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View Poll Results: Are You Going To Find Out The Sex Of Your Baby/Babies?
No, I am not getting any ultrasounds so I have no way to be sure. 10 15.63%
No, I like the surprise, I am telling them not to tell me or not to look 15 23.44%
Undecided 6 9.38%
Yes, I look forward to finding out 30 46.88%
Yes, we are finding out because my partner really wants too 2 3.13%
Yes, we are finding out because of medical or other issues that are affected by the sex 1 1.56%
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#31 of 41 Old 06-14-2010, 09:30 PM
 
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But that kind of seems like a silly reason not to find out - we dont' have to tell anyone what we've found out, after all.
Very true - but people have been asking me if we're having a boy or a girl literally since the moment I first told anyone I was pregnant, at five weeks, and I don't expect that to stop. And I don't want to lie to them, nor do I want to have to do the whole "we do know, but we aren't telling anyone" dance. So since we don't personally feel the need to know in advance, I figure it's just easier this way.
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DDDC because, hey, baby could come early, I heart Adorkable, and polls are fun!

Dh said, even before we started trying that he would absolutely want to know what flavor. I was pretty much against finding out, liking the idea of the announcement immediately following delivery better. But, I am so opinionated on most things and get most things my way concerning the baby that I will submit to his will on this. I couldn't know that he knew and not know myself so we will both find out.

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Being surprised is GREAT! Really, it was the best treat to have after all that hard work of labor and birth. For me, there's something different about the bonding during pregnancy when I didn't find out. I don't know. It was a little more spiritual because I had to visualize just the heart, mind, and emotion of the baby instead of specific a specific boy or girl. It's hard to explain, I guess.
thebeljur, thanks so much for saying this! It really articulates for me why it is that I don't want to find out before birth. In fact, when our DD was born, we were so thrilled and amazed by the fact of her existence that we totally forgot to check what gender she was until 10 or 15 minutes after birth!

I remember talking to my sister who found out with both her girls, and she said that although she didn't really regret knowing, she found that once she knew, her daydreams were only in one direction, so to speak, whereas before they had been fuller. So her pregnancy spiritual life was sort of cut in half. It's hard to describe exactly what she was saying, but I think you said it well.

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surprise, surprise, SURPRISE !

there's just something about not knowing that i love. i love thinking about names for both genders. i love wondering what i will have. i love friends not knowing anything about what to expect. for some of my friends, when they have a baby, there's really nothing to say because i knew the date of c-section, the gender, the name, the everything! i'm not anti-ultrasound, but i don't want to get a 3D one because it also feels like cheating. way too much of a sneak peak for my liking!

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i'm not anti-ultrasound, but i don't want to get a 3D one because it also feels like cheating. way too much of a sneak peak for my liking!
I think those 3D ultrasounds are so gross! The pictures they turn out are anything but cute, imo.

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If the baby cooperates we are finding out. Not because we want to know what to get for a boy or a girl it just drives me crazy not knowing.

My husband had the idea of finding out but not telling anyone else. It is a cool idea but I am worried I might slip and call the baby he or she on accident.

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In fact, when our DD was born, we were so thrilled and amazed by the fact of her existence that we totally forgot to check what gender she was until 10 or 15 minutes after birth!
Oh, I did this too! I remember thinking over and over, "Oh my gosh, it's real! It moves!" The nurses had to remind me to check.

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Since this one is a "tie-breaker" (we already have one of each) I am sticking with the surprise, and am also not intending to have any ultrasounds this time unless the midwife feels or hears or suspects something that would prompt her to recommend one.

DH is a bit disappointed, because he likes seeing the picture, but if this is our last child, I would like to see what it's like to go fully intervention-free.

Switched to a homebirth midwife last time, for my HBAC, but had already had an ultrasound, and found out the gender.

With the first, we wanted it to be a surprise, but then caved at the 20 week ultrasound, but her legs were crossed and so she remained a surprise til the end.

This one being a surprise just feels right! I really like the idea of that big news to tell everyone after the birth, instead of "Well, Little Aiden or Little Madison is finally here!" having it be the more exciting "It's a Boy!" or "It's a girl!"

And unlike the 1st run through, I doubt we will be dying of curiosity... we already have one of each, so it actually doesn't make a difference at all, which it is, beforehand.

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YES! We love finding out. We pick a name as soon as possible and start calling baby by their name. I also want to get dd used to the idea of having a new brother/sister, whichever it is. She's convinced this one is a girl, so if it's a boy, we're going to need a while to get her used to the idea of another brother. lol

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I voted yes, because I decided that because of my age, I'm going to do the quad screen, and anatomy scan instead of an amnio. If they can tell me then, we are going to find out.

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Oh, I did this too! I remember thinking over and over, "Oh my gosh, it's real! It moves!" The nurses had to remind me to check.
Yep, this happened to me too. I would have actually preferred that the midwife didn't say anything to me and just let me look when I remembered. What's the rush? I am not a big fan of interrupting or rushing a mama right after birth. She needs that time all to herself for her hormones to work appropriately and her body to transition without danger.
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