Okay, so I'll try not to write a novel, but no promises.
I'm high risk, for two previous premature births, so I plan to have a hospital birth with an OB and will also be seeing a perinatologist.
With my first, I saw a female OB that was fine, she's pretty good, but my insurance no longer covers her.
With my second, I saw a male OB that I quite liked, and he promised to take call to deliver my baby (which he did) but there are other docs in his call group I don't like. I'm still with this group for routine care but haven't had my first prenatal yet.
I recently heard from my mom (who is a CNM) and another OB that his practice is crazy busy and there are docs outside of his call group that deliver his patients. And when I went in to have my IUD out it was the other doc that I don't like and I found him patronizing, dismissive, and out-of-date as far as caring for patients in PTL. However I might be able to convince my doc to be on call for me again.
The other problem is that I haven't felt like his office is great about getting back in touch through emails. But I'm sure if I called it would be easier.
Another option I have is a female OB who is the mother of a child in my class. Possibly socially awkward. And she doesn't deliver at my preferred hospital or in fact at a hospital with a good NICU, so if I did have a preemie needing NICU care the baby would be transferred or I would have to deliver at the farther away hospital.
If I switch to her I also have to switch medical groups for my insurance and that would mean either seeing a new primary care doc (not that big an issue since I rarely see him anyway, but still establishing new care with a new doc) or I could switch to a group that would cover her, and my PCP, but I'd need to see a different perinatologist than the one I've met with already. I really liked this peri, and I felt like her plan for my pregnancy was a good one.
Argh, what should I do?