so sorry, it's a difficult journey and you'll be in my thoughts.

I got pregnant the cycle after my miscarriage. I don't think there is any reason to wait. Just don't have intercourse until the bleeding has stopped.

Sarah-wife, mother, doula, and teacher.
sarahn4639 is offline  
#8 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 12:13 PM
 
laurata's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Settling in the Sound
Posts: 1,199
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm so sorry.

Laura, mama to J (15), N (12), E (9) , M (6), and our little caboose, R (3).
laurata is offline  
#9 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 01:06 PM
 
corysmilk's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: with my right foot out
Posts: 878
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
oh no! i am so sorry.
I misscaried and did not wait. I was preg. again just after. like 5 weeks later. I ma not sure the actual date I miscarried but late oct. was pg again in dec.

your in my thoughts

mama to Alex 20 Briana 16 Cory 10 and Jade 3Tubes tied and regret it
corysmilk is offline  
#10 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 01:22 PM
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: Healing my heart
Posts: 6,151
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am so sorry Sarah . I'm waiting to miscarry too. I found out on Friday my baby was gone. I am starting to bleed today. I'm debating about the D&C though, my Dr. is gone til tomorrow. I don't know what to do.

Mama~Love is offline  
#11 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 01:38 PM
 
ema-adama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 2,392
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh my.

I don't have any advice

Megan, mama to her little boy (Feb2008) and introducing our little girl (Dec 2010)
ema-adama is offline  
#12 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 02:36 PM
 
FarmerCathy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Three Lakes, WI
Posts: 4,192
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
mama. I am so sorry. They say your first period can come 3-6 weeks after a miscarriage. Good luck!

Cathy toddler.gifMama to James(6)coolshine.gifand Maggie Mae (1)luxlove.gif Wife to Daveguitar.gif

And 3rdtri.gif with #3 bigeyes.gif Due in August 2013!!!

FarmerCathy is offline  
#13 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 02:36 PM
 
tinynyota's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Portland, OR
Posts: 580
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Oh no!! I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Personally, I've chosen to wait for a least one 'normal' cycle before trying again. That's just felt more right to me, but there aren't any hard or fast rules.

Happily muddled mom to baby Kiki, 11/2010

tinynyota is offline  
#14 of 18 Old 05-17-2010, 09:32 PM
 
oakparkveggie's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: SE Michigan
Posts: 357
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am so sorry Sarah

~Shawnna~ Lucas 11/02 Wyatt 10/05
oakparkveggie is offline  
#15 of 18 Old 05-18-2010, 01:40 AM
 
wholebreath's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 301
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I am so, so sorry for your loss.

Massage therapist and artist, wife to English DH since 2002, Mummy to Oliver Finn 10/20/07 and Eamon Anthony 12/2/2010
wholebreath is offline  
#16 of 18 Old 05-18-2010, 03:18 AM
 
wolfmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: in the land of perpetual fatigue
Posts: 619
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm sorry Sarah.

Peace and health, Jenny - Mama to my love 12/01, my lovely 7/04, and my beloved 10/06, and one angel. ****5****10****15***20****25****30****35***bellycast.gif40**
wolfmom is offline  
#17 of 18 Old 05-18-2010, 10:21 AM
 
Funny Face's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: None of your beeswax!
Posts: 2,439
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm so sorry.

I hope you the process goes quickly and smoothly for you.

Most people I've heard recommend waiting one cycle to TTC for dating purposes.

We think greenearth.gif  Gentle mama to 3 amazing kiddos. Rainbow.gif Recovering from religion. heartbeat.gif

 

LIFEschooling. upsidedown.gif Extended NAKing. winner.jpg Graduated cloth diaperer. cd.gif

Funny Face is offline  
#18 of 18 Old 05-18-2010, 03:12 PM
 
hannybanany's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,911
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm so sorry

My oldest DD was conceived two weeks after my first m/c (natural), and obviously that turned out well.

I just had a d&c this morning, and after miscarrying naturally at home, three times previously, I was very pleased with my experience today. I wish you the very best, whatever route you choose.

mama to two sweet girls love.gif 8/05, fairy.gif 11/08, a handsome little guy babyboy.gif 4/11, and expecting another 5/13
always missing our angel1.gif (11/04, 4/07, 8/07, 5/10)
hannybanany is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off