Wow, Mariposita! Yemma is a perfectly nice name and when you get such a clear message, what choice do you have? There's a strong little spirit.
The first time I got pregnant, I had a similar experience. I saw my little girl very clearly and she told me that she was there, but I had to really want her. I had just found out that my (now-ex) fiance had gotten his ex pregnant the same week as me and was going to marry her instead. How could I tell my baby that I wanted her when I was uncertain of my own ability to survive the heartache I felt? I miscarried minutes later.
Oddly, I had also seen my fiance's other baby moments after I conceived, this great, big vibrant baby. When I asked him if he was mine, he said no. When I asked if my fiance was his father, he said yes. I knew then what had happened, but my fiance denied it for a miserable month.
Sorry again to derail this thread! Shoots, I am so easily distracted right now! I couldn't not respond to this one.
Helena, living in Oregon with my darling husband and our amazing little boy, born March, 2011.