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I would be concerned about your MIL's position on this and how it will affect his experience of being there. For me it was of utmost importance to find her a support person who was fine with her being there, was fine with natural birth and so would have the sense of when to take her from the room, but also when to explain things that were going on in a casual way so she wouldn't be scared. None of my relatives would be able to be cool about the birth, I think they would freak her out unnnecessarily and my MW pointed out that at a birth, anxiety is contagious so I wanted very much to avoid that vibe.
I was not able to stop being their mom (worry about them) to be able to focus on the birth itself. Ds#3 came hard and fast and I think it would have been a more positive experience for me had I been able to focus on what was going on with me instead of worrying about how my older two were handing the whole thing.
... though the children might do well handling it, it may get in your way of being able to be fully present with what is happening to you.
Mandy, Mama to three wildfire girls and another little one on the way. Due 1/30/13
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