Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, if I skip the ultrasound, I opt out of any possible risk that some doctor is going to shave off 2 weeks or more, from my LMP dates, which only matters if in my state, a midwife has no choice but to transfer me back to the medpros if I go past however many weeks the medpros on the licensing board have decided I am allowed to go... I am going to find out if she is bound by such limitations, and what the wrongly inflicted legal cutoff is, and if she is, I intend to pad my LMP date, so that even if I am a 44 week cooker this time, it will still fall within the strictures pressed upon us against our wills.
I happen to know there are plenty of women here who give birth at 44 weeks and later, and have to make sure I don't get tossed to the lions if I go past 42 weeks.
You can always wait to hear the heartbeat the old fashioned way, and I think it will be every bit as wonderful as some ultrasound. Cramps and sharp pains are normal. Even brown spotting is normal. Bright red spotting is the one to watch out for.
I sympathize, because this is my 3rd, and I still get to be a nervous wreck each time, in the first trimester, when I am cramping and having pains daily. I swear, you'd think I would learn to relax, but each time, I cry, and get all doom and gloom thinking something must be wrong. I finally found my old diaries from the last two times, and was astonished at how each time, I didn't remember that it was just like that last time, too.
We all do it!
My DH would like me to have an ultrasound, because he enjoys the picture... but this time, short of some real, midwife-suspected concern, we aren't doing it. Just to be on the safe side of the long arm of the law.
40ish raising 3 kids with the help of their loving father.
I have chosen to forgo ultasounds as I don't truly know if they are innocuous. I do know that cells act erratically after use of ultarsound technology (which include scan, doptone, electronic fetal monitor, internal electronic monitor.) Also, the false positives associated with ultrasounds are rampant. I know there is much good that can come from ultrasounds but I believe they must be used wisely and with great care. I also see it as a money making factor.
CrunchyNerd... Way to take the sitch into your own hands. I am an overbaker... My babies seem to like well-done. My mom was a patent overbaker as well. If I were dealing with the medical community I'd pad my dates too. What's in a bunch of number's anyway? I don't think babies are concerned with counting.
Jo - WOHM to E 12/26/10, Wife to SAHD DH.
I'm an overbaker-so far. I was 8 days late w/ DS. Both of our mothers were very late when we were born. Some people thought I was crazy & I could have talked my dr into inducing early. But I went into labor same day he was going to induce. I do believe for the most part-they will come out when they r ready.
Amethyst (May 2002)
Asheby "Bear" (November 2006)
Abbott (January 2011)
Atlas (March 2013)
For us it is not just the concern of the safety of the u/s but the actual procedure that sets the ball rolling. such as too much space in one area or the other leads to this concern and that test, etc. when in the end everything turns out just fine.
nicole , mom to 3 boys here on earth 9, 7 and 4.5 and 2 girl's 2.5 and 10/16/11. Always remembering my babies in heaven: Sam (9/7/05) at 12.5 wks , Morgan (2/13/06) at 6 wks , Emeric (8/9/10 at 17 wks) and Pepper (11/26/10) at 8wks.
1. I strongly feel that pregnancy is a special thing, shrouded in mystery and wonder. To me it feels like a violation of my baby to look at him/her while he/she is hidden and growing inside me.
2. Safety concerns, as others have mentioned.
3. Our midwives for our first child (in Toronto) gave us quite a bit of information about how often ultrasounds actually give people misinformation. This not only refers to issues of due dates and sizes, but to the amazingly high percentage of "problems" identified by ultrasounds that are not actually there when the baby is born. I don't remember the exact numbers anymore, but I do remember how shocked I was at how high the numbers were.
That being said, I totally hear your concern about wanting to "know" that your baby is okay. I spent most of my first pregnancy worrying that I wouldn't have a healthy baby, and hearing the heartbeat at appointments was wonderfully soothing for me. This time around I find myself much less nervous, perhaps because I've proved to myself that I can grow a healthy baby, so to speak. If you do choose not to get any ultrasounds, hearing the heartbeat might satisfy your need for reassurance, at least temporarily. I guess I feel like I should respect the visual barrier, but since my baby can hear me it's okay for me to hear him/her too.
All the best with whatever you decide!
DD 7/07 DS 1/11