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#1 of 60 Old 06-27-2010, 01:51 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I've been spotting since Wednesday and thought it was just from sex, but we went to the ER after I started feeling cramps and it turned out the baby died about a week or two ago. I just miscarried her about 30 minutes ago. We looked her over and she was so beautiful and perfect looking. We are very sad. I guess we will try again after hubby finds a job and we have insurance. At least now I know I need to make sure my blood sugar stays low before my next pregnancy and to make sure to stick to a strict diet.

Poor DH lost his donuts, too much for him. We went to Krispy Kreme after finding out. They sent us home to miscarry or have a D & C in the am. I have an appt. at the woman's health center at 8am. I'm glad we were able to have her at home.

I will miss all you wonderful mamas. I'm so glad I was a part of your group for the first trimester.

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Oh Cathy, I am so very sorry. What sad news. You will be missed around here.

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Oh my, I have hardly been here, but yes, you will definitly be missed. and healing to you and your family.

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Oh cathy.

Gentle hugs to you and hubby.

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Oh, no!
I'm so sorry.

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Oh man... I am so very sorry! You will be missed. I really enjoyed your posts and getting to know you better and the really awesome effort you made, especially our weekly chat thread. I hope your move and settling in and new jobs go well, and when you're ready to concieve again, that things work out beautifully and you have a lovely baby safely in your arms! Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss!!! - Jen

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oh cathy! i am so, so unbelievably sorry.
please don't blame yourself- things happen for unexplained reasons- please don't blame your diet or your actions. be kind to yourself

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Cathy, I am so so sorry.

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Oh NO, Cathy! I'm so sad You will be greatly missed. I'm thinking of your whole family and your beautiful angel baby today

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I am so, so sorry for you and your family! I know how very much you and your DH wanted this little one.

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Oh, no, Cathy...there are no words. I am so, so very sorry!

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Oh mamma, I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending much love and light to your and your family.

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Oh no! I know you were worried about the spotting I am glad you were able to have her at home too. I am so very sorry for your loss....

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I'm so sorry Cathy. I'm holding you and your family up today.

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Cathy, I am so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you were able to have her at home and have that time with her. You will definately be missed here.

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Cathy I am so sorry! Words are not enough.

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Oh no, Cathy I am so sorry for your loss, you will definitely be missed here. I agree with ein about not blaming your diet, be gentle with yourself. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Oh no, I am so sorry for your loss.

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Cathy- My thoughts and blessings are with you and your family. You have been such an inspiration to me as I lurk around my first DDC. Your posts made me smile and feel cared for. I'm glad your with family in NC. Sounds like you and your family will be truly happy there. Take care of yourself. Love yourself.

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Thanks so much mamas. We are very sad to not have our Christmas baby. My DS is taking it pretty hard, we're going to have to wait next time to tell him.

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Cathy, I am so, so sorry for you and your DH's loss of another little one and your DS's loss of a sibling. I hope all of you are able to be comforted and supported the way you need, especially you as you recover. You will be missed!

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I'm so sorry

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Oh mama. Words aren't enough.

I'm so very very sorry.



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So so sorry, Cathy Please check in with us later on if you feel up to it. I hope you are back in a DDC as soon as you're ready.

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My heart is broken for you and DH. I know that you will find the strength to carry you through such a hard time.

I am curious if the Dr's told you the miscarraige was due to high blood sugar? You do not have to answer if you do not wish but you said something about the high blood sugar and I have never heard of such a thing.

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I'm SO sorry, Cathy! It was really nice getting to know you.

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I'm sorry Cathy, words aren't even enough. Do you have a name?

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Cathy.. I am so so sorry to hear about your loss xoxo

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