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Any mama's still nursing out there? Hows it going?

We are suffering from low supply and aching breasts here. I have a bit of a countdown in my head-- only 21 more weeks until my milk comes in again!

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We stopped about 2 months ago... Nothing planned, it just kinda happened. I still miss it sometimes, but it was hurting my nips and making me a little crampy. DS has asked for mikkies a few times, but theres nothing there.
I guess 3 years 7 months was a pretty good run right?

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I guess 3 years 7 months was a pretty good run right?
We made it 3 years and around 9 weeks. I guess I dried up very early because she started weaning herself then. Plus it actually made my morning sickness worse, so I was a little glad it happened, although I let her lead

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We stopped about 2 months ago... Nothing planned, it just kinda happened. I still miss it sometimes, but it was hurting my nips and making me a little crampy. DS has asked for mikkies a few times, but theres nothing there.
I guess 3 years 7 months was a pretty good run right?
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We made it 3 years and around 9 weeks. I guess I dried up very early because she started weaning herself then. Plus it actually made my morning sickness worse, so I was a little glad it happened, although I let her lead

Wow!!! after 3 years I wouldn't blame you at all for stopping!!! Congrat's on nursing for so long, mama's!

My son is only 11 months old, and supp and the reducation in nursing sessions has been absolutely heartbreaking for me. Nursies were his favorite! I wish I had gotten pregnant just a few months later-- I think I would have been ok with weaning mid 2nd year.

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We are still nursing. DD avoids answering when I ask if there is any milk anymore. I am pretty sure there is none, although I was able to squeeze a drop of colostrum from each nipple a few days ago. She dry nurses for a few minutes, several times a day. She is looking forward to when the baby gets here, and "there will be lots of milk, and I can share with the new baby!" She just turned 3.
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We're done here (my supply went south FAST), but DS is totally fine and hasn't tried to since he weanedd. I'm not missing it as much as I thought I would.

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We're done here (my supply went south FAST), but DS is totally fine and hasn't tried to since he weanedd. I'm not missing it as much as I thought I would.
no judgment here! Nursing has become so painful, that I can understand wanting to leave it all behind. I don't know how mama's with nb handle it with this kind of pain.

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It's been about two weeks since my son nursed last. He turned two last month. I will admit, I was HATING nursing (I hated it last pg too) and I definitely pushed a little bit. He was only allowed to nurse at bedtime, and I never offered. He seems to be fine with it; he has said my breasts were "Blech!" for a couple of months now anyway. But silly me, even though I was hating it so much, I'm really sad about it now that he's done!
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it's so emotional! My dh isn't all to keen on tandem nursing, but I still don't want our last nursing sessions to be these ones.

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Still nursing here, but down to once a day at bedtime only. I can only handle about ten minutes maximum, and then I'm about ready to crawl out of my skin from the pain. I told Lu she will be done with milkies at bedtime when she turns three (in November). She did not deign to answer. I feel like I need a break between these two nurslings, at least for a couple of months, and I don't think I'm cut out for tandem nursing. I am prone to getting touched out, and I honestly don't want Lucy near me when my milk comes in, since I'm afraid it will start some sort of nursing renaissance.

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We're down to once a day, most days, at bedtime. I haven't been able to squeeze anything out, and DS really doesn't answer when I ask him if he's still getting any milk. I don't think he is, but I'll let him continue to nurse to sleep for as long as I can stand it. I'm still not sure how I feel about tandem nursing, I'm hoping he gradually gets tired of not getting any milk, and weans. He's 26 months, so I'm just glad we've made it this far!

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My son is 14 months and is still nursing several times a day and a couple at night. It's incredibly painful and I don't think I have much but he is not at all ready to give it up. I'm not excited by the prospect of tandem nursing but I don't feel comfortable weaning him this young or weaning him right when there is a new baby taking over.
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I'm still nursing my 22 month old. We just nightweaned a week or so ago. He still nurses a lot, but not nearly as frequently as he used to.
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Still nursing my 5-year-old and my 2.5-year-old. The 5-year-old has cut back to only nursing once a day and sometimes skipping a day or two, so I don't feel quite so overwhelmed by pregnancy and tandem nursing as I did in the beginning.

I'd be thrilled to only be nursing two people in January instead of three!

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We're still hanging in there, usually for naptime. I pretty much only let her nurse (dry nursing) on one side at this point, since the other side is just too painful. I'm waiting to see how things go... I think I'll be fine either way if she decides to stop or if she wants to tandem nurse. I am really looking forward to actually producing milk again and not just being a pacifier!

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My 4-year-old weaned two months ago.

My 22-month-old is still nursing all the time.

It doesn't hurt right now, but there are times when I have to cut a nursing session short just due to the annoyance factor.

I'm assuming I'll be tandem nursing for a couple years like I did with all the others.

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We weaned about a month ago, and I definitely directed it which was something I hadn't wanted to do. But nursing was filling me with rage, and I decided it was better that my daughter have a calm Mommy than nursing. I miss being that close with her as she is not really a cuddler. I do not miss the nursing, and I am kinda ambivalent about having to start nursing again. I know as soon as I start it will be fine, but for now, I am not looking forward to it.

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My daughter will be 2 in a few weeks and she is now nursing only if she is overly tired or upset. My nipples have been SORE for several months now, and I am glad to get the relief. Not sure about tandem nursing...I'll see how things go when little one is born. If my daughter really wants to nurse, I don't think I'm gonna refuse her. I did notice a connection between the end of regular nursing and getting my "pregnant boobs" the big heavy, large nippled (and really nicely shaped) boobs back this pg.

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DS is 22 months and nurses 4-6 times a day, though only at bedtime does he nurse for more than a few minutes. I fully expect we'll be tandem nursing. I've had some nipple pain and I'm pretty sure I've been completely dry since about week 15 (22 weeks now, I think), but fortunately haven't had any of the nursing aversions or skin crawling. The funny thing is DS has lately started asking to switch sides - we've always nursed from only one side per nursing session, since early on I was concerned about oversupply. I'm not sure if it's that he just discovered how to ask and is practicing his new language skill, or if maybe I do have a bit of milk left.

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I just want to say way to go to all of you! I nursed my first through my entire second pregnancy and two years beyond that. It was a trying time physically and mentally. So I know where you all are.

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Still nursing here....only about once a day during the week. More on weekends. It hurts initially... a whole lot...but then it's fine. I'm really curious to see how DS "shares" with his new little sister. It will be interesting.

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I'm still nursing DD, who will be three in two weeks. She nurses pretty often - at least every morning, night, and after work, and throughout the day if I'm at home with her. Luckily, I haven't had any serious pain or nursing aversion so far.

I kind of doubt that she's getting much anymore, but it seems that she is getting something.

I've felt rather ambivalent about tandem nursing, and wouldn't mind at all if DD weaned. However, it seems unlikely to me that she will do so at this point. Nursing is too important to her, and I'm willing to let her go with it for as long as she feels she needs it.

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I actively stopped nursing DS (almost 2.5 years old) about 2-3 months ago. It really hurt and I was done with it. He only nursed in the evening before going to bed, so it wasn't much of a struggle since we replaced the milk with some bedtime formula (he is a really bad drinker so I wanted to supplement with some other fluid).
I do not know at the moment if I want to tandem. At first I leaned very heavily towards tandeming but right now if he is not asking after birth I will not offer him the breast. I think. Still have doubts about it!
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My DD is still at it (27mo), usually she nurses when she wakes up, before nap(unless falls asleep in the car), before bed and once or twice thruogh the night. I could do with out the night nursing! My pain went away pretty quickly around 15 wks or so. I don't think there is any milk in there anymore though, when i ask she either avoids the question or mumbles her answer. I was hoping she'd wean...I don't think it's gonna happen!
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I do not know at the moment if I want to tandem. At first I leaned very heavily towards tandeming but right now if he is not asking after birth I will not offer him the breast. I think. Still have doubts about it!

I'm having the same question... My DS is only be 11 months, but my DH is pushing me to just be done with it... and really doesn't like the idea of tandem nursing. He feels that he's nearly weaned now, so why to offer once the new baby comes? I'm pointing out that weaned to bottles of formula, is not really 'weaned' in the traditional sense.

Sadly, we are just nursing once per day now, and I'm not even sure that he's getting any milk. I think we could have kept going a bit longer, but once we started supplementing it was a slippery slope.

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Texmati- is there a reason he wants him weaned so young? I would personally be ok with my son weaning by the time the baby is born, he'll be about 18 months but I still feel like he's too young now and I don't want to create more rivalry by suddenly denying him what he's had and giving it away to someone else. I don't really want to tandem but I'm not willing to push the alternative so I guess I'm waiting to see what happens.
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I should mention that dh has been super supportive (read did everything but actually nurse DS) up till now.

I think it's a combination of it just plain hurting me, and the fact the DS get's frustrated when there's no milk/session ends early. Also, since we added the formula (3-4 weeks now?), the constant stress of watching the freezer stash go down is gone. We can feed DS as much as we want without stressing about how much I'll be able to pump later. and DS takes the bottle easily without a fuss, and doesn't seem put off when we replace feedings at the breast with bottle.

BF was so much less stress all this time, but now I can understand why DH thinks "why are you still doing this". I guess for him it seems like a win, win, win to just quit. Breastfeeding my ds after work used to literally be the best part of my day. I know I'm pregnant and hormonal, but it hurts so bad to give it up, not because of either of us are ready, but just because my body is working against me.

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I totally get that. I feel similarly torn but my son does not see the bottle as a substitute and even though I do give him some milk and toddler formula he seems to see that as more of an appetizer and having nothing to do with nursing. I frequently wish that would change because it does hurt so much and its stressful knowing there is little breastmilk available. I will say that family joy, love and lower stress togetherness rates above nursing to me in the scheme of things and I can see myself going to formula if that was the way to get my priorities. I'm sorry this is making you sad.
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