Well, the update is that I have changed midwives.
I called the first midwife this evening to inform her. It was a rather awkward conversation, made even more awkward by the fact that she was expecting me this evening. Both me and my husband had it in our schedules for tomorrow evening. So yeah, there does seem to be a communication issue there.
I have found a midwife that I feel comfortable with, and DH also feels very comfortable with her.
She came to our home and spent over 2 hours just talking with us about our previous birth, our expectations from this birth, why I lost trust in the previous midwife, what my expectations are of a midwife etc. I feel like she is going to be a better fit, and she left it totally open. There was no expectations that I would take her after the initial meeting and she left me completely free to make the choice that suits me.... essentially just what I needed.
She also is not at all fussed about us calling her 'too soon' (this greatly reassured DH). She does want me to do a U/S next week to make sure the baby is vertex. From her palpation it feels like s/he is. His/her back is on my right side, but not posterior. So, now I need to decide how best to go about getting the U/S done. I am not too worried as it is a quick one and not one that can go terribly wrong, as in I don't think the technician will confuse the butt and the head. But yeah, I would prefer to not do it..... Grrrr.
So, I am feeling better having the awkward conversation behind me and MUCH better having a midwife that I feel safe with.
And I cannot believe that it is just weeks away until this is all going to be happening