I just trying to be hopeful that maybe the u/s was wrong and my dates are off. I posted the "I'm out" thread on thursday after my 8 week u/s. the doc said I had a blighted ovum. Friday, I went back and begged for another u/s. The u/s tech saw something in the sac, and what "might" be a heartbeat, or she said it could be bloodflow? She couldn't quite tell. Anyway I know for a fact the night that I got pregnant was May 13th. No doubt about that. It was the only time we had sex that month. I didn't have sex since then, fearing miscarriage. I don't understand how I'm even supposed to be 8 weeks, when I count on the calander it's a little over 6 weeks. If anyone could give me some insight that would be great. Yes, I'm trying to grab on to any hope there is. I had a bloodtest on thursday, another today, and I go back to the OB on Monday to check my levels. I'm not bleeding. The u/s did show blood around the sac. I've been staying in bed, or on the couch. Still nausiated, boobs still hurt..although I guess I would still have that even if I was in the process of m/c. Thanks so much, and sorry to ramble and be a downer.
The o/b's office just called and said I miscarried. My levels went down to 34000. I was wrong about the numbers yest, I thought they were 3400.. nope 34000, but they were 36000. They wanted me to schedule a d&c. I told them I'd call back. holy crap.. I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have to research this first... I'm not bleeding. I need another ultrasound, maybe a 3d one or something, I'm shaking so hard
The doctor just called back himself, said that he doesn't feel it's healthy for me to have false hope. Said that whatever was in the sac yesterday was "debris" and that there is a 0% chance. I have an appt at 11:15 for another, and last ultrasound.
Oh honey, I am so so sorry. Btw, you don't HAVE to have a D&C if you don't want to, there are other options, ask your doctor about using Mistoprostol or letting your body do it naturally. The HCG levels - I dunno - that is a hard one because they start leveling out or dropping around 8ish weeks anyway. Make sure they do an in depth u/s so you are positive this time for your own sake. I am so sorry, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I would definitely research it, and please keep us updated (((((hugs))))))
Originally Posted by kalamos23
Oh honey, I am so so sorry. Btw, you don't HAVE to have a D&C if you don't want to, there are other options, ask your doctor about using Mistoprostol or letting your body do it naturally. The HCG levels - I dunno - that is a hard one because they start leveling out or dropping around 8ish weeks anyway. Make sure they do an in depth u/s so you are positive this time for your own sake. I am so sorry, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I would definitely research it, and please keep us updated (((((hugs))))))
thanks, I'm going to make sure they are positive! I'm not going to let them kill my baby if it's alive.. god I hope there is something there, some heartbeat today. If they insist on scheduling, I'm not going to do it for today..and if they insist, I'm not showing up. I'm so scared. according to LMP, I would be past 8 weeks! May 3rd LMP.. I hope my levels are dropping because of the week.
34,000 is a pretty high HCG level; I would definately hope they do a thorough ultrasound.
I hope you find answers soon mama. I know how stressful and awful this limbo is.
Originally Posted by Kailey's mom
thanks, I'm going to make sure they are positive! I'm not going to let them kill my baby if it's alive.. god I hope there is something there, some heartbeat today. If they insist on scheduling, I'm not going to do it for today..and if they insist, I'm not showing up. I'm so scared. according to LMP, I would be past 8 weeks! May 3rd LMP.. I hope my levels are dropping because of the week.
They can't force you to undergo a D&C. Not today, not ever.
If it comes to the point where you need to make that decision, I would ask for other options. You can be chemically induced, or you can wait it out.
There is no rush.
oh mama, i'm so sorry you have to go through this!
and i agree with finnegansmom, you don't *have to* do anything. i see nothing wrong with waiting it out or asking for other options, but of course do your own research about it so you feel comfortable with whatever you choose to do! at the very least, i would not do anything this week...give yourself some time, mama! this is such a difficult thing to go through...i'm so sorry
I'm so sorry you're having to go through this! I hope you get answers and soon.
This website may be helpful to you. There are stories of women that had a dx similar to yours and the baby was there and fine. So, you never know. It's worth checking out.
Also, I totally agree with the PPs! If it comes to it, not only do you NOT need to do a D&C, it's better if you don't. D&Cs carry risks. Of course, a lot of mamas just don't want to wait, as it's tough emotionally. So, it really depends on you.
Oh, mama! I'm so sorry. You do not have to have a D&C. If you feel the need to help things along you might check the recommendations in the book The Herbal for the Childbearing Years.
I had a similar experience with my third pregnancy. I chose to let nature take its course and not have a d&c or take meds. It took several weeks from the time I knew and the time I actually miscarried. It was hard to be in limbo, but I have never regretted letting my body deal with it on its own. Take some time to heal and be gentle to yourself. Pregnancy loss is devistating. I'm very sorry you are going through this. Don't let someone else push you into something you do not want to do. Trust in yourself and you body to know what's right.
seems that the sac itself is shrinking, more blood around the sac, and absolutily nothing except what looks like it "was" a yolk sac inside, although it is banana shaped. Nothing else. there is no hope. very detailed and heartbreaking u/s. Running a fever, although it could be nerves. I no longer even feel pg, just heartbroken. I most likely won't be on the computer for a little while, but I wanted to let you ladies know that you are all wonderful, and you have given me so much support. I appreciate it so much. I wish I was able to post some good news, but unfortunitly I can't. Maybe I'll be in a different ddc soon, but right now I really can't think that far ahead, I have a lot of healing to do. Maybe it's just my brain tricking me, or maybe it's starting, but I'm cramping now, and the nausea is gone, and it's so sad. Hugs to all of you.
I was going to write you privately and tell you that I had ultrasounds that showed similar, the first a 'small for dates sac' and then a week later, the exact same thing. Another few days later...no change, and my numbers were dropping.
It was devastating. I didn't have to wait long, but I did miscarry naturally, I did not consent to a D&C though I would have if I had waited much longer. So that choice is yours.
Originally Posted by Bexo
Kailey, my advice would be to WAIT IT OUT and hope for the best! You could choose to miscarry naturally, and if bleeding doesn't start within a week or so, I'd INSIST on going back for another ultrasound. If there's any chance there's a heartbeat or that your dates could be off, it is worth the wait. Hoping and praying for the best for you!
I had this happen with baby #1. He is now a healthy 10 year old boy. It is possible. Wait until your body tells you otherwise.
And my ultrasounds and blood tests were all bad. Then all of the sudden, they saw a heart beat and a VERY little one.
I was going to write you privately and tell you that I had ultrasounds that showed similar, the first a 'small for dates sac' and then a week later, the exact same thing. Another few days later...no change, and my numbers were dropping.
It was devastating. I didn't have to wait long, but I did miscarry naturally, I did not consent to a D&C though I would have if I had waited much longer. So that choice is yours.
Originally Posted by Kailey's mom
seems that the sac itself is shrinking, more blood around the sac, and absolutily nothing except what looks like it "was" a yolk sac inside, although it is banana shaped. Nothing else. there is no hope. very detailed and heartbreaking u/s. Running a fever, although it could be nerves. I no longer even feel pg, just heartbroken. I most likely won't be on the computer for a little while, but I wanted to let you ladies know that you are all wonderful, and you have given me so much support. I appreciate it so much. I wish I was able to post some good news, but unfortunitly I can't. Maybe I'll be in a different ddc soon, but right now I really can't think that far ahead, I have a lot of healing to do. Maybe it's just my brain tricking me, or maybe it's starting, but I'm cramping now, and the nausea is gone, and it's so sad. Hugs to all of you.
Just saw your update.
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