I am really stressing about my baby shower in 2 weeks. I am very excited about it - lots of family are coming and it's my first shower ever. But I'm feeling kind of stressed about the whole weekend. I just found out that my husband's sister and fiance are flying in from Boston to come to my shower. This is only the 2nd time in the 8 years we've been together that she's been able to visit us here. DH's mom is also driving 5 hours and many members of my family are coming as well. My shower is at noon on Saturday.
Here's the complicated part: a friend of mine from high school (who is also pregnant) is driving 7 hours to come to my shower and also scheduled her own shower at her parent's house (2 hours from mine) on Sunday. So basically, I have lots of family coming to town and I have to bail on them half the weekend since I have to leave late Sunday morning to go to my friend's shower. I told her when she scheduled it that I would be able to go, but that was before I found out that SIL and fiance are making this huge effort to come down here from Boston. Now I feel like crap cause I'm barely going to be able to spend time with them. But I can't really tell my friend I can't go to her shower after she is driving 7 hours to come to mine. Also before I knew they were coming I said I'd go out to dinner with this same friend and a couple other friends in town for a "girls night" Saturday night after the shower. That was my friend's idea - I said maybe I could do it and she went ahead and messaged all my friends on facebook and set this whole thing up.
Now I don't know what to do. The ridiculous thing is that I wouldn't have been upset if she didn't come to my shower. In fact, I was assuming she wouldn't. I haven't seen her in probably 2 years. We talk on the phone every couple of months and I enjoy talking to her, but really she's not someone I would spend a ton of time with if she lived in town. We have very little in common anymore. So now I feel stuck in this commitment to my friend (who apparently cares more about maintaining our friendship than I do) while missing out on spending time with SIL and other family that I don't see much. What do I do?
Lori ~ wife to DH 5 yrs ~ DS born naturally 11.20.10!