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#1 of 9 Old 07-07-2010, 11:15 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Knock on wood, but I haven't had any spotting/bleeding to warrant an early u/s this time like I did with DS. This also means that I probably won't hear the hb until around 12 weeks (prob. closer to 13w since I fudged my LMP by a couple days since I'm a VBAC hopeful and don't know where I'll end up delivering).

How do you stay positive about the pregnancy (I'm not religious)? I feel bad b/c I feel like I can't get excited until I know there is an actual baby in there. I've even been having nightmares and those don't help!

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How many billion people are on the planet? I seriously try to think about that. They all survived and chances are our babies will, too.

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I lost my last baby at 11.5 weeks pregnant, and I'm finding it hard to get really excited. I just keep telling myself that if it's meant to be, it will stick. Fingers, toes, and everything else crossed

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I have moments of doubting/wondering/stressing too. But then I remind myself that really this is something I have no control over. It's either meant to be or it isn't, and either way I should enjoy every moment I have with this baby.

Mommy to DS1 5/07 and DS2 1/09 , wife to an awesome hubby. And someone new coming in March!
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I hope your nightmares go away...hopefully this time period will pass quickly. I would probably stay away from google, try to stay busy..do spring cleaning early..lol..and maybe once fatigue and nausea hit (if you experience them) then you'll feel better (as crazy as that sounds..lol). Sorry you are feeling so anxious. (((hugs)))

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I have moments of doubting/wondering/stressing too. But then I remind myself that really this is something I have no control over. It's either meant to be or it isn't, and either way I should enjoy every moment I have with this baby.


This is how I try to think. My first pregnancy resulted in a missed miscarriage and by 11 weeks I was not bleeding. Its so hard to feel confident that there is a viable baby in there without seeing it after that. I tell myself that what will be will be abd I have no control over it. You have us to obsess with which is nice

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Trying hard to be positive as well. I won't be having an u/s, so I'm anxiously awaiting hearing this little one's heartbeat! And seeing as I don't have prenatal care set up yet, I'm not sure when that will happen. I do have an appointment with my pcp when I'm around 10.5 weeks, so may see if she'll give it a quick try with the doppler.

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I'm mostly trying not to think too much about it at this point. There's only a few things I can do for this pregnancy at this early stage - eat well, take folic acid, avoid a few foods... Other than that, focusing on March is just going to stress me out, so I'm not.

At this point, I can't picture bringing home a living baby next March, but I kind of figure I don't need to picture it yet. Sometimes, it is a good thing pregnancy lasts 9 months - long enough to get used to the idea!

Bridget - Mama to Noah (6/2/07) and missing Micah (stillborn 1/10/10).
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I had a miscarriage in March, no signs at all that anything was wrong until the ten week ultrasound. I found out yesterday that I am pregnant again. I am a little nervous, but mostly excited. I'm very hopeful things will go well this time. All I can do is try to be positive and treat myself well. Here's to hoping for the best and visualizing a happy, healthy, strong baby!
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