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#1 of 14 Old 11-21-2010, 10:01 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I have a 5 year old, so I know what it's like to bring a baby out into the world...

 

I spent 2 and a half years battling secondary infertility and trying to be at peace with the fact that I would never bear another child. And of course, in spite of what the specialists said, I'm now 36 weeks pregnant. I can't really. fully make my nest until next week when my MIL brings all the old baby stuff to me (I got rid of everything since I thought we were done).  I had a traumatic birth with DD so I now have a very solid birth team and I've been practicing my hypnobirthing. I actually had a little of my mucous plug fall out over the past few days with some intense BH...and yet it still seems sort of impossible that this is happening to me.

 

Anyone else still in this phase or is it just me?

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I've got a bit of that going on, myself.  I guess I go back and forth.  I have days where it doesn't seem real, but I've also had a couple of days where I've been so baby-focused that I have literally tried to do a 5-kid head count and had to take a second to figure out where the missing kid was. headscratch.gif

 

We finally went out and bought a car seat today, along with a few Baby's First Christmas items and some odds and ends.  That felt kind of other-wordly.

 


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I am still in the same place-I'm going through the motions of getting ready, but I'm not really mentally there yet.  We were done-I was okay with that.  Up until last month I just kept thinking of all the things I wanted to sign my kids up for-even though I knew I couldn't really.  I hope it means she will just fit into our family without a big fuss, and I'd like that.  I have plenty of love for her once I have the time to focus on her-but with 3 others at home (we unschool) I don't have it yet.


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Yep. Denial land here. It's pretty crazy. My mom is coming in two weeks, on Monday. My EDD is that Wednesday. It's very hard for me to wrap my head around that.


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I can't imagine actually having a child...it is still completely unreal.


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It took going to our local 'Birth Circle' (community gathering of doulas, midwives, and moms) and looking at tons of pictures of newborns for it to start to sink in.  I've had all these tiny clothes and diapers and it took a little scrunched up sleeping newborn in a collage for it to suddenly *click*!  I want him SO bad now.  I got out my breast pump and tried to jump-start contractions this afternoon to see if I could start labor, lol.  I had some contractions but they died down when I took a nap.  Oh well.  I guess I can try again in a week.  ROTFLMAO.gif


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DDCC - most of the time i have "are you kidding me?" moments! it'll all seem more real later i guess.. i just feel like i'm totally unprepared and it's happening to someone else.

 

until i get kicked in the cervix, that is. then i'm pretty sure i'm going to have a baby sometime.


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I finally, a few weeks ago, connected to the fact that this wiggly being in my belly is MY baby!  It was kind of a giddy and overwhelming moment all in one.  Then last night, DH and I were going over some basic birth plan stuff since we discuss that with the midwife at our appt. today, and I was talking about how I want the baby put on my chest as soon as possible, etc., and it really, truly hit me that it will be MY baby snuggled up with ME!  Soon!  We are really, really getting excited about it. 


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I get that I am having a baby, but I don't get it too. I am at a very surreal place. I have gone throught the motions, I have almost everything we need at this point. I just started working on a birth collage and stringing a labor necklace together and it really hit me.....the fact that my whole reality is about to change. I have waves of anxiety now, never had before, weird dreams and fear around labor that are all deciding to come to the surface. I just really want to deliver around my due date so my birth team is here and I have some time off work to chill out. Although I am moving into that phase now. It is a really crazy feeling...Yikes!! 


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This weekend we got all the supplies together and it really hit me when I folded the first outfit that pretty soon someone will be wearing it. Our someone.


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this is completely unreal. My EDD is towards the end of the month so I still have "time" to reconcile. This is our first baby, and the thought of losing together time with DH made my cry a couple of times already. I got it that we are having a baby soon but I don't want to let go with just having the two of us, and now it will be the three of us.


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 I am having a really hard time wrapping my head around the fact that soon I will have another baby. Planning a vbac and even getting pregnant again has been a huge thing for me after my traumatic c/s with DS, and now I can hardly believe it is all going to be happening so soon.  I don't feel mentally ready, and trying to battle with my fear is leaving me exhausted. I haven't connected to this baby as much as with DS, and while I know I will love she/he when they are here, I don't feel like I really know the baby. Trying to enjoy this last bit of pregnancy as much as I can.


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this is completely unreal. My EDD is towards the end of the month so I still have "time" to reconcile. This is our first baby, and the thought of losing together time with DH made my cry a couple of times already. I got it that we are having a baby soon but I don't want to let go with just having the two of us, and now it will be the three of us.



I feel the exact same way!  We've been married for two years now, so we have had quite a bit of time together but still...sleeping in on Saturdays together, weekly date nights, eating whenever we feel like having dinner, our very active sex life, lol...all of that is about to change.  When I get sad about that, I try to think of how much fun it will be to go camping with Squirt for the first time.  And see Squirt's face light up when DH gets home in the afternoon.  And how sweet it will be for all 3 of us to cuddle in bed together.  And I also try to remember that speical alone time with DH will still happen, and it will happen again.  Kids are only at home for what, 18 years?  That's not really that long, in the grand scheme of a lifetime with the man you love, and they are independent long before then.  So, like everything with children...this time of such intense parenting is temporary.  Which makes it sweeter, too!


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I just feel like I've been pregnant forever, and I forget that there's a finish line in this race. The nursery is set, I have a carseat in my car, and we finally picked a name, but I can't wrap my mind around the idea that in a two weeks (or less!) I'm going to be someone's mom. This baby is very wanted and was very planned, and it still feels surreal that it's actually about to happen. I guess that's what labor is for - to give us the opportunity to "transition" into being mothers. 


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